so here is my rant. Regardless if it makes sense or not!


I just don't understand how it's so hard for people to be transparent! If you aren't interested in someone, why can't some people say it. It hurts more after a kiss to be ignored, then to just be told that you aren't interested. And G%d forbidden that you are ignored after more than a kiss occurs.

See for me, what pisses me off is when I give someone an opportunity to tell me the 'truth' or their point of view or whatever you call it with clearly defining that it wouldn't hurt my feelings to let me know that you aren't interested!

It really sucks to be hung up on someone and be in limbo. It really does. I would much rather the person say 'hey, we had a nice time when we went out the other night, but I don't see us doing it again'. (And for those inquiring minds, this incident in question, just ended with a kiss (nothing more!)).

I allowed my hopes to get up. Which I probably shouldn't have. But it's my personality. I can't help being a hopeless romantic. I can't help wanting someone to share my life with... and it sucks.

Another thought for tonight.... I don't understand why people play 'games'. Now I am not talking about my situation.... or a situation where people avoid conflict or don't want to hurt feelings. But I just don't understand the 'chase' from either gender. I just don't. Why should a girl appear cool and aloft to attract a guy? And why does a man feel the need to pursue a women only to leave after she gives in?

I have said this before and I will say it again. If you want sex, just ask for it, someone will give it to you. If you are looking for more, say so! If you don't want a relationship, be clear about it, and walk away if the other person does want a relationship.

What is so flippin' hard about being tranparent?

I agree with you completely, but things in life are rarely that simple and clear (although they should be to avoid confusion and hurt feelings).
But at the same time, I am one of those types who hates to hurt peoples' feelings and prefer to go on a couple more dates in the hopes that (if the guy is nice) I may change my take on the situation... but this rarely happens.

I've been TOLD they were all about a LIFE LONG LOVER,,just to use me for awhile,,so YES,,,THAT TO ME IS WRONG.
Because THEY could have just been straight out and said would nyou like to f$ck me,,,,,?
NOT put on an act of GREAT MEANING of hearts to just be used on.



I AGREE,,,,,,,,,,,,

I agree with you girl but sad part about it even with age it does not get any better.....

You would think by the time Men/Women get to my age they would have their chit together and the game playing and not knowing what they want would be over..... ....nope nada it's still there and going strong....

But I still have hope that one day I will find that one that is on the same level as I'm when it comes to a relationship.

Now days it is not so much looking for one that fits a certain criteria it is more of looking for one that is willing to compromise and understands what communication is all about. Sure I want one that likes some of the same things I do but to me it is all about how two people get along when they are together..

Oh, how I so agree! Well said Kristi.

Thanks everyone for commenting on my rant!

Trying to figure out why people do what they do will run you crazy. Some people are selfish, or they're liars, or they have some kind of mental problem that doesn't allow them to express themselves properly, or they think using people is right. Or they just suck.

I'm sorry you got hurt, seems to happen a lot these days; I think some people are just allergic to truth and honesty.

Sorry your upset.....Pretty good rant though.....

I believe they are too! It is so much easier for everyone involved to just be honest!!!!!!

I agree with all that you said. I had met a guy and things seemed to be good at first. After a few dates he seemed less interested and I asked if he wanted to continue seeing me or not. He said yes that he was not the kind of guy that is not honset and would tell me the truth. Well then came an email that he was going to be tied up with work for a couple of weeks and would call me soon. I knoew then he was not going to call, so I just let it go. My time is valuable and I would rather spend it on someone who is worth it.

It seems the players continue to be out in full force.

Some people wouldn't know how to have a REAL relationship if it was staring them in the face...

I concur.

Or, one gets truly unlucky and 'wins' the lottery of all 7 and more ...

Yea, me ... ... Uggggghhhhhh!!!

Tanyaann, perhaps he has done you a great service in lack of follow through, even if his method is immature?

And? We can say games are immature all we like.

In the end, the 'hunt and chase' seem quite hard wired, from my lifetime analysis on this one... Frustrating as that finding outcome is.

And, it cuts both ways, across the gender lines ... Women bait the chase too!

The game itself teaches that if the rules are not applied, the trophy will not be claimed...

Kristi is correct, it is present at every age, still ...

Ridiculous or not (IS!) ... Our intellects don't seem to break that millions of years mammalian instinct code!

Same as the men think w/ 2 heads phenomena, just nature in motion, period.

I like the way the Matchmaker Diva puts it: "The schmekel decides!"

The truly evolved, upfront men and women that decide and act w/ their FULL faculties of heads, hearts and instinct ... Not by the rules of some archaic bodily religion?

... Truly have my deepest respect. My efforts to be one at all times truly limit who I will 'catch' though!

I've been told by my men, that my blatant honesty when infatuated almost killed the deal ... "BECAUSE it KILLED the HUNT".

Hate this one, though so accurate, that my Aunt used:

"I let him chase me until I caught him ... "

*Grooooooooannnnnnn*


Edit for accuracy of count ... "...7 and more", not 5 ...

What will be, will be!