I have a negative stereotype of people in my area due to bad experiences I have had with them. I know not everybody is like that. But it has gotten me thinking really deeply. I have often thought that people are molded and shaped by their environments. Lets say that I changed states. Do you think that would have a positive impact on me finding someone nice? Do I need to go to a larger area? A bigger city? Maybe there is an unbalanced Male to Female ratio in my city/state I am unaware of? Or will people be just as crappy elsewhere? I don't mind traveling/relocating. I found Canada rather nice and Las Vegas was alright too. I don't want to leave all my friends and family behind, not find anyone and be even more lonesome. But is there something to this? What are your opinions on the matter?

I wonder this same thing too, and comparing everyone I've met and known here in kansas city where I've lived most of my life to Cali where I was stationed for 2 years, I cant say exactly if my experience then was different because of the thrill or not, but I definitely was more into the girls, and most people generally, in cali than here. I dunno, everything in the midwest just seems fake to me.

Thats just my personal opinion tho, may or may not make any difference for you.

You think the midwest is fake as compared to cali



Anyways... I think it comes down to the excitement of something new. When you see the same people all the time, you get bored with it.

The thing about moving, there will always be that same person there... which is you. Change your own attitude and your environment will change eventually as well. Growth. Those that don't understand, respect or are aware of your personal growth are the ones stuck in the runt not you.

A fresh start is good if one is looking to down size or upgrade, from country to city or vice versa. Moves for careers or the sense of adventure.

People are people no matter where in the world you go, sure a little different cultures and customs, but still the same people.

I think we can find nice people anywhere. The problem, many times, is in who we are attracting to us and why. When we figure that out and make the necessary adjustments to ourselves, I think our quest for love gets easier and we attract better options. Sometimes, a change of pace or scenery can do wonders to help us maintain thos adjustments we make though. Staying in the same environment and doing the same things is a sure way to get the same result. I just believe the first thing that needs to change is the things we are doing,,and THEN the environment we do them in.

You made a very good point. I spose I just need to leave my cave more often and find better places to socialize. There is not a whole lot in my area but I will look into the fairs and festivities that go on in Dayton Ohio.

Oh, you are a Dayton resident? poor thing, IM from Akron and I feel your pain.

Yeah, definitely, ,just try some different techniques and work on being the kind of person that would attract the kind of person you are looking for.

I am fifteen minutes drive from Dayton. Dayton is a dying city. I guess I need to go see some live bands or something. I'll have to ask my friend where it is and what it is called but he went to a bar up in dayton and saw Kittie. I guess they have a bunch of heavy bands I am into and thus might meet my "type." It is worth a shot.

come to Texas....we have a ton of people here

WOW...You sound DESPERATE...

Go West, young man, Go West!

People suck everywhere, and you take yourself with you. I've lived in over 10 states, including the one I just moved to a few months ago. I've hated every one of them, always found something wrong with the people and their lifestyles. Now I realize it's not them, it's me. Change your mind and change your life.

Not really. I just think alot and dwell on things.

I went to Las Vegas Nevada with my family once when I was 14 and it was wonderful. Once I aquire the means to do so I want to see New Mexico. Maybe the Dakotas as well.

Having lived many places across the USA I have to say unless you are from and extreamly remote thinnly populated ara that you can find desireable people to date and highly likely marry if that is your desire.

That said in any community there are someplaces where single people tend to congregate and making yourself present in those activities are going to up your odds at meeting and being attracted to and seen as attractive by annother.

Improveing your dateing skills can not hurt. Being the kind of person you would feel desireable to will help. Specificly looking approachable, and treating people considerately.

Yeah, I need to find some new spots I spose.

The west is best... I would relocate for love...there are a few places I would not want to live though.

Vegas is fun, I wouldn't want to live there. There is an entirely different part of Vegas the tourists never see.

South Dakota is very cool... Montana is really awesome, if ya don't mind the cold and snow.

And Wyoming has some nice spots as well, even some smaller town in Idaho are nice.

I'm kind of leaning towards Oregon myself. I loved Seattle when I lived there..it's too big a city for me now. Was fun 20 some years ago.

For the scenic views of nature I would probably enjoy the west most of all. Would New York be a good place to relocate to if I did relocate for love? It has tons of people all packed together so I would be forced to socialize on a daily basis.