you forgot something
you mention son tursns gay.
what about the daughter she could as well

i have a daughter that is 26yrs old with 3kids. she is now divorced after waiting for 2yrs to file. dont know why. but she came to me last yr and said do you think grandma would be upset and i looked at her and i told her i had question myself for my daughter had a lesbien friend she was hanging around with.. but that wasent the person she was interested in.. it was someone else that we didnt feel she was good for my daughter and she actually learned the hard way, after she had moved to tinian is when her partner ex threatened to kill her, she and my grandkids are doing better and she waiting on her taxes so they can get back to oregon

1.how do you break the where do babies come from bombshell.
(My answer is Heaven)

2.your baby girl is 15 and looking at guys.
(OK i know this is going to sound mean but i was just going to say they have some sort of std)

3. your son brings home a gold digging whore.
( i dont know how to approach that)

4. son or daughter getting beat up in school.
(i want to help them out by beating the little bastard up but i dont want them to always rely on me to )

5.your son turns out gay
(..........)

6.they catch you and your wife in the act of making a baby brother or sister.
(........)
7.one of them turns out to be children with special needs.
(.......)

8.Your kids Has High IQ and would have to go to a expensive private school.(tough it out i guess)

9.First Jail visit!

10.A abusive girlfreind or boyfreind. (Rip their ****ing head off)(..........)

6.they catch you and your wife in the act of making a baby brother or sister.
(........)
7.one of them turns out to be children with special needs.
(.......)

8.Your kids Has High IQ and would have to go to a expensive private school.(tough it out i guess)

9.First Jail visit!

10.A abusive girlfreind or boyfreind. (Rip their ****ing head off)

^your first few answers are perplexing to me. Haven't we as a society learned anything yet about the long term effects of lying to the children of the world.....and if your son did turn out gay, would he not still be YOUR SON...his sexual preference should have no bearing on the bond between father and son. Same with a special needs child, all children have SPECIAL NEEDS, it's called LOVE

OK one day i hope to be a proud parent of what ever my wife or girl friends pops out. but i have a few questions that i know is going to show up sooner or later.if you want feel free to add more questions


1.how do you break the where do babies come from bombshell.
(My answer is Heaven)

Well education about procreation should never be a " bomb shell". It comes in tiny teaching moments. In small steps you talk about differencse and how they work together in age approriate ways. Boys have one kind of parts. Girls have others. That they fit together one way or another is hardly a relevation to kids. Hopefully there is some recognition about when they grow up special things happen. And hopefully love plays a part of the process. And that God blesses them with life. Little children need real words to have the vocabulary to understand what they are hearing but that not everyone uses nice words and some times some conversations are only polite in special places.

2.your baby girl is 15 and looking at guys.
(OK i know this is going to sound mean but i was just going to say they have some sort of std)

Yea right out of the box trash your credibility. First off if your daughter is waiting to 15 to "start" look at guys you have a different problem to deal with. Biological attraction starts a good decade earlier.

3. your son brings home a gold digging whore.
( i dont know how to approach that)

First you treat her with the courtesy and respect you would any other friend of his he brings to his home and for you to know. You ask what he knows about the person and how he feels about her. You jump to conclusions and drama you immediately shut down communication and make him defend her. Re-discussing family values and why they are important and being wise for him to have the brightest possible future but not lectureing is ok. Just remember the bitterist words to hear from your child are no words when they chose to be with the person you have slandered justly or unjustly.

4. son or daughter getting beat up in school.
(i want to help them out by beating the little bastard up but i dont want them to always rely on me to )

Bullying is an issue you will do with the minute your little darling learns that you cringe when they bellow. Teaching a child to deal with stress and difficult people starts in the playpen. Telling them when they need to turn to you for help should be and ongoing situation. Being aware of their situation is your responsibility. You should know what your schools policy is on this and many issues. Assumeing that you are getting the whole truth from your kid is poor judgement.

5.your son turns out gay
(..........)

Hopefully before your child really demonstrates a sexual identity you will have educated yourself about what it means to be gay and realize very little changes about him being your child and needing your love, support, and acceptance.

6.they catch you and your wife in the act of making a baby brother or sister.
(........)

You realise you have failed in respecting your own responsibility to maintain your privacy and ask them to please go to another location immediately. Chances are they are aware that Mommy and Daddy are lovers and nobody, is getting hurt, but if they ask you questions tell them that Mommy and Daddy time is private.


7.one of them turns out to be children with special needs.
(.......)

First you cry. All the "nice" terms and platitudes will not get you through the greif. To deny it is being unfair to the entire family and untruthful to your child.

Then you pull yourself together and take it one day at a time. Not being too proud to ask for help and learning from the experiences of others.

rather than being peeved at God you count your blessings your child has survived being born and ask for what you need to do to be clear in your faith. When you learn what they CAN do you then push them to learn to live up to their fullest potential one day at a time the same way you do any other child.



8.Your kids Has High IQ and would have to go to a expensive private school.(tough it out i guess)

First off don't over value simple IQ. It is part of the package of your child's ability to learn but it has little to do with development and social maturity and personality. Address the whole person as in any other situation. Private school is highly over rated. A child who wants to learn will learn in the average public school not being turned into a freak or a lab rat will more likely guarantee a happy person who can make the most of his intelligence.

9.First Jail visit!

Depending why your child is in jail from his own choices, or someone elses, you let them learn from the experience in a reality check. I think you cooperate with their lawyer but if they can't afford a lawyer on their nickle then you sell everything they own right down to the bed they sleep in and make them get a job and pay you back the rest. If they can't get remand then you don't bail them out of jail and rish the home and sustanance they are probably going to desperately need when they get out of jail.

10.A abusive girlfreind or boyfreind. (Rip their ****ing head off)

Hopefully you are aware of the situation early and headed off at the pass. When someone even one they are infatuated with are being dominated you get involved. Watching your child's "learning rel;ations" is part of the job. If your child is a minor you get your child the counseling help they need to cope with the experience. Immediately terminateing any contact with the abuser. Documenting times and dates and pressing any applicable charges to the fullest extent. If you have to remove your child better you take a few backsteps then bury them.

First of all......

Let's hope your married. (jmo)

Second.....

Don't think of all the bad first. Think of the beauty a child brings to your world

Crap will happen....

You will deal accordingly!!