Alright, let's see if this happend to anyone else.

What if you tried your luck with a woman and at the end..she sorta dumped you so you had a few dates and you liked her and she also seemed to like you. But a few weeks later she just disappeared you tried to contact her but there was no response.

So anyway, you closed that chapter..you turned the page and consider her as someone who is gone and it's time to move on.

And then one day out of the blue she pops back on after long silence again and almost acts like nothing happened and wants to talk to you like she talked to you before, meet you, etc etc etc.

Would that mean that she found someone else while you were dating her, but then broken up and now she is running back to you, because she knows you had some feelings for her and now she is desperate or thinks she made a mistake or does she just doesn't know what she really wants?

Bingo.

Either that or the guy dumped her and she's looking for a consolation prize so her ego isn't crushed....but that's just a guess.

could be both reasons or she is just crazy.

Personally, I wouldn't be able to stop talking to someone close (out of the blue) and then have the nerve to contact them again like nothing was wrong....but that is just me

FORGET HER! MOVE ON.....

Trying to figure out why people do what they do is, in my experience a huge waste of time. I'd rather put that energy into myself.

Debbie knows.
don't you worry Debbie, I'm old enough to see through these games, I just wanted to see if my suspicion matches with others.

Ya I get those weird game players too I just let them go

I had that happen. We had dated for 6 months, and he up and disappeared. I find out he joined the Army. He got back in touch when he was almost out. We went out for dinner, talked and that was that. Shrugs. He actually ia a FB friend, though I haven't seen him in years. Married, the normal stuff.

I was hurt when he left as he was my first real love. Now I remember him with fondness, but that song by Garth Brooks "Unanswered Prayers" comes to mind.

you were an option not a priority

see, I would ask, really. Go out on a date and look them in the eye and say 'so the what heck happened to you?, and why are you back?'
Sometimes you get a real surprise when you find out it's nowhere close to what you're thinking. I know that for me when my emotions are involved. Not saying you should do it, but I would since vested time in the person or relationship..

I guess that it's up to the individual, but I would at least ask what happened. It could be something totally different than what you're thinking.... I'm more inclined to give someone the benefit of the doubt at least once.

Hell I have had a guy do this same thing would not hear from him for a couple of weeks then out of the blue he text me...... act like nothing to it or some lame excuse now when he text me I just keep it to the basics hi how are ya ect....

I would think that she found another guy and used you as the rebound. Not fair at all. If I were you I would confront her about what happened and see what she says. Give her the chance to defend herself but I wouldn't want to be second best though. Everyone deserves to be #1 to someone. :)

I've had one doing that on and off for ten years now....

I have had that happen to me, I figure if they don't have the courtesy to say goodbye before they disappear then im done, I've played enough games to last a lifetime.

I would actually see that as a woman who wasn't all the way free when you met her. She had some stuff to clear up and didn't want to drag you into it. Figuring that if it is meant to be, it will still be meant to be later.

But I could be wrong.

I say trust your gut on it.

Well there really is only one sure fire way to find out? ASK! If she is wanting to start back up with you then I say you definitely deserve some explanation of why she disappeared on you. If none is forthcoming, then tell her hey...I like you, I thought we had something goin but you disappeared and I don't want that to happen again so I think it best we stay just friends.

$.02

Women aren't much different from guys when it comes to this. The motives may be slighly different. Usually guys find a quick rebounder with a chick for some quick nookie. They either go hunt some new meat, or hunt down some ole ex. Girls do the same for some attention and egoboost. She's totally rebounding you. Stay away.
I'm afraid if you ask you will not get the true answer. Best is to just keep your distance and not get your mind clouded and heart broken again.

Bing, bing, bing, good answer.

I wouldn't invest a whole lot in it but if she is fun to hang with. Might as well have a good time. People come in out of your life all the time.............