Recently divorce, how long does it take to get back to my happy go luck self?

that depends on you .Get back to routines from your former self .Get out and circulate among your friends and family.But most of all allow yourself to greive and then move beyond ,there is no set time everyone is different.

Excellent advice.

or you could just get a couple of hookers and have drunken wild sex







it's totally up to you.....

maybe never

some people never get over it

it is up to you

About one minute after the papers were signed for me haha

True. It DOES take effort, on your part.

Try to do the things in life that you felt you could not do, when you were with your wife. Try to be the person you felt you wanted to be, but could not be, when you were with her.

Become happy with yourself, rather than trying to find someone to make you happy.

It takes 3 years, 9 months and 6 days.

Well...........

Ya can sit and wallow in it....but thats like sittin in your own piss

or.....

You can get out into the real world....grab life by the balls......

and squeeze...............!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Its all up to you

Divorce is like any other loss in your life.....It really depends on the person and the circustances.....look back and see if there were ever any otherloss and reflect on how long it took you to face it and start to live again. Allow yourself to grive and then start living again. Keep busy and make new friend if you need to. Like any hurt...it takes time but don't stop living....

THAT all depends,,,?
Do YOU WANT TO??

As MANY find that ,,,,THAT,,was SOME OF THEIR PROBLEMS IN THE FIRST PLACE,,,,wink,lol if THEIR REAL with them-selves...

Same here....

and then on the other hand I know people who are still drinking themselves to death over a divorce twenty years ago

When a relationship ends, even for good reasons, it is always a sad loss. Try to just get thru the day just one minute at a time.

Great advise. It's been 5 months for me, and I just saw her on dating site looking for same type of person, I was to her. It's just sad and I get angry. Ah, the rejection, without any closure.

Steven, I'm not sure if we ever get "ourselves" back. I think we mourn, greive, evolve and hopefully grow. I am taking this time to figure out who I want to be, keep what I like, change what I don't. I don't think I want to be the same person, I want to be better.

The one thing I do know is recovering from any type of loss and divorce is a big one takes time. Use it wisely and the best of luck.

C

The way I looked at it (my divorce) was that while it was my loss, I wasn't all to blame for us not working. So, while it took me a year to date, I wanted to make sure I was ready for it...and I was. But as for who I am? I never let that go, simply because I don't allow things to keep me from evolving in my life. I am a better person now, I want to do alot of things, and basically she is missing out on who I am and the great person I will become. She and I had great times together, and those are memories I will keep with me. But she is my past, and my future is so bright that.....I gotta wear shades....Haha!

Anyways, it does take time, but the amount it takes is different for each person. Just don't allow yourself to lose who you are or become bitter.

Thanks for the advise, sounds good

It depends on u.Just take one day at a time.

When you say "Self...that's about enough to be getting on with. Let's have some fun now!"

Yeah I know it sounds lame, but to a degree that's what it boils down to. Rather than dwell on the negative replace it with something positive until you don't have to force the good thoughts and you wake up one day and realize the good thoughts just are.