you can't control divorce. Telling someone they aren't allowed to get a divorce would be a disaster. It's up to the couple to get counseling or end it.

Dear friend,iam enough openminded to accept the facts.it is not like agree with me or u r wronge.definately every culture is having some good to offer.basically iam having so many forigner friends,close to me....but but still that question remains...how to save or control divorce in west where its creating bad impact on life of every member of the family?

Sometimes divorce is best for all involved (kids, spouse, family and friends)

Couples can live unhappy and it will effect those around them.

My friend, it's a big huge world.. Why try to control anything? It can't be controlled.. Just like in your country you can't control the corrupt, here we can't control divorce.. We don't try, it's not worth the effort.. People are dumb, they make dumb decisions.. Children are affected, sometimes negatively, sometimes for the better.. Whichever it is, strong people survive, wimpy people find excuses and someone to blame...

Well yellowrose,thanks.I agree,sometimes divorce is for betterment for family and kids.but then that question arises from which I started this topic.mens can mangage sometimes.but what for that lady after 38?when kids r on grown stage and wants to go free......then then that same lonliness to her?....once again surfing or searching on community sites for partner?...if got good one then fine,but if not...then once again divorce?...from where the issue of old age homes arises......what is the social backing in west for that female after 38 when she remains alone and lonely at home?...iam not hinting or taunting.but iam seriously curious.

Are you kidding? After 38 is a big deal? What about men? Most men don't age as well as women so aren't as attractive to their age group... Not to mention a lot of women are very successful.. compare that to the men that are available and probably not as successful.. Get over the "women" thing, "men" aren't all that in most cases so it is really EVEN....

I'm sorry to interject, I just had to say, isn't it ironic that the subject of this thread is, "Strange...but fact"??? How very, STRANGE.....

Friend,iam stupid,if iam saying allwell in india.no corruption,no divorce,no cast issues.......it is there .surely there,but iam highlighing some good social arrangements which keeps people intact or bonded.besides 2nd largest in population,the problems and issues which western people r facing r minor yaar.....so why not be openminded and study that?....

We don't get it "right" us Westerners but at least we do what we want... I couldn't be married to someone I wasn't attracted to or in love with.. Yet you are saying those in India are wrong for wanting divorce.. Well if your parents are picking your spouses and you want a divorce, I guess your parents aren't doing a bang up job are they!!!

See dear,sucess is a different part.we can start new forum on that....ok ,just make that age 45.....but the question remains same...my dear friend

That doesn't even make sense.. Debate what I said, your question is "moot"...

Dear,try to understand arrange marraige concept first.its wronge impression that girl and boy doesn't know each other before marraige.
There is a proper social arrangement to make them open and free.after seeing the guy first,parents ask daughter about her impression.they allows them to intract with other for year also.if that girl is not having her love anywhere and she likes that guy,then only this marraige happens.and as a duty and experiance of mature,they do there engagement first...waits till some period...if all goes well,then only we got the oppurtunity to dance in ceremony....is it not a goldenmean between arrange and love marraige?

I know what "arranged" marriage is and I know a lot of Indians that have had them.. That still doesn't make what you're saying make sense.. Perhaps it's a communication issue.. But the bottom line is you're trying to sell arranged marriage and how wrong divorce is.. In India that might work, in America it doesn't... Right, wrong or indifferent, Americans do what works for them... I respect choices, whether it's yours or mine, it's our own and I respect that...

You've never been married yet you make these assumptions.. something isn't right in Denmark.. You should have been married by now...

Unnecessaririly u r making it issue or debating.but but tell me.iam expecting suggessions...not arguments,my dear. Friend.be cool.
Well,iam also curious about whhat social arrangement u have after kids leave the home?is there any social source to streamline that female?..iam curious

what do you mean "sources to streamline the female"..

I think you forget I am a males "equal"... Do tell what sources streamline the male when the children leave the nest????

Haa haa...u r having good sense of humour also.great.
Ya ya friend,definately iam looking for a good female companion.but she should be like u.brilliant and intellectual.do u know any female of my age with these cirtain qualities?...haaaa haaaaaa

there are hundreds of thousands... but I'm not sure you would be able to keep up... No offense but there is a certain way about intelligent, intellectual women that not just anyone can handle... Certainly speaking to them as if they are 2nd class citizens will never do...

Its simple,here this issue is not there.cause... for her husbond is there,for him wife is there...

What? Can you say that so I can understand it?

You're not married, that is a problem in India NO?