Anyone have any ideas of how to move on with someone else when your heart is stuck on someone else? I know I should get over it, but how?

You just have to move on, move past it.. The "how" isn't important... If you haven't "self-evolved" then it's whatever you must tell yourself to get through it... The bottom line is if you don't move forward for you and treat others right, then you've let the "other" that broke your hear win and break "you"..

damn my head hurts

The other that broke my heart to win? What do they win?
I try to tell myself moving on is the best thing, maybe the only thing at this point, but it's easier said than done.

No magic bullet. You just need time. Try to remember that you didn't fall in love with them per se, but your image of them. While you're healing don't forget to love yourself

You have to suffer like the rest of us had to


JK, No one can tell you how to get through it. it's something you have to come to terms with yourself, and that comes with time. Although, for me what helped was, Spending time with family and friends. Not leaving myself alone for a period of time where my little pee brain would run whild So I kept my self busy by doing things.

They win YOU not wanting to go on or being able to move on, even if they don't want the trophy they win it...

I didn't fall in love with them, but the image? Maybe Im just a little naive or something, but I don't understand that. I've done the time thing, and even had a short relationship with someone else for a couple months. But I just couldn't do it.

And that person is happy that way? winning it without even wanting it? Just to give a little insight, I asked her today in a conversation to tell me once and for all if she in or out, but she wouldn't answer me directly, and even ignored me by the end of it.

How long were you with them? How long did it take you to get over them?

Does it really matter what they are??? If they don't treat you the way you need/deserve to be treated, what does it matter who or what they are? They don't deserve you and you have to do what works for you.. The why and how, asking and expecting answers doesn't matter.. what matters if if the can give you what you need/deserve.. If not 'walk'... Don't question it just do it.. There is someone that can give what you need and deserve.. All others, just walk...

I have walked, many times and tried to put her behind me. She ends up coming back and I get involved all over again. I really love her, and it gets hard to say no to her. By the way, we also have a child together, so I'll never be able to completely shut her out of my life,.

walking away in your heart is the biggest and best thing you can do for you... Being able to separate having the child with her from what it does to you is the biggest and best thing you can do for yourself...

You can make every excuse for yourself and her coming back that you want to.. The bottom line is that if you're not doing what is healthy for you then it's on "you"... don't b*tch or complain.. Deal with it or don't.. walk away or don't.. the adult/mature behavior is in each of us.. We can whine or we can stand up and deal with things... I choose to stand up and deal, I let "no one" affect how I live my every day life or what affects my heart/soul/thought/actions...

Could it be that things only got worse with her because I let her affect me and put up with it? I feel half the time like I turned into her little ***** boy, not the man I used to be when we first met. Now I just feel like a toy she plays with whenever it's convenient to her. I never wanted to think that someone could be like that, especially her.

What are your choices? Stay with her and continue feeling bad all the time?. Or leaving her and that feeling subsides with time? It sounds like dependancy. The more time you stay, ther more it seems like being drugged. Bottom line are you happy with her or without her. Can you stand the constant up's and downs, the continuous hurt?
Will you be in this same place a year from now? Is the hurt worth it? Love is supposed to make you feel good. It doesn't sound like good to me.

Keep as busy as possible. Time heals. When you have a rough moment and want to call this person , call a friend instead. Time...

but people are like that and as you've seen "she was"... The truth of the matter is, she did make your her b*tch... If not you wouldn't be feeling as you are...

It doesn't matter who or what a person is, if they make us feel "badly" they are not the person for us. (this excludes, needy insecure people)....

always ask yourself "is this person giving/bringing to the relationship what I need... If you're a reasonable person and you say "no" then you shouldn't be with them...

No, I can't stand the ups and downs. It's always been so back and forth, in and out. I've always taken the blame for everything. And the more blame I took, the more she blamed me for more. But there has been some good times, just never knew how long they would last till the next episode.
You could also be right on the dependancy thing. I've been doing this for three years. My esteem has been torn down so bad. I am starting to see alot of things for what they were, but I still love her so much.

I wish you luck Nike.. I don't envy where you are.. I do hope you can realize your value and walk away but so few learn that...

you will move on when your heart gets unstuck..much like stepping on crap, the crap is stuck to your shoes, eventually, as you continue to walk..take steps, the crap will wear off...the smell however will linger...it will take longer for that to wear off...there will however be a stain, and that will forever remain..no amount of water/alchohol will get rid of that

roko