Some ppl would say flattery will get you nowhere,do u believe that? Has flattery ever done anything for you? Well 4 me,hmmm; later.

as for me, flattery never works on me. i am always twisting it in my mind and trying to see why they would be nice to me in the first place. maybe i am jaded...but myabe it's just a matter of being careful.

There's a time and a place for it for sure. I love to be flattered by someone I know genuinely cares for me because I know it's coming from the right place.

Can't stand brown-noser's though! That gets you nowhere fast with me in the work world!

I rather think niceness should be accepted at face value and the merits of the individual rather than past experiences, but hey that is me. Besides, if you negate everything because of past experiences you lose out the what you could be experiencing.

I think flattery can get everywhere and nowhere fast.

true...i do need to let go of the past and let the brightness of others shine upon me.

i hope it happens for you

flattery and criticism....I'm immune

thank you...i will do my best.

Flattery will get you no where!

To catch my eye, a person needs to bring more to the table than a talking game; education, career ambitions, having a good soul and the ability to "say what you mean and mean what you say". Integrity!

You are so cute when you say smart stuff!

Hummmmmmmmm to me Kindness will get you farther then sugar coating words you do not even mean...... now if your words are real and heartfelt then it is different....

I think it needs to be defined about the difference and/or contrast between "flattery" and "sincerity."

To me "flattery" means to grab a shovel and start slingin' it because you are expecting something good in return, and are trying to manipulate a positive result, by a hidden agenda, clever or not.

Sincerity means to me that you mean what you say, every word, you are communicating your earnest feelings, because you want to, you have to, and you expect nothing in return, and you know the response may be positive or negative, and you expect either.

So, that said. Flattery might get you somewhere, but I'm pretty sure most religions will tell you that it is a dishonorable and dishonest practice. Sincerity just seems more honest to me, and that is why I never sugar-coat anyone in platitudes, I tell it like it is.