to yourself.

We all talk about other people and our exes and past girlfriends and "evil doers" but it's not so common to see people honestly admitting their own mistakes and other various problem areas.

Well, the first thing to state is "Nobody is perfect". One thing I've noticed, that some people actually exaggerate their own problems or think, that their problems are too big and too much for anyone to handle.

The opposite is true too. Some people are incapable or just dont' want to admit (not even to themselves), that they have problems they - at least- acknowledge they exist and needs some attention. Nobody has to know about it, but the first step for someone to better himself or herself is to be honest to themselves, sit down or lay down and think over, try to put yourself into someone's else shoes and see yourself and hear yourself from the outside and decide, if you really want to be with "that person".

Physical disabilities or exterior problems are usually less of the problems, I think the majority of people are more likely to be suffering a psychological problems when it comes to meeting someone new or trying to start something over or just to be able to project true feelings.

I kinda believe, that if someone doesn't want to deal with his or her own problems or simply deny the existence of their own faults or act like they don't exist will have consequences anyway, especially trying to accept someone else into their lives. What it comes down to is, that you might view yourself as a nearly perfect person and somehow have this superiority feeling that others just simply doesn't deserve you or unable to reach your expectations. Eventually everybody starts to look the same to you, even though you might believe that everyone is an individual, except the fact, that you might believe that no one is as much "different" and unique as you are.

The other side of the spectrum is, the entire opposite. Since you exaggerate your problems and treat them as a major deal breaker no matter what, and you think you have been somehow stigmatized so bad, that you'd believe no one would accept you with these shortcomings. Eventually, this will start to have such a negative impact on you and your personality, that it will degrade every other positive aspect of you, including your way of life and such things as your job performance and your outlook of your future. Depression, anxiety and uncomfortable in social life and situation, you withdraw at the first sign of criticism and you always manage to make your own little conspiracy theories about how the entire humanity rejects you and it's all due to this fault or problem you might have, which in reality has played no role whatsoever, it's just you and your increasing disbelief in yourself and your gradually made up false theory that got a hold on you so bad, that you are unable to escape.

These are only 2 major things I was thinking of, while being entirely opposite but both wreak havoc on your perspective and expectations and will definitely cost you when it comes to trying to find someone or trying to build a new relationship with someone new.

Now, since I wrote this in a 3rd person view..that doesn't mean that I am somehow different or free of any of these "mind diseases" and sometimes these things can be combined, even if they are entirely opposite to each other, since we all like the enlarge those things we do excel and miniaturize those, which we don't.

Ok..just running my thoughts tonight..I figured I type it out, maybe someone gets something out of them and gains some benefits.

I'm a dreamer

dreaming with you

I spend to much time at work or doing other things,
when I should be spending time with my kids.

Sexually Obsessive.

I have a big mouth

I'm too quick to latch onto to someone after dialoging only a few times, because I want to have relationship so badly. Not used to playing the field.

I spend way too much time analyzing everything because I'm so afraid of getting hurt.

I have a tendency to keep things to myself if something is bothering me.

i'm really picky and insecure


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Do you analyze yourself? And then others? How about situations? Yeah there is such a thing as over-analyzing and looking too far deep into things, when it's really not that deep at all. Maybe you look for more meanings even though there is none, or you expect to find some sort of a hidden motive, "a conspiracy theory", even though there is really nothing there?
I had someone, who thought I was cooking up something deep down with a different motive, and to make it worse, even just trying to explain myself made it worse.

i do that too. i'm like a chess player coming up with all of the different moves that could happen. since very few seem to have a positive outcome i tend to go with inaction.


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That is pretty much the gist of it.

But I keep it internal, I don't drag others into it.

I eat WAY too much Garlic.

I wanted to add unless someone really makes me mad I let them have it no hesitation

I'm way to shy for my own good. I'm also told by many of my friends that I'm to quiet. I have a tendency of sitting and waiting for others to get everything out and find out more then I ever want to know.



And I put way to much garlic in my food when I cook lol

Oh, do we have all day?

I am over analytical about everything in life.
My emotions are hard to read. Making joke telling somewhat weird at times.
I am stubborn to a fault.
I am confrontational in my approach to opposition
I am not afraid of much
I am too blunt
I am not as organized as I wish I was
Lately my emotional eating has taken a great jump since I quit smoking
Lately I cry at stupid commercials and every damn movie it seems

lol but you forget I'm shy. I'm ok talking on here but when I see people face to face I turn red and can't think of a thing to say.

I also make way to much when I cook lasagna. Wait that is a perk not a flaw... at least in my opinion. Seconds the next day lol.

There are times I can be an attention whore. I think it's to fill some void I have in my life.