Who said anything about feeling sorry for myself??

You seem to be missing my position.

I don't feel " sorry for myself ". I just don't feel anything ' happy happy joy joy " type of stuff during the holidays.

They are just more days.

See...one of the major things with me is that, after my daughter was taken from me, I really had nothing to look forward to during this time of year. I wasn't all gung ho about it in the first place. But that occurrence pretty much nailed the lid shut on it for me. It's been five years since I had someone to spend the Holidays with...but even when I did...I didn't have " the spirit ".

I know there are people a lot less fortunate than I am. But that isn't something that makes ME actually give a damn about the holidays.

< shrug >

I do what I can for people. Always have. Sometimes to the point of being taken advantage of. But it doesn't really stop me.

Hugs, Heather.

Good to know there are more like me....lol

I feel the same but in time I know when I meet someone and we celebrate Christmas it will be merry.I dream of having someone helping hanging lights all that kind of stuff.

Don't try to be or feel anything just because other people tell you you should or make you feel like you should. It'll make you crazy. I know.

Meh. I'm already crazy....lol

I dream of having someone helping me shoot out the neighbor's lights with a bb gun.

Sorry. Bad mood.

well if you're okay with it, then why bother with the thread? maybe you don't want to be alright with it? maybe affirmation that you're an okay person still, in spite of not feeling anything special?

it's a good opportunity to get out and do something for someone less fortunature and more needy than yourself. it's puts your health, mental and financial, in a more appreciative perspective and that's always a positive thing.

it might not have anything to do with celebrating the birth of christ, but it is something that christ would be proud of and if that doesn't matter, surely it's something for which you could be proud.

Okay then, quit worrying about it and let them think you are not quite right. Who cares?

My sentiments exactly.

I dunno. Maybe I just find it a little odd that I can't seem to muster anything in the joy department. Like I said, it's been a long time since I have been able to.

Maybe I DID need to know that I'm not some kind of freak/outcast because of it.



As I have said, I have and do.

Guess I won't be doing this again.

I think you have lots of reasons to celebrate that maybe you're not aware of. Like how talented, smart, sexy, funny and sweet you are. You are an amazing writer. You have accomplished and overcame a lot in your life. You have made wonderful friendships. You have family, friends and a good job so, there seems to be at least some reason to celebrate, but if that still doesn't get ya in the mood then you can always go with Etrain's idea and make the holidays mean something different like watchin Asian midget porn

That's it!! Instead of stressing out like I always do during the holidays I can just think of Asian midget porn lol...c'mon JAG ya gotta admit that's some funny **** right there! Anyway, point being that maybe it's time you should make it mean something. It doesn't necessarily have to be about "the spirit". Make it about you and reflect on all the wonderful things in your life and be thankful. No one can force Xmas up your a$$ no matter how good their intentions are and there is nothing wrong with not being all giddy during the holidays either. People look at the holidays differently anyway. I feel the same way as what CatsLoveMe posted.

So, do whatever the he!! ya want. Feel whatever the he!! ya want.


Just one quick question...are we meeting back here Christmas Eve for the Asian midget porn viewing???

If only I could get that night off work.

< sigh >

LOL

i didn't mean anything negative by what i said.

i'm sure there are thousands of people, like you, who are devoid of any joy at christmas.

i find that just aging in general takes away some of the magic of the season and instead it's spent bustling around trying to accomplish all the extras that need to be done. that, in itself, is quite a mood breaker.

No worries, paper.

I didn't take it negatively.

ohhh..I get it...the Grinch.

You didn't want a response of people reaching out trying to help, just a screw it, I don't like it either, mof, and I'm with you brother.
Bah Humbug!

I have definitely been called a Grinch hundreds of times..lol

The thing is, a " Grinch " wants to ruin it for everyone around him. He wants everyone else to be as miserable as he is.

I don't hold anyone's level of holiday happiness against them.

And I'm not miserable. lol

< edit >

I really do appreciate people trying to help. I have actually done the volunteer work that people have suggested. I just don't leave it for only around Christmas time.

I feel I'm on the same wavelength as you. "They" try to tell us that "we" are supposed to buck-up and have that Christmas cheer. But if we don't feel it to begin with, how are we supposed to artificially supposed to feel that way? Win the lotto, get stinkin' drunk, err...get laid? Christmas means what each of us wants it mean, not what anyone else tells us it should mean. Myself, I feel everyone has gotten derailed off the tracks of what the true meaning of Christmas is.

1) Find someone to do something kind hearted for.
2) Do it.
3) If spirit still unmoved, see #1