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Topic: Is it just me or what? I don't understand
TexasScoundrel's photo
Mon 01/04/10 06:03 AM



What kind of emails are you sending that aren't getting replies?


I am never sure what to write when e-mailing so I usually will write
"Hi,just wanted to send a note to say Hi and wanted to know if you would like to chat,Hope to hear back from you"


I do want to thank you all for your replies,all of you have helped me.

Happy New Year to all of you.

Kenny


That may be why. You're not giving them anything to respond to. Start reading profiles and sending emails based on what you've read. Try asking questions that they can answer.


That won't work either.

The best thing I've found is to make it funny. Come up with some wild plan for a date involving crime and a narrow escape to a romantic vacation spot where the two of you will spend your ill gotten gains on wild parties.

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Mon 01/04/10 06:19 AM
It does work, as I've replied to emails as I just described. But yes, your idea may work, too. Just depends if it makes them laugh, or not. If it makes him sound really weird or creepy, it may not.

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Mon 01/04/10 06:35 AM
My point is that if you describe some fun adventure the two of you can have, even if it's not ever going to be real, you'll get better results. Still not as good as real life though.

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Mon 01/04/10 06:39 AM
The problem with that is many men aren't going to be creative like that in a first email. Perhaps the OP can. That would be great. But I would say at least 80% of emails I get are some form of "hi" and that's about it. Maybe a little more, like the OP wrote. I usually respond back with the same effort. A few go on to write more, some will ask why I only responded with hi and many won't reply again.

When I email men, I take something from the profile and comment on it or ask a question. Most of the time they reply.

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Mon 01/04/10 06:44 AM

The problem with that is many men aren't going to be creative like that in a first email. Perhaps the OP can. That would be great. But I would say at least 80% of emails I get are some form of "hi" and that's about it. Maybe a little more, like the OP wrote. I usually respond back with the same effort. A few go on to write more, some will ask why I only responded with hi and many won't reply again.

When I email men, I take something from the profile and comment on it or ask a question. Most of the time they reply.


That because women almost never email men. I've been on this site for years and I think I've gotten less than 10 emails from women and most of them have been about forum posts, from women 1000 miles away.

You are right that he needs to put more effort into what he's writing. I'm saying he should put as much of HIMSELF into it as he can. Use his creative side to come up with something that will show women just how special and unique he is. Show her why she should be replying to his emails. Make it FUN for her.

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Mon 01/04/10 06:54 AM
:thumbsup:

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Mon 01/04/10 09:43 AM
I'm going to try and take all your ideas and make them work.
Thanks again everyone!! :)

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Mon 01/04/10 10:07 AM

Just wondering about something.
I have been on this site for quite awhile now and have e-mailed several people but never get any response.
I will admit that I am not prince charming,I am not the best looking guy on earth but I do have a good heart and I love taking care of my lady.
I just wish so many people would not go on just "looks"
I do have a big heart and I just wish I could find someone that would be willing to share their heart with mine.

I guess I'm just maybe looking for some advice.
believe me most men have sent more emails then have gotten responses maybe like 1,000,000 sends to 1 response.

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Mon 01/04/10 11:32 AM
Almost everyone I have emailed has responded. Probably because I interacted with them in the forums first.
Occasionally I have contacted because they are local, but don't do the forums.....and they have replied too.

Be polite, introduce yourself, don't mentions sex, boobs, or how 'hawt'you think she is.

Maybe mention an interest you share, or based on profile an interest you enjoy that they might like too.


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Thu 01/07/10 09:09 AM

Just wondering about something.
I have been on this site for quite awhile now and have e-mailed several people but never get any response.
I will admit that I am not prince charming,I am not the best looking guy on earth but I do have a good heart and I love taking care of my lady.
I just wish so many people would not go on just "looks"
I do have a big heart and I just wish I could find someone that would be willing to share their heart with mine.

I guess I'm just maybe looking for some advice.


I have some advice for you.

#1 Don't ever ever say you, "love taking care of your lady". This makes women feel like you want something from them, and that puts up the defenses.

Need a wing-man? e-mail me.


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Fri 01/08/10 05:07 AM


This website is not the best. You pretty much have to manually find matches like it were just a social networking site but instead it's slightly leaned towards relationships. Invest some other time in other dating websites.


You're complaining about having to find matches on your own? You don't want to put any work into it? No wonder it isn't working for you. laugh

Actually i'm not complaining, i'm observing. And there's no denying this site is on the low side of the spectrum when it comes to dating sites. There are a lot of sites that are high end and expensive and have a lot more features to help you find a match. And i haven't really been trying to find matches at all. So die in a hole.

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Tue 01/12/10 08:58 PM

Just wondering about something.
I have been on this site for quite awhile now and have e-mailed several people but never get any response.
I will admit that I am not prince charming,I am not the best looking guy on earth but I do have a good heart and I love taking care of my lady.
I just wish so many people would not go on just "looks"
I do have a big heart and I just wish I could find someone that would be willing to share their heart with mine.

I guess I'm just maybe looking for some advice.


even the hottest guys on here don't get responses from every girl...trust me I know.:tongue:

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Tue 01/12/10 09:24 PM
Edited by Atlantis75 on Tue 01/12/10 09:26 PM

Just wondering about something.
I have been on this site for quite awhile now and have e-mailed several people but never get any response.
I will admit that I am not prince charming,I am not the best looking guy on earth but I do have a good heart and I love taking care of my lady.
I just wish so many people would not go on just "looks"
I do have a big heart and I just wish I could find someone that would be willing to share their heart with mine.

I guess I'm just maybe looking for some advice.


Well..believe it or not..but the "internet dating" starts with looks. It really sucks actually..because there are actually really good looking guys who aren't looking for women who go for the looks alone. Same with really good looking women, who aren't looking for guys who only go for the looks.

Actually the regular old school bar dating or "by a chance" in person on the street and so on, you get more chance, because looks might not impress some women, but by your personality and manners, which will be available right away along with your looks meeting them face to face.
That's why internet dating is like window shopping. Lots of wishful thinking. Being hungry for a cake behind the glass, while the cake might not even real but plastic, or the cake might look good, but taste like $h1t.

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Tue 01/12/10 09:54 PM


What kind of emails are you sending that aren't getting replies?


I am never sure what to write when e-mailing so I usually will write
"Hi,just wanted to send a note to say Hi and wanted to know if you would like to chat,Hope to hear back from you"


I do want to thank you all for your replies,all of you have helped me.

Happy New Year to all of you.

Kenny


Kenny Hi and welcome to the site. I am sorry those type of emails don't get much response.
The emails I am interested in getting are the ones that have read my profile, and actually has things in common with me. Mention something in a profile, and also something you both have in common.

Keep it short a paragraph or two.

good luck

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