When you really are friends with an ex? No games, no stuff, just really become (through a process) friends who value one another.

I have this and am so grateful for it. Had to work through a lot of stuff.....do you have a real and trusted friend who is an ex lover?

my ex husband is a friend now. took a couple of years after the divorce but we were always good for our son. But now we are friends

I DID for about 8 years, but every girl he's ever dated after me gets all mad and jealous...SO imature; he lives in NJ and I'm in CA...I always just try to end things on good terms accepting that we aren't meant for each other; have a nice life.

hell if they were all that i'd wonder why we broke up

Great for you both! I think that what was there in the first place can be there after the break-up.

My x-husband and I have been divorced for 12 years. We have always been friends. Parted ways as friends, and raised our two children together, but separately. He has since remarried a lovely woman, and she actually just left my house. We even have holidays together. They are my family.

WOW, an example of how it can be!!!!


Love should enhance, not diminish, even when it goes it's separate ways. Thanks!

I wished I had that relationship with my ex. But, we haven't spoken since November 2007. It's really been hard on the kids because it puts them in the middle & my youngest son was taken away from me for a year although I voluntarily gave up custody I wasn't allowed to see him during that time. It's damaged the relationship I have with my youngest son. My oldest was older & still keeps in touch on occasion. My children are the only family I have left & they are distanced.

From across the country???? Is he still in love with you and letting the new woman know that????

Actually have and ex bf that I still talk to normally once a week. Just friends nothing else but if there was anything I really needed he would be the first one there to help me. Regardless if it was money or broke down I know I can call him if I need too.

Matter of fact my ex the kids dad his mother lives 10 blocks away from me and every Thanksgiving I spend it at her house 19 years after our divorce and yes he is there with his g/f each time.... She is like the mother I never had and we are very close... Life goes on I wish my ex the best just because we could not live together does not mean he should not be happy with someone else....

I really like your attitude!! Last I spoke to my ex we were mad & said a lot of things that shouldn't have been said. We still have some unresolved issues we haven't attempted to work through.

I will be the first to admit it took me almost 4 years with my first ex in order to even have a normal conversation.

Then I realized that it was only making me bitter and it was time to let go and learn to move on. It is not always easy getting there and at times it has taken me a year or two with some but..... even I have to admit sometimes two people are just not meant to be together anymore.

I'm not perfect nor will I ever be but why should I wish them not to be happy when I would love to be myself. In order to be happy one must be happy within and you can not do that if your wishing ill to come to others...

I'm friends with almost all of the guy's I've dated. Sometimes it takes awhile to get there but it's worth it in the end.

I have kept in touch with a couple of ex's. We touch base, email usually, once every 6 weeks or so, sometimes longer. We ended up better as aquaintances then partners.

The other one has a standing threat of being shot dead if he ever shows up at the property.

We stayed friends from across the country...she told him she didn't want us to be friends and had the nerve to call me and tell me not to talk to her man! I explained there was nothing...her response, "Why do you feel the need to stay in touch than?" I think she's pretty ignorant personally...I mean, if you've ever been best friends with someone or in love with them, married even and ended on good terms and loved their family and friends, why wouldn't you want to know how they're doing? Why would I just delete them from my life? All we ever did was say hi on stupid myspace once in a great while or a text to check in here and there, not like we even really literally talked or stayed in touch on a regular basis.

My first marriage was the way too young thing going on. We parted as friends, took care of our Son and have remained friends. I go to her and her husbands house for coffee and laughter, and go to Blues concerts with them..Great friends.

My ex wife and I were married/knew each other for 26 years. We talk most every week, and when I go back to visit our kid units, I stay at her house....After I left her, we have stayed friends, because that just seemed to be the way it should be. We didn't hate each other when I left, so as a friend I forgave her, and we moved on.

Got one x who is now my very best friend bar none. We make much better friends than lovers.

The rest of em, I wouldn't p**s in their face if their teeth were on fire. (I don't believe in forgiveness)

Nope, when it's over, it's over, and I never want to see or speak to them again and vice versa.

(For those of you who will think there's something wrong with this, too bad, you live your life your way and I'll live my life my way and it's all good)

My doll says she will never talk to me again!!

When there are kids involved, its the best. Its so good for kids to see the love from which they were created and not think they came from a nasty or loveless relationship. My sons father and I still love each other very much and work hard together to do the best for our son...It is refreshing to know that the years we had together were built upon something that really was 'long term' even if the marital relationship wasnt.