Call me crazy if ya wish to... but I have the damnedest time finding a woman who is capable of standing on her own two feet while holding a brain on her shoulders and being strong enough to be approachable. Is this ideal just a pipe dream?

I am currently a college student and an extremely active student and meanwhile I have been sifting through a lot of the women who I found an interest in and really been kinda depressed with the results. 75% of all the women I meet that are to my taste are taken... 15% are not what they seem... 10% are suddenly nuns in person. Now don't get me wrong on the "nuns" statement... I don't mean I'm looking for the girl who throws it off in a heartbeat because I'm not... honestly if a girl is willing to do that quickly... that worries me more than her being a pain to chase. My main issue with women in the area I meet is that they are all very... umm... quiet in person. Meaning that they seemed like they coulda been fun to be with either online or when I met them through their friends in person... however when we go out they're very different.

I have even met a couple women here on this site and the results... yeah well it says I wasn't active for about eight months for a reason. I met one girl who seemed like she was a fun loving girl who seemed cool... however in person my IQ dropped by the second because of her. I unfortunately made the mistake of letting her meet some friends of mine... and haven't heard the end of it since. Now the question here is was meeting her a mistake on my behalf and being open enough to meet her with friends? Or was it on her end for being two faced in person? The other woman I met was a beautiful girl who seemed like she loved to go to movies and concerts... so I lined up a movie for us and had her go with me to a premier that a friend of mine won tickets to and didn't have the time to go to. I ended up finding out she was a pastor's daughter and still attached by the hip to her mother at the age of 28.

Most of the turn offs I have heard from women are usually arranged around me not having a car, or having a job. The part that bugs me is I do have income... I do have friends who can take me places... and I am so active in school that sometimes I only have time to come home and sleep from helping out/studying all day and evening (this is usually rare).

What I truly miss though is having a girl who is not only good in bed but good in life... good to talk to... good to hang out with... good to be with in general. I am an intelligent man and I do value a woman's intellect. I also miss having the girl who leaves her bags and issues at the door... I know in relationships you sometimes due have to share the load... but it should be the load of your relationship... not one another. I keep my life to myself and the stress from it to myself as best I can and need someone who can do the same. Also what happened to the "I'm off" woman? The woman who when the clock chimes that the work day is over (be it a student or working woman) that the work ends and out comes the loving woman who wants to spend the night relaxing?

My main concern with women since I moved to Dallas is when I am open enough to admit I could see myself with them (I only say this to women I KNOW) they just seem to take it like a silly compliment and don't grasp the depth of the meaning. Some of the women I knew in person I have said that to and then they just seem not to change their interactions to me at all... sometime down the road I find out they hooked up with someone who treated/treats them badly... I can't really look past that being an insult.

I have met women with a back bone...
I have met women with a brain...
I have met women who stand on their own feet...
I have met women who are fun to be with...
I have met women who could stir my blood...
I have yet to meet any woman who is all of the above...

So, I'm confused.

Are you wanting a girl or a woman? You're letter flips back and forth between the two.

Hmm... you have a point. Definitely a woman... I'm done with girls. Sorry about flipping the terminology it is kinda 4:30AM LOL.

I know the feeling. At 7AM I'll have been up for 24 hours. And I don't get to sleep till 9AM at the earliest.

Sad thing is I just got up a couple hours ago... but I can't turn on the coffee pot for another hour otherwise it would torment my roommate because I can make some good cupa-joe. <---Arkansas phrase.

Keep looking believe me they are out there...

here I thought you just wanted help in moving furniture

strong women are everywhere - enjoy the ride

tons of strong women in Texas. but be careful what you wish for

For sure most men can't handle a strong woman. I have yet to find one that can handle me....................