Topic: seeking advice
sassygal73's photo
Thu 01/14/10 03:13 PM
I have no idea how to approach guys. I want to start dating but i think sometimes it is easier to have stayed married. I go out and guys approach me...but not the one I wanted to. What are the "looks" nowdays...what are the clues..and how to attract the ones who ask to buy YOU a drink not the other way around. I have been outta loop to long?

XenomorphEyez's photo
Thu 01/14/10 03:35 PM
Heck if I know. Oh it's not so complicated. After a couple of years on this site, you'll wish you stayed married. laugh

Seriously, just stay safe when meeting people for the first time. That's the only real advice I can give you. The rest you just figure it out as you go along. There are no quick and fast tricks to finding love. It just happens when it happens. Good luck.


motowndowntown's photo
Thu 01/14/10 03:53 PM
Are you just looking for free drinks or are you looking to actually get to know people?

TJN's photo
Thu 01/14/10 03:53 PM
Heck if I know.
When you figure it out let me know:smile:
Just be yourself and don't rush into anythingflowerforyou

s1owhand's photo
Thu 01/14/10 03:58 PM
You have to be the AGGRESSOR! Rooooowwwwr!

laugh

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Thu 01/14/10 04:14 PM

I have no idea how to approach guys. I want to start dating but i think sometimes it is easier to have stayed married. I go out and guys approach me...but not the one I wanted to. What are the "looks" nowdays...what are the clues..and how to attract the ones who ask to buy YOU a drink not the other way around. I have been outta loop to long?



Here's what you do...


Unbutton a couple of the top buttons on you shirt.Walk up to "the" guy,sit on his lap,look him in the eye,and ask...Do you wanna wrestle?

I'm sure you can get a couple of drinks out of this technique. drinks

no photo
Thu 01/14/10 04:21 PM
I never approach men, they always approach me. Good luck though.

Gossipmpm's photo
Thu 01/14/10 04:25 PM
God I'm glad I never had that problem.............

Can't even imagine!!!!!!!:heart:

XenomorphEyez's photo
Thu 01/14/10 04:31 PM

Are you just looking for free drinks or are you looking to actually get to know people?



Cinderella75's photo
Thu 01/14/10 05:42 PM
you had me at: "Two martinis, please!" lol

Seriously, I don't think a bar is a place to pick up your soulmate.


sassygal73's photo
Thu 01/14/10 06:04 PM
Okok thanks to the decent helpful posts. I never said soulmate did I? And im so glad that the rest of you are so lucky..or liars.

sassygal73's photo
Thu 01/14/10 06:07 PM
it was a metaphor. You know for polite guys not losers....i can buy my own drinks.

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Thu 01/14/10 06:08 PM
I don't consider myself lucky; if 10 men approach me, 9 of them are beyond disgusting, so I don't think that's really luck.

As for people lying in their responses to you, I doubt if anyone did; no reason to lie, lying to strangers on the internet is um, pointless.

Again, best of luck to you.flowerforyou

motowndowntown's photo
Thu 01/14/10 06:12 PM

it was a metaphor. You know for polite guys not losers....i can buy my own drinks.


Then a sultry look a smile and a wad of cash is all you need.

Atlantis75's photo
Thu 01/14/10 06:15 PM
Edited by Atlantis75 on Thu 01/14/10 06:16 PM

and how to attract the ones who ask to buy YOU a drink not the other way around. I have been outta loop to long?


Guys are asking you to buy them drinks?
rofl

See my theory is working.

See the thread I made "the rules have changed"
http://mingle2.com/topic/show/262817

sassygal73's photo
Thu 01/14/10 06:29 PM
I was referring that everyone has had a bad date. But thank you. I can see now that a lot has changed since I had to date. I dont have a lot of free time being both parents and all that jazz now. But I dont plan on looking to long. Thought the younger single girls here might have a tip or two. Some sort of "this is how to spot a jerk" I was planning on appling anything I learned out with face to face situations.

sassygal73's photo
Thu 01/14/10 06:34 PM
drinker ohwell slaphead

no photo
Thu 01/14/10 06:36 PM

I was referring that everyone has had a bad date. But thank you. I can see now that a lot has changed since I had to date. I dont have a lot of free time being both parents and all that jazz now. But I dont plan on looking to long. Thought the younger single girls here might have a tip or two. Some sort of "this is how to spot a jerk" I was planning on appling anything I learned out with face to face situations.




Unless you are planning on dating someone much younger than you NOTHING has changed....

Atlantis75's photo
Thu 01/14/10 06:37 PM
Edited by Atlantis75 on Thu 01/14/10 06:38 PM

I was referring that everyone has had a bad date. But thank you. I can see now that a lot has changed since I had to date. I dont have a lot of free time being both parents and all that jazz now. But I dont plan on looking to long. Thought the younger single girls here might have a tip or two. Some sort of "this is how to spot a jerk" I was planning on appling anything I learned out with face to face situations.


Here is a few

- They talk to you but looking at your body parts instead of looking at you directly

- They keep railing the argument towards sex all the time and they might even openly ask you to have sex after the first date

-Obviously, if they try to hit you or slap you - umm stay away from those.

Other than that, you have to go with your instincts. There are no rules written in stone, if you are unable to filter out the bad ones by yourself, I don't think anyone can help you more than a few ideas, but even those are vaguely accurate or describe fully what the "jerks" are.


Roco's photo
Thu 01/14/10 09:43 PM
the strategy hasn't changed...not one bit...just the landscape/platform has