there is a ball dance on the 14th and it's not like i didn't have the courage to ask someone but this is how it went
Me: hi , i heard about the ball dance are you going ?
She: ugh no, hey i didn't you say you don't know how to dance
Me: yeah i don't but how hard can it be..( i know i should have stopped here ) just follow a series of body movement's corresponding to the beat's of the music in some complex mathematical function.
* uncomfortable laughter by her *
She: hey i have to go for my materials of science lecture ( thankfully it was true)
Later when i called her on her mobile phone
Me: so you going to the dance ?
She: No actually i'm going back home for the weekend
Irrelevant conversation about studies..The End

so i see what the problem is but i just don't know how to react in a "non-nerd" way spontaneously, any suggestion's ?

Why don't you offer to help her study.If she says No, she's probally not into you.If she says yes, you're in!

I would have just said "Who said anything about dancing? I was just going to spike the punch."

Your answer wasn't half bad. I wouldn't say it was a total loss. She's going home for the weekend, so if you're still interested in her, then ask her out on a date, when she gets back.

Baby lets grind..........

i would ask her out on a date as soon as i get some idea how she feels about me, so was hoping for something between a date and studying together in the library. the problem is if i keep responding in similar fashion i'm bound to get rejected

Grow some balls and ask her out on a real date.

If you just study together, you will enter the "friend" zone.

Rejection sucks, but it's better than that.

Here is how it works, you won't know anything until you ask her out. If she is even just slighty interested in you, she will say yes...if she says no, move on, it happens to everyone.

call her back... bring it up again.. that you would really like to go to the dance yourself and was wondering if she would go with you and teach you to dance..

i have to say i disagree i am in the friend zone and dont want to lose that it's the main reason i'm being cautious

thanks for the idea but alas she is not coming to the dance don't know if my conversation was a factor of influence in that decision. Anyways it's not that i can't move on to others but they are like 25 or 26 girls as compared to 600+ boy's in my college so apparently not so many fish in the sea

perfect if there i a dance club near you... for when she gets back ask her to that.... that you would like to learn...

Why not just ask? Is it really that hard?

Who knows...

Ok

It isn't rocket science

well the main reason is that i don't want to lose out on the friendship. And i did ask her out for the dance.

Say.."hey babay, lets go shake our stuff on the dance floor..mambo, some swing, what's ya in the mood for?

sometimes, you just gotta take a leap of faith and hope for the best, all or nothing you know?