I don't really blame men but the natural feeling comes to me when this happens to me to resent them i can't help it. I don't consider myself a whore. I don't take my pants off for anyone. I get trapped in the smooth talk sometimes when they say they could see me with them in the future. I don't like to think all men are liars. Thats how it works though sometimes, but i felt like you were being a little rude so if you could please not come off to me like that no disrespect.

If you take the time to build a relationship with someone before you sleep with them, you have a better chance of not feeling bad after. If you have committed sex rather than random sex, the other person probably has feelings for you, so you don't feel used.

I agree with lonetar, you can't blame men for how you feel after having casual sex. It's up to you to stop doing things that hurt you. Decide which is more important, giving in to your primal urges and then feeling like crap later, or restraining yourself and demanding to be treated like a human being. No one can make that decision but you. Best of luck to you in the future.

LA, you would make an excellent marriage and relationship counselor. Totally serious.

No offense to you Kelli but after reviewing your pics you have on your profile...I will just say you get what you ask for...those pics aren't gonna get you anything but dirt bags

Well then you tell them you can see having sex with them in the future. It's not rocket science.

Have you heard the old adage about free milk and a cow? Just saying...

The only one hurting you is you.

I'm gonna have to agree with him on this one


You gotta make them want your mind before your body. With pics like that (and I can only imagine how you might talk to them) you're setting yourself up for exactly what you're getting.

Thanks. Ironically, that's what I'm considering going back to school for, a degree in counseling.

Sure your right, but sex I wouldnt say is a casual thing for me. Ive been used and lied to. Ive been kept around for it and then i was tossed to the curb.

well i felt a hint of stupidaty within your post from the way you suggest you feel men, not the stupid men youve dated, but men, take advantage of you vunerablity (clotheslessness)

if you date a guy for 4 weeks and he doesnt demand that you remove your clothes, then the chances are he wont end up being a sexual basterd. he might be a bastered, but at least he wont make you feel sexualy used.

if you cant get to know someone for 4 weeks without getting your clunge out, then you only have yourself to blame.

No one is going to automatically respect you, it has to be earned. Work on getting their respect first (this takes time) and you will be much better off.

I didn't come in here to be called stupid. I came in here for sincere advise so please if you could refrain from replying back to me. You don't have to but just know that if you do I won't take what you have to say worth a crap. I'm sorry if I'm being rude but I'm genuinely hurting and you aren't saying anything i feel can help me.

if you feel you're being used it's only because you're allowing it, but you know that. start by having more respect for yourself, it will go a long way towards attracting someone who really cares about you.

oh, you want advice
1. how about, look at the things you do and the actions you take
2. stop shagging every man you like as a form of showing that you like them
3. dont be so suprised that once youve given these men your lady garden, they move on to the next easy lay
4. have some self respect
5. dont pick on lonstar25, hes a right bastered when you do

lady garden...thats hilarious...never heard that before

I'm sorry if im not coming off the way i intended. But I don't meet up with a guy normally and then talk then go to bed with him. I try my hardest to get to know them and wheni feel like i can take it to the next level with them and i feel I can trust them I let them know and it's rare to find a guy that will share that with you and still come around and be what he said he was. I seem to have bad luck. I'm a vulnurable person in every way almost only because I have had an abusive experience in the past Ive come to that realization. I know i must work on it, but it really hurts when you get lied to over and over again because the guy takes your vulnurability for stupidity. I have to fight myself with that thought saying maybe i shouldnt trust him or i should. Ive spent a loooong time not trusting people and when i decide to it back fires. I feel like i was giving out the wrong message

Me neither. I like it. I'm going to start to referring to mine as that.

Your right i am allowing it but i was in a state of mind of i didn't know i was allowing it i thought things were growing.

Oh, things were growing alright...sorry couldn't resist

I really don't find that amusing in the least bit :(