Met this guy months ago, we went out,then sorta just stopped talking no big deal. Fast forward months later we start talking again. We have both been hurt by infidelity, both of us are very guarded but I would like to move past that and explore where this could take us.

See we have everything in common, we both like the same music, both love fishing, camping, grilling, ice cold beer, love the same TV shows. There is chemistry, sex was great! I have told him that if it weren't for the things he has found wrong with me (to slim, I smoke, and talk too much) we would be perfect together. Of course he says he is just picking on me even though he does prefer a more full figured woman. Though I am aware of his statements, I don't intend to go eat a bunch of fricking twinkies to add pounds to my body. He hasn't said but I think it might bother him that I am just a tad bit taller than him.

I personally think we are both full of crap, we both say we don't want to be tied down, hooked up, whatever. I had kinda quit looking for a man and he just happened to give me a call one day and we started hanging out again. I would like to tell him that I wish he would give me a shot, I think we make a great couple.

Can't put my finger on it, there is something there but I don't want to be too agressive or too illusive either.

Call him!

Basically, TS is right. You need to tell this guy what you want. You feel that strongly for him, and you believe that you guys would make an awesome couple, then you need to talk to him and tell him. He has to decide what he feels is best. If he doesn't see it the way you do, then at least you know not to waste more time in him. You will need to move along. But you do need to tell him how you feel.

We just started hanging out again about a week ago and its like we just picked up right where we left off.

I was at work the other day and he texted me. "whats for dinner" I just texted back, hamburgers. We hadn't even talked about having dinner.

I know that he has exclusively dated another woman since we last saw each other so I think he really is looking for a relationship.

He is always telling me that he isn't wanting to rush into anything right now and that is not us talking about us its about us talking about relationships in general.

Of course as a defense I agree, which again is bull!

Why do people always want to try to take a relationship to "the next level?"

If you enjoy doing things together..... do things together. If you enjoy sex.... have sex.

But the things that you "don't like" about each other will start to matter if you move in together or get married. People try to change each other.

Stay single. Stay independent. Then neither he or you can start thinking that you can change the other person.

Be yourself and let him be himself. When you want to be together then be together. That does not mean you have to marry the guy.

Why do people always want to ruin a great relationship with thoughts of marriage?

Whoa! I wasn't even talking about moving in with him or getting married. I was talking about just wanting to be more open and honest about what it seems like were doing.

I just don't want to miss out on him if he is looking for a girlfriend and I don't want him to miss out because I am looking for a boyfriend.

I am no where near ready to move in and I probably won't ever be ready to get married again.