Topic: if your boyfriend/girlfriend
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Fri 01/08/10 08:32 AM

was cheating on you would you want to know?


Yes I would want to know BUT , having been there-had it happen to me , as spoken earlier , pretty sure I would know and Iwould be GONE in blink.... :):wink:

Ruth34611's photo
Fri 01/08/10 08:42 AM

So if you know someone is cheating--- should you tell?
what if the person doing the cheating is a friend??


I have that situation. I stay out of it. None of my business.

Peccy's photo
Fri 01/08/10 11:38 AM


No, I wouldn't want to hear it from someone else unless they had undeniable proof, ie photos or something. Too many relationships are ruined by assumptions and half truths. I would not even get into it if I saw something happen, think about it. What would you have to gain? Then think what you will more than likely lose.


hiya handsum - love the new pic - best to you and Angel in 2010

quick question, do all your actions bring you gain?


all my worthwhile actions do

Th3Friend's photo
Fri 01/08/10 12:55 PM
I dont think I could be the one to tell the bad news to a friend. I would fear the consequences.

solestria's photo
Sun 01/10/10 06:29 PM
Yes, I would want to know. I've been in a number of polyamorous relationships and am open to discussing some form of openness with a partner, so I'd be really upset that he didn't come to me before he started cheating to talk openly with me about it. The dishonesty would bother me far more than his being with another woman.

ArtGurl's photo
Sun 01/10/10 07:10 PM
Yes I would want to know and yes I would respect my friend and the relationship enough to tell them

ArtGurl's photo
Sun 01/10/10 07:10 PM
Edited by ArtGurl on Sun 01/10/10 07:10 PM
sorry ... mouse trouble

ArtGurl's photo
Sun 01/10/10 07:10 PM
Edited by ArtGurl on Sun 01/10/10 07:11 PM
oops

buttons's photo
Sun 01/10/10 07:12 PM
yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Updawg's photo
Sun 01/10/10 07:17 PM
Without a doubt and I would dump them.

no photo
Sun 01/10/10 07:18 PM
Yes, I'd want to know. I'd also be upset if a close friend of mine knew I was being cheated on and didn't tell me.

Monier's photo
Sun 01/10/10 08:59 PM
Yes, I'd want to know so I can stop wasting my time with them.

unsure's photo
Sun 01/10/10 09:07 PM

So if you know someone is cheating--- should you tell?
what if the person doing the cheating is a friend??

NO WAY!! I have been in this situation and I actually lost a friend from telling. I say stay out of it and it will come out sooner or later!! Let someone else tell, you keep the friendship!!

musicismydrug's photo
Sun 01/10/10 10:09 PM
yes, and i found out anyways, now im single hahah! but yeah
i would want to know

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Tue 01/12/10 08:47 AM
If I told a friend she/he was being cheated on and it ended the friendship, at least I told the truth and warned. What the friend chooses to do with the information is his/her business and I would support him/her either way. But if the friendship ends for being truthful, it wasn't much of a friendship to begin with, and my purpose was served.

carlos2342's photo
Tue 01/12/10 08:55 AM

If I told a friend she/he was being cheated on and it ended the friendship, at least I told the truth and warned. What the friend chooses to do with the information is his/her business and I would support him/her either way. But if the friendship ends for being truthful, it wasn't much of a friendship to begin with, and my purpose was served.


I had a married friend who was sleeping with a woman we both knew from work. I knew his wife too, she was a kind woman, and a good looking woman. However, as a friend, it is not my business to get inbetween people's private affairs in life, my experience has shown it usually destroys the friendship on all grounds. Your best bet is to not participate in it or activities where they are with this person as it is your right, but otherwise I would not recommend saying anything.

Nickvanillagorilla's photo
Tue 01/12/10 09:35 AM
If it were two of my friends id stay out of it, If its me, Id want to know, then I would bite her face and take the low roadbrokenheart whoa :banana:

Gossipmpm's photo
Tue 01/12/10 09:39 AM
I don't know.....................:heart:

soufiehere's photo
Tue 01/12/10 10:52 AM

I can't very well bury anyone under the stoop if I don't even know they were cheating on me...


hahahahahahaha

Cinderella75's photo
Tue 01/12/10 08:27 PM

So if you know someone is cheating--- should you tell?
what if the person doing the cheating is a friend??


be a friend and stay out of it.