Maybe it's only me..don't know but somehow I'm not thrilled much about dating or finding someone or just having women responding to mails etc..just became too predictable and it's like a game I'm tired of going through talking about if I have any dogs or how to pronounce my first name and my favorite music.

Seriously, I'm not trying to offend anyone or make think that it's not worth to effort to try talking to me or mailing me or anyone else, I'm just saying that it' became such a routine now (2 years?) that I'm just exhausted running the same tape over and over.

It also made me less responsive and less excited to get a reply or just someone showing some interest towards me.

I remember back in the day I used to get excited about replies and seeing if anyone checked my profile etc.., now I feel numb to all this..not sure if it has to do with the time spent alone or the time spent on dating sites and getting the same replies or just not seeing much of hope getting anywhere with it, so I don't know.

If you have been for at least a year, on a dating site, don't you feel like it's more like a routine now and your expectations has winded down a lot ever since you first joined?

Don't have expectations bro............

Reality sets in after awhile -- I've been on this site since the end of 2006, and have yet to run into anyone compatible with me.

And it's no different on any of the other sites I've tried.

I've basically just come to grips with the fact that the kind of person I'm looking for is not going to be on a dating site, if she exists at all.

But I love this site for lots of other reasons....

It happens...but don't just give up Atlantis, there actually are serious-minded women here

Don't look for love. Love will find you.

Just enjoy what you do, keep learning new things, and just put out good vibes.

Hang in there!

My level of excitement goes up and down too.

If you meet someone that seems to inspire interest and curl your toes, you will be back “up” again.

I tend to lose interest too by investing in shallow conversations about music and the weather. I really get what you are saying.

Don’t lose that zest though. It’s what makes life fun and gives us anticipation.

we're all biotches who only want your big, fat, ...wallet!!!!!

well after the last few experiences i had talking with people again i just come to conclusion that i stay here just for my friends I met a few good ones from here. but lately seems like all the guys i talked to where all jerks in one way or another

I don't have a wallet. No wonder I don't get any

Not that I have high expectations..before someone misunderstands it, but just what I get is like very predictable now so it's not like I'm gonna read something interesting. I'm sure it's true from the ladies' side, not really getting very thrilling and interesting mails from guys, it just gets very predictable and it gets hard to respond to the same questions over and over.

I mean, I appreciate the interest but these sort of mails get very tedious.

Yep. Sometimes, when I do receive an email (which is rare) - I think, *sigh* "Ok, what'cha got???"

It's not a good vibe to have but it I know the moment will pass.

I think the hardest thing about and also the best thing is that we get to meet and enjoy many perspectives the real downside is when someone lives thousands of miles away......and hard because physical meetings get more expensive less freuquent, compared to half a day.....easier and still probably even less frequent than 3-4 hours....or even factor in that its hard to do things or make things happen because of obligations, etc....but I get what you are saying

Like you said it's a game...

and in our case.

do not pass go do not collect 200$

I get 2-3 emails a day from India wanting to make frenshp wit me.

Besides that it seems like usually the younger guys take a look at my pics and email me something stupid like "hey" and I just ignore it. I've never had any expectations of this site except to meet new people, which I have

Can't even tell you when was the last time I got an email worth responding to.

BUT when I send out a first email I always make sure it's cute, clever and well written. After all it is a representation of me.

Well, don't get me wrong..I had a good conversation with a few, but if I have to compare they were really like 1 out of a thousand.

u still can always come here to mass lol

daily grind

much as in life, theres the beginning (exciting), middle (grinding), and end (liberating)...

you are in the middle, and it may last a long, long time

roko

<----5 years looking, 2 + here and I have lost my flirt.
I understand what you are saying. It gets old after a while all the same old, same old "hey sexy", "whats up" "Loved your profile". And they wonder why when I ask them, " What about my profile did you like?" and they do not have an answer, they get pissy. Its just old. And who wants to email and talk for months and they never show up to meet when they say they will. Or how about the ones that do finally show up and you realise that they are not who they say they are, or they poof. You never hear from them again after you tell them you are not going to put out after coffee. Old I tell ya. So, yes I am tired of seeing all the events going on around town and have no one to go with, tired of being alone every night and tired of having no one in Ohio to be mine and want me to belong with them. Ancient.

When you start feeling the way you're feeling you can do what i do.. Get outside more & just try to meet somebody.. I have better luck doing that then being on any site.. Plus i usually meet somebody who just wants somebody's company like i do.. Some harmless dates might lead to more if you really try..

I know what you mean though because i only been here 2 months & already i grew tired.. But i do try other ways to make up the slack.. That's basically what i'm trying to tell you..

But i'm not gonna lie there are some chicks on this site that i would not mind checking out..