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i dont want to a be the legal father of the child right now. if we do move in togther and get married later down the road i would not mind him taking my last name. i know if im in his life for the first few years atleast hes going to see me as dad which like i said i dont mind i will support him. but right now i dont want to be legally bound to the child because my name is on a piece of paper
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Edited by
Ruth34611
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Sat 02/13/10 11:23 AM
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i dont want to a be the legal father of the child right now. if we do move in togther and get married later down the road i would not mind him taking my last name. i know if im in his life for the first few years atleast hes going to see me as dad which like i said i dont mind i will support him. but right now i dont want to be legally bound to the child because my name is on a piece of paper I'm not trying to influence your decision. I hope it all works out for all of you. I'm just asking you to find out what the laws are now and make these decisions very carefully. And not just the legal decisions. The emotional ones as well. It will be no small thing if this child bonds with you and then you leave. I have not introduced anyone to my children in over 2 years. Because its a BIG DEAL. Just be careful for your sake, for her sake and for the baby's sake. Good luck to you. 
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Good advice, Ruth. I think many people get so caught up in themselves, they don't consider the child's feelings. I used to be friends with a girl who kept up a sexual relationship with her ex-husband, many years after they were divorced. He had a child by another woman, and while they were "together" she spent time with the baby, cared for it like it was her own, etc. Then he got another woman and she went berserk and ignored the baby. He asked about her and really missed her. I thought that was ultra shitty, because he didn't understand why she left, she was the only mother he ever knew (his own mom died 4 days after he was born) and he just really had a hard time. Such selfishness really annoys me.....
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Good advice, Ruth. I think many people get so caught up in themselves, they don't consider the child's feelings. I used to be friends with a girl who kept up a sexual relationship with her ex-husband, many years after they were divorced. He had a child by another woman, and while they were "together" she spent time with the baby, cared for it like it was her own, etc. Then he got another woman and she went berserk and ignored the baby. He asked about her and really missed her. I thought that was ultra shitty, because he didn't understand why she left, she was the only mother he ever knew (his own mom died 4 days after he was born) and he just really had a hard time. Such selfishness really annoys me..... Besides the awesome point above.... Why would you subject yourself to the heart ripping you'll get if/when she moves on? getting close to an infant and then having the rug pulled on you is devastation over and above the loss of who you were dating. That's putting a mountain load of trust into someone who may or may not be thinking straight... JMHO and good luck 
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there are so many things that make a person. Preconceived notions should be left at the door! Never know where you may find the person of your dreams! If a woman had everything i was searching for, but was pregnant i wouldn't let it get in my way!
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big mistake..only idiots do such a thing...or guys who are real desperate..same thing for her, but more weighted towards desperate..
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Why is a pregnant woman dating? ARE YOU FUKKING KIDDING ME???
WTF..so it's a plus to be pregnant WHILE dating now? It is true, some men will f@ck anything with a hole including a woman with another man's child inside of her. FFS already! |
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i have to agree with roco and xeno....women shouldn't date when they are pregnant they need to have the baby and get their chit together first,and if a man does date a pregnant woman i'm thinking he's got to be desperate
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i have to agree with roco and xeno....women shouldn't date when they are pregnant they need to have the baby and get their chit together first,and if a man does date a pregnant woman i'm thinking he's got to be desperate Roko, Xeno and RK -- three voices of reason! *applause* 
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