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Found out my ex is "In a Relationship
 " I have felt everything.....(mostly) "Good for Her"!...to "Poor Bastard"  ..and (pre-emptive strike) wouldn't be honest if I didn't admit to a little regret and loss. How do "you" feel about wishing a friend whom you "really" wish well...."good luck". *nothing "cliche'" please* |
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Nothing wrong with feeling some loss...regret, um - not such a positive emotion but understandably part of the process. I've been fortunate to be able to move on quickly and not feel 'too much' loss, regret... mostly because I've learned to look at past 'friends', 'lovers' as a sort of learning experience, not so much as a failure. So wish her well send happiness, peace, all that good stuff... it's part of your 'healing process ' also. All the 'good luck' you send her way, the universe will notice and give to you. So...it's a win - win situation.  |
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Aaaaw thanks Lori!!!!!....Very sweet!
It really WAS a disclaimer though. I suppose one must admit to their hurt to validate their (duh "my") flippancy. I musta been looking for "some" reaction or acceptance....or I never would have spoken in the first place.  This self examination and denial is driving me nutz! Shoulda stayed out of the psych ward in Jr. College..eeh? 
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Oh, whew....(wiping brow)
After I hit send and re-read I thought maybe you would find it 'cliche' and give me a tongue lashing... Admitting hurt..well it hurts. Self examination has a fair amount of pain involved, for me it does. I must enjoy pain to some degree, as I constantly find myself doing it... 'it' being self examination. Eh, hasn't everyone been in a psych ward a time or two?  |
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 You had me at "tongue lashing"..... You had me at "tongue lashing"
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Methinks that anyone who claims they no longer
have any feelings for someone with whom they once did, is in denial. Just because it is over, does not mean it never was. So I think you are perfectly normal in this respect. However. Surfing on dirt raises my eyebrows a wee. |
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Having feelings and pining away are two different things, I think.
I care about all I had been 'close' to at one time. I don't want to 'be' with them now and wish them the best. It wasn't always that way..it takes time to be able to do that. Some are never able to, particularly if they are the one being 'dumped'... seems the anger brings out the ugly and hatefulness. I've seen some years later, still wishing 'bad' on that person. Yet, they wonder why they can't find happiness.... The rule of three is good to remember here: What you put out 'there' comes back three fold to you. *Eyebrows raised* |
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Having feelings and pining away are two different things, I think. I care about all I had been 'close' to at one time. I don't want to 'be' with them now and wish them the best. It wasn't always that way..it takes time to be able to do that. Some are never able to, particularly if they are the one being 'dumped'... seems the anger brings out the ugly and hatefulness. I've seen some years later, still wishing 'bad' on that person. Yet, they wonder why they can't find happiness.... The rule of three is good to remember here: What you put out 'there' comes back three fold to you. *Eyebrows raised* well i hope u dont give up on what u are doing |
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