Looking for excuses...

OP you're obviously just looking for some kind of attention.

A. Anyone with an IQ above 50 knows cheating is wrong.
B. The fact that you asked means you're thinking it's possibly an ok idea for your particular situation.
C. If it's that bad you already know you need to end the relationship
D. If you're married it would be my advise to be divorced before starting another relationship.

the only good answer i ever heard or seen when asked why do people cheat is,because they can.

I kind of just thought the OP introduced an interesting topic for discussion,,dont quite understand why people are making the general topic personally about him,,,

not everyone thinks cheating is a black or white issue so I think its a cool topic,,,,

I agree that the topic may not be about him or that he is considering cheating; maybe someone cheated on HIM and he wants advice on how to handle his situation.

Cheating is a black and white issue however. It's amoral. Anyone defending cheating has pathology (or a sickness) in human relationships. They don't process emotions the same and have tendencies of being apathetic, self-serving and narcissistic. I’m only partially through my psychology/Life Coach training and that was taught on – oh, I don’t know – day ONE!

There are CHEATERS ON HERE NOW...every site, everywhere.
And they are to me CHEAP MINDED PEOPLE WITH FAKE HEARTS AND USE ANYONE AND EVERYONE FOR THEIR OWN PERSONAL GAINS.
I WISH MARRIED OR SEPERATED PROFILES WERE ALL IN A COLOR,,,LIKE RED.
So one GLANCE,,,everyone would know that,,as SO FEW ADMIT THAT, even if its listed IN THEIR PROFILES,,,
PLEASE LADIES AND GENTLEMEN,,DON'T TELL ""ME"" YOU LOVE YOUR SPOUSE IF YOUR LOOKING,FLIRTING,TOYING, RAPPING TO THE SAME SEX MEMBER HERE
THAT YOUR SPOUSE IS!!!!! YOUR IN THE FRAME OF MIND TO ""BE"" CHEATING,,,,WHY,,,BECAUSE DO YOU SHARE EVERY EXPERIENCE HERE WIZTH THEM?????
NO,,,,,,I REST MY CASE!
AND,,,THAT INCLUDES THE ONES LOOKING FOR A ""THIRD"" PARTNER IN THEIR MARRIAGE!!

Sorry folks,,my life here on Earth is to short to except that
we or ANYONE can EVER FIND A GOOD REASON TO CHEAT,OR PLAY...

GET A FUCIN DIVORCE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

interesting,,, all depends upon what one considers 'defending' cheating ,,,,, I dont think that cheating is a one dimensional action though,, I think it involves complex emotional, environmental and psychological processes

although cheating in and of itself is wrong,, when it pertains to relationships there are many other questions besides whether it is wrong or right,, like can a relationship recover, or does it mean the person should never be trusted,,etc,,,

I am a believer in free will so I think we ALL can change our behavior no matter what it is.. I think people can even CHEAT and truly be sorry and not do it again,,,these are those instances I consider terrible mistakes,,,,it is only when a person REPETITIVELy cheats that I consider it most likely a lifestyle choice that their partner should be aware of and act upon

cheating is unforgivable..

Cheating may be forgivable to some, but in my case, I would never be able to completely trust that person again and it would ultimately destroy the relationship anyway.

im new here but i dont agree with cheating that if u really want to be with the person your with you wouldnt do anything to hurt them

i would have to agree why ask a question like that

With all the people on this site who have been cheated on I think the only reply you are going to get is, "it's bad, there is no excuse for doing it".

I haven't been cheated on (to my knowledge), so it isn't only those who have experienced it.

May you never steal, lie, or cheat...If you must steal, then steal away my sorrows, and if you must lie, lie with me all the nights of my life, if you must cheat, then please cheat death because I could't live a day without you!

During my 21 marriage I never cheated once on my husband & honestly believe he never cheated on me. Now, I've got to admit once he thought I was cheating with a guy at work & we fought half the night. The next day I told the guy what had happened & being ticked that my husband would actually think I cheated I offered to sleep with him. Told him we'd already been accused of it we may as well just do it. This guy was a man wh**e & would basically sleep with anything. But, thankfully he told me if it were any other reason he'd love too but that he knew me too well & I wasn't the type to cheat & to go back to my husband & straighten things out with him. He turned me down!! I went home & talked to my husband & told him what had happened & that I was willing to cheat on him because I was hurt that he'd accused me of doing something I hadn't done. I did once have an affair with a married man when I was 16. As far as I know his wife never found out & I wouldn't do it today.

That's nice Ocean...



I agree with Cher Motown... I've never been cheated as far as I'm aware of either so that has nothing to do with it...

If I want to cheat then I don't want to be with the person I'm with so I should end the relationship rather than trash the meaning of "relationship".... in my opinion...

You're asking a q about this? If it's time to leave, unless you can't for the present moment, no excuse. In that case- don't.

Okay, here's a scenario. You and your S.O. are on the outs. You haven't slept together in months. The relationship is essentially over except for signing the papers. There are no kids involved.
You meet someone who is everything you've ever wanted in a partner. And the relationship between you is heating up.

Is that cheating? Does sex need to be involved before you consider it cheating?

In my opinion it's not cheating if you don't live together and/or you've started the divorce process.. but if you're living together and it's just that you're not getting along or having sex, I don't think that's good enough... A lot of relationships go through a slump and sometimes it takes months to get out of it... I've known people that have gone years and years, yet they haven't cheated or been with another person...

I agree.