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Topic: if your boyfriend/girlfriend
nurjoyce Joined Thu 01/04/07 Posts: 10283	Thu 01/07/10 11:34 AM
was cheating on you would you want to know?

morgannicole Joined Mon 11/09/09 Posts: 225	Thu 01/07/10 11:37 AM
Yes, I would want to know. Once someone cheats on me, there is no way in hell I would take them back, ever... I would make them feel like crap. [:

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Thu 01/07/10 11:40 AM
Yes, I'd want to know, but almost certain I would have already known.

SKPCG Joined Mon 03/03/08 Posts: 14708	Thu 01/07/10 11:42 AM
Of course I'd want to know so I can make decisions that are healthy for myself. Minimally, STDs come to mind. But who wants to be with a cheat? A cheat means lies. Who wants to live with a liar? And someone who cheats is not thinking of the safety and sanity of the person being cheated on. Why should someone else control my needs just so he can fill his and keep his comfort level and status quo?

nurjoyce Joined Thu 01/04/07 Posts: 10283	Thu 01/07/10 11:45 AM
So if you know someone is cheating--- should you tell? what if the person doing the cheating is a friend??

wolfchic Joined Wed 09/26/07 Posts: 8036	Thu 01/07/10 11:51 AM
So if you know someone is cheating--- should you tell? what if the person doing the cheating is a friend?? Cheating is cheating!That simple.I would want to know so I could get rid of the cheater. Friend or not! J.M.O.

pkd1220 Joined Thu 05/24/07 Posts: 8318	Thu 01/07/10 11:54 AM
If a friend is cheating I would let him or her know what I thought about it and that it is wrong. If my best friend was being cheated on I would let her know and I'm sure she would do the same for me. If it wasn't a best friend, I probably wouldn't tell. Too many variables that I wouldn't want to get involved.

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Thu 01/07/10 12:13 PM
was cheating on you would you want to know? I can't very well bury anyone under the stoop if I don't even know they were cheating on me...

XenomorphEyez Joined Sun 11/29/09 Posts: 923	Thu 01/07/10 12:41 PM
I've never been cheated on, but I would want to know. There's a lot of factors that come into play when someone is cheating. It has nothing to do with being hurt mentally. I can get over that. I'm more worried about catching something that will be with me long after I cut off the guys balls. So if you know someone is cheating--- should you tell? what if the person doing the cheating is a friend?? Stay out of it. It's none of your business. I say this from experience of catching a friends bf with another woman while I was out one night. Our friendship was never the same after it.

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Thu 01/07/10 12:43 PM
I've never been cheated on, but I would want to know. There's a lot of factors that come into play when someone is cheating. It has nothing to do with being hurt mentally. I can get over that. I'm more worried about catching something that will be with me long after I cut off the guys balls. So if you know someone is cheating--- should you tell? what if the person doing the cheating is a friend?? Stay out of it. It's none of your business. I say this from experience of catching a friends bf with another woman while I was out one night. Our friendship was never the same after it. Exactly, people keep saying they can get past stuff and work it out but what if the guy sleeps with someone who has AIDS or something and then gives it to you? Not much to work out there.... I agree about staying out of it, the person being cheated on usually gets mad at the person who told, ends up staying with the cheater, and the friendship is over for nothing.

Calleigh12 Joined Tue 04/01/08 Posts: 17193	Thu 01/07/10 12:44 PM
was cheating on you would you want to know? I can't very well bury anyone under the stoop if I don't even know they were cheating on me... Did you get the crate of candles I sent? They're honeysuckle scented; I think the "guests" will appreciate them.

Peccy Joined Thu 06/28/07 Posts: 17181	Thu 01/07/10 12:49 PM
No, I wouldn't want to hear it from someone else unless they had undeniable proof, ie photos or something. Too many relationships are ruined by assumptions and half truths. I would not even get into it if I saw something happen, think about it. What would you have to gain? Then think what you will more than likely lose.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Thu 01/07/10 12:52 PM
No, I wouldn't want to hear it from someone else unless they had undeniable proof, ie photos or something. Too many relationships are ruined by assumptions and half truths. I would not even get into it if I saw something happen, think about it. What would you have to gain? Then think what you will more than likely lose. hiya handsum - love the new pic - best to you and Angel in 2010 quick question, do all your actions bring you gain?

centered Joined Tue 01/09/07 Posts: 364	Thu 01/07/10 12:57 PM
So if you know someone is cheating--- should you tell? what if the person doing the cheating is a friend?? You could always send an anonymous message to the victim, if you feel uncomfortable with saying something face-to-face. Of course, if you're the only one who knows about the cheating, then it won't matter if you're anonymous :)

centered Joined Tue 01/09/07 Posts: 364	Thu 01/07/10 01:01 PM
was cheating on you would you want to know? Absolutely!! And most especially if it's an on-going thing, versus a "one time cheat". The point is, if a person is cheating, they aren't being fair to the main relationship. I guess the one exception would be if the two people in the main relationship have made it clear to each other they can see other people, i.e. - the two are having a "casual" relationship. (I'm stating the obvious).

malamis Joined Fri 12/25/09 Posts: 1	Thu 01/07/10 01:10 PM
I would want to know so I could cut my losses sooner rather than later.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Thu 01/07/10 01:27 PM
was cheating on you would you want to know? Nah. I live in my own perfect world, so none of that negative stuff. "Puts hands over ears"....Lalalalalalala...I can't hear you.

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Thu 01/07/10 01:30 PM
was cheating on you would you want to know? Nah. I live in my own perfect world, so none of that negative stuff. "Puts hands over ears"....Lalalalalalala...I can't hear you. can I visit your perfect world

CatsLoveMe Joined Wed 09/16/09 Posts: 4522	Thu 01/07/10 01:41 PM
So if you know someone is cheating--- should you tell? what if the person doing the cheating is a friend?? Cheating is cheating!That simple.I would want to know so I could get rid of the cheater. Friend or not! J.M.O. Yep, a truly evil deed, and I have declared war on this behavior. If it's done to me, even if someone else has to find out and tell me, SHE's gone! Hit the streets, sister! And if I see it happen to someone I know, I'm tellin' them too. This far, no farther.

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Thu 01/07/10 03:14 PM
was cheating on you would you want to know? Nah. I live in my own perfect world, so none of that negative stuff. "Puts hands over ears"....Lalalalalalala...I can't hear you. can I visit your perfect world Ok.....but I get the top bunk.