jeff and i like being married so much we're gonna add another wife. hows
that for ya marriage party poopers.LOL

It'like:

Turning in your keys to the playground door.

Setting your nuts on fire and counting on someone else to blow them out
for you!

Taking flight lessons and then soloing in a wingless plane!

Jumping out of a perfectly good airplane and relying on someone else to
pull the rip cord for ya.

Kidding aside:
Starting a whole new life with the most wonderful, beautiful,
compassionate, supportive, understanding and loving person that I have
ever met on this planet. This would be the person that I would die for
if I had to. These are the feelings that you have to have in order to
have a successful marriage. Without them you are only in a business
agreement.

Lakeman

so true

heatherrae wrote:
"jeff and i like being married so much we're gonna add another wife.
hows that for ya marriage party poopers."

Hey, I allowed for 25% chewy, chocolatey perfection. If you are counted
among them, I'm very happy for you. And, while I don't believe that
many people can make a polyamorous lifestyle work, I do believe that the
rare few who do are able to experience something wonderful that the rest
of us never will.

But, for those of us who are single, I don't see much reason to take the
legally binding plunge into marriage. I can have a loyal, trusting,
long-term relationship with a woman without marriage and be quite happy.
But, if things turn out to be "crap-filled," there's little tying me (or
her) to a bad relationship.

Here's an analogy: If I were to wager 100% of my money, and the payoff
if I win is the amount with which I started, why place the bet?
Additionally, if I lose, I forfeit 50% of my bet (which is a hell of a
lot better than loosing all of it, granted). And on top of that, the
bet has — at best — a 50-50 shot, and more likely only 1 in 4.
Nobody would gamble at a casino if these were the rules and the odds.

(Oh, and I'm not talking about the financial costs of divorce here, even
if there happens to be a similarity.)

Additionally, I have serious concerns about how marriage changes a
relationship. That intangible barrier to leaving the relationship seems
to make most people somewhat lazy in the relationship, tend to take
their partner for granted, and put less effort into growing as a couple.
It's not always like that, of course, but the tendency is there for many
people.

Further, I never want to question whether my partner is with me merely
because it's less hassle than leaving would be. And, I never want the
possibility for having similar motives for staying in a relationship
either. I think a commitment means much more if there's no external
restriction placed upon it — to know day after day that the commitment
exists because we actively choose it, not because we thought we wanted
it years ago and find ourselves "locked in."

That said, I would never tell anyone to not get married. I'll joke
about it, but in the end there are a lot of good marriages and I have no
place to tell others "it's not going to work." And, just as I want to
be allowed to make my own mistakes, I consider it everyone's right to
have that same freedom.

i'm so happy whenever i see someone else who understands polyamory thats
so wonderful! i wasnt makin a stab at anyone though i was just tryin to
be funny. i def think less people should get married. most do it cus
they feel like it is simply the next logical step in an intimate
realtionship but this is not always so. marriage is not for everybody.

Oops, sorry if I made it sound like I thought you were attacking anyone.
I started off tongue-in-cheek, but moved into a more serious tone rather
quickly. Most of my previous post was just me rambling, not in response
to anything specific you had written.

As for polyamory, I find it quite fascinating in all its varied flavors.
I'm not sure it is a relationship style that would work well for me, but
that doesn't diminish my appreciation for it. For most people, finding
compatibility and common ground between just two people is an
overwhelming task, and to add a third person to the mix often results in
a big mess. But, that doesn't mean that I think it's impossible or
without merit.

Preach on Mach....Preach on Brother...

Marriage is like seeing a pyschiatrist .... EVERYONE should check in
once .. :) lol

indeed. something beneficial about polyamory on those points is that you
are not putting all your needs on one person. if someone isnt in the
mood or isnt available to talk or spend time with you. you still have
someone. you have to be past jealousy issues though. if you havent
overcome jealousy its not the lifestyle for you.

its like death. the sex goes away, the *****ing starts, and she gets fat
and wants all my money.

I'm definitely not cynical when it comes to a long-term commitment. I
really look forward to that bond.

its what you make of it. if one person gives up though, your done for.
takes a LOT of work by both people.

yeah, I know.

I'd answer you but i've never been married

...........I've never been married, but the thought of marriage sends
chills down my spine. I think that I would prefer being hit by a mack
truck, brain surgery w/ a cork screw, indefinite stay @ looney bin R us,
or etc.

Awwww It's not bad!! Just invision getting a root canal every day for
the rest of your life! You will be fine!!!...

"getting married is like ordering a burger from Burger king, oh man does
it look big in that pic,
but oreder up and it is like you were ordering at the white castle!lmao"

are you talking about what guys call 6 inches???LOL

joyce are you saying some guys don't "measure UP" to what they say they
are? LOL

just asking what the post was about LOL

Ahhhhh....it's not all that bad is it? I think marriage can be awesome,
if two people who really care about each other and are willing to give
of themselves 150%, and vice versa. I treat him the way I want to be
treated..makes for a wonderful life.