My ex husband has barely spoken two civil words to me since he left a year and a half ago. He remarried the woman he left me for a month after our divorce was final. He's put me and the kids through the wringer by not showing up for visitation or not paying any attention to the kids.

Tomorrow is our youngest daughters birthday and out of no where said he wanted to take the girls out to dinner. He called and asked if I'd like to join them. He said it may sound weird but he knew I really liked the place they were going and would love to see me.

WTH? Do you believe in aliens?

I think I do now! (((Chrissy))) Things not good in his paradise?

Sounds like he is feeling guilty. Even Hitler was nice every now and then.

lol.. thats exactly the first thought i had too..
psssst Run away!! lol

Just tell him "no thank you," and to enjoy his time with the girls.

Encourage your girls to enjoy the time with their father.



It's him, not you, Hon.

Yep, sure do. Agent Mulder of X Files did & that's good enough for me, lol.

Seriously, your ex is an idiot. He should have been involved in your children's lives from the outset. Unfortunately, it's guys like him that make men look bad. Maybe he's had an attack of conscience, who knows? Hopefully from here on out he'll want to be more involved. When he's not involved everyone suffers,especially the children.

That's exactly what I told him Lewis. He said I should come we were going to my favorite restaurant. I told him the girls just wanted him and to enjoy themselves.

Joy, yes there is trouble in his paradise. It just caught me off guard. The anger and the nastiness I could deal with.

Chrissy I think you handled it well

wow sounds like he may be finally starting to feel a little guilt. good luck with that

Mark, I may be slow but I'm not stupid. Once the shock wore off, my next thought was "I wonder what he wants".

He's made his bed, now he has to lie in it. Good move, Chrissy.

You made the right decision. I made that mistake before and I regret it....

You should go and have like some buff dude as your date. Say to your ex husband when you see him at the resteraunt, "Hi. This is Fernando, my trainer, and GOD!!!!!....is he the most excellent lover. Oh, did I mention he is a blackbelt in karate? I am so happy. How are you?"


Then sit back and watch your ex's ego shrink to nothing.

Some people are so selfish, they don't stop to think of the other person. He's not content in his new marriage, so he'd like for you to bridge him over the gap. Then when all is well again, he'd like for you to go away- quietly. You made the right decision, never let anyone use you for their own selfish needs.

That is a pretty short time.
I had been married to the guys ex for about three years. They had been divorced about 5 years. I put on a cook-out. All his kids showed up and I went and invited him also. Told him, all yer kids are here, you may as well come on and visit with them.

Yes, alien probes do change people.

I would advise not touching him unless you are wearing rubber gloves.

I remember my ex invited me into her new house, shortly after the divorce was final, to sit in front of her fireplace with a glass of wine and talk about the kids.

The conversation quickly turned from pleasant to accusatory and I left running out the front door as she dumped her glass of wine over my head.

The wine stain ruined my jacket, but it was worth it, just for this story.

Sorry, ((Chrissy)). I have a similar ex. You handled it great!

What a mature and resonable adult approach on your part.
Kudos to you!