What ways do some of you cope with the anxiety of being alone?

What outlets do you have to deal with 'third wheel' syndrome? Or when you see a happy couple together at any given time and you think, 'why not me?'

How do you stop yourself from thinking, "I'm the only one that doesn't have anybody,"?

By getting out and enjoying the things that I like to do and going to places where I don't know anyone just to talk to people and make new friends.

I just enjoy the fact that I can go where I want and do what I want and enjoy my privacy

Enjoy the silence brother........

i learned to be comfortable in my own skin...i do what i feel like doing...and if i find someone along the way cool

I enjoy my own company but if im in the company of a couple- Im the entertainment!!! i just have fun in whatever situation im thrown into!!

if the feelings of lonliness get maybe a little too intense- i find that-- and this might just be a chick thing lol- but i tend to write down what im feeling in a journal or notebook- just reading it makes it easier to put it into prospective.

until you have the pleasure of meeting that special someone- just enjoy the solitude- listen to your own thoughts- and do whatever it is that you always wanted to do and never got the chance-

live your life!!!

I spend alot of time alone and would love to have another great person in my life, but I feel no anxiety about it. I guess I am lucky or perhaps it is just choice.

I'm waiting for the right person for me and sick of being told that I am so great, ha, it's not like those people are breaking down my door right now

It's a good thing really. Focus on yourself. Take care of #1. Dream of the kind of person that you want to be with. It's not so bad to deal with.

On the flip side, I'd rather somebody want to be with 'me' and not 'somebody' that just happens to be me.

Think of being alone as a decision and not an affliction, you'll be better off for it.

This post is totally different from what your profile states. You state you have roommates so you can't be that lonely. Loose the emo mentality. That should of ended at 21. Anything older it becomes pathetic.

Listen, you are 26 and live in Orlando. I'm pretty sure with Mickey and the gang around you can find one of them to pal around with. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get out and do something.

Who the hell cares what everyone else is doing. Find friends that aren't part of a couple. Don't count on your friends to be your cruise director. If they are in a relationship I can guarantee you it ain't all wine and roses. I bet they aren't even get laid very often. So don't be too envious. Every one of my friends that are married care more about my dating life than their own marriages. Tells me how exciting theirs must be. Just sayin.

Now get off your butt and go do whatever the kids are doing in Orlando these days.

I don’t focus on being single. I enjoy being single.

The grass always SEEMS greener on the other side unless you are with a very special person. Most relationships are not what they appear.

Join clubs (hiking, biking), volunteer or take classes to focus your mind on developing you. It will thwart those “woe is me” thoughts.

Agreed - don't be an emo kid past the age of 19!

After living with a harpy, I revel in my aloneness.

somehow i feel i should be offended

Silence is golden

Wow...thanks for the input, but this post isn't FOR me. I'm okay with being single, now. I use to not be so I figured there had to be other people out there that are the way I use to be. So I figured this would help. I can see why you're single, though. So negative.

Just testing the waters aye??

As one who meditates there is nothing negative in my comment...

You know, in my last relationship, I would sit and think "Man, if I was single.....", because their were times when my ex girlfriend would just drive me nuts. I was single for two years before I hooked up with her, and I really did enjoy being single. Yeah, I did miss the companionship that a realtionship brings, but their are also advantages to being single. You just have to be active in things, and not sit around like a frog on a log.

This year, I am going back to school, going to start taking Yoga classes, and doing things like fishing, gun range, and etc. And while it would be nice to meet a woman that I connect with, and feel that she could be a special someone in my life, I am not going out and trying to find it. I believe that that happens when you least expect it, so I don't sweat it. But that is just how Goof rolls brotha!!!

Well, as much as I would like to have someone special in my life, thats not happening right now.. So I have been doing all the things I've wanted to do but either didn't have the time(raising my family) or didn't have the money.. Now I have both.. I travel, visit friends, volunteer at the VA, have lots of hobbies and enjoy riding my new Harley.. If I find someone its because they caught up with me..lol

So far all of your responses have been wonderful, and constructive. Keep them coming. I would also like to add more upon the subject. The loneliness that I have experienced in my past, I have found, was definitely rooted in being hurt, broken, and rejected in relationships. Then it became a snowball affect, and every rejection by every girl caused more and more bitterness which, in turn, caused me to try even harder.

Now, that may sound as if I'm pointing fingers towards others and saying, "I'm the victim, I'm the victim", and granted, that is exactly what it was for several years. However, I have definitely found healing in the realization that it was my self-pity causing the anxiety. The healing process began when I started to think about what I could have done differently to avoid being hurt. Thinking about ways that I brought it on myself and working on ways to improve. Also finding outlets in activities such as sports, community programs and clubs, and just hanging out with friends helps me realize all is well. I can definitely think back and understand the old saying, "You reap what you sow."

thoughts...?

I bury them all under my stoop...

I get out and do things I enjoy. I spend time with friends. I've joined groups and met new people.

Find stuff to do and friends you enjoy being with, rather than feeling sorry for yourself for being single.

Actually, it was your original post that was negative. She was basically saying not to be that way.