Shakespear said it first, in one of his plays:
"First thing we do is KILL ALL the attorneys"

On the subject of your son, YOU BOTH should put your personal agenda's aside & think of what is best for the child.

Your attorney isn't showing up for hearings, request yor money back & report him to the "Bar association" formally.

He is responsible for his sirvice/actions.

I was told by a friend to do the same thing. Report him, and from what I understand. No matter what kind of hearing it is. That he is supose to be there repersenting me or not.

I have this vision of C.Eastwood blowing away the curling tendrils of smoke from the barrel of his pistola.Then he looks over at this old-timer & says you'll be needing to make another coffin for that two bit lawyer over there.

Hello Shadow, I am sorry to hear this is not over-with.
Your lawyer doesn't have to be present for some hearings?
And your attorney is EVERYTHING at this time, as he is the only one
to know your details and what the judge will see as the law in nature
to custody for your favor or hers, or the mutual time you both will have with your son.
THIS is the best time for him to pull a rabbit out of his hat, to show her inadequate to properly raise him or have him in her constant care.
With monies being tight, its a tough call to say,,get a new lawyer as most require a retainer to start the case..then all time spent knowing it,,by the hour pay to them..
Try seeking some free counsel on this attorney matter and his lack of
acting within the time-frames involved here.
You shouldn't be held liable for your attorneys lack of handling your case. I am thinking their is a petition you can file with the court or through a judge to acquire more time if your lawyer was negligent in handling your case based on YOU not acting within the courts ordered time frame.

Good to see you Cypoet

I dont know enough to advise

but you might be better served by letting it go to court

most times (not always) the judges are pretty fair and consider both sides and try to work it out to a win win


lawyers I dont like. their whole purpose in life is to manipulate the letter of the law to try and defeat the spirit of the law

Ditto!my friend.Long time no see hey? I'm sorry to hear about this dilemma that your all wrapped up in.I will keep U in my thoughts & prayers.Inadequate counseling.Geez!It is my hope that this outcome will be in your favor.Stay positive & strong K.Godspeed!Cy

Had an aquantance, went to court with no lawyer, he & his wife had "agreed" to get along & just use her attorney.
Court, everything had changed, he lost visitation & HUGE support payments. ALL due to the fact "he had no attorney PRESENT & representing him." If she has an attorney, YOU MUST also.
You don't go to a battle w/o preparation. OPINION

dont do what I did

my ex wife's son has Down Syndrome. He is about thirty now going on six.

for his sake I signed EVERYTHING over to her. the house and all the assets

these kids need continuity and security in their lives and I didnt have the heart to disrupt his life any more than the divorce already did

and then she stuck me with ALL the debts

now I kinda wish I had forced her to sell the house and split it. Somtimes taking the high road is morally right but you suffer the consequences for it

Been there, got the sweatshirt.
Had it to do over, would still do the same.
I did those things for me, not them.