My fiance's grandmother's last wish before she dies is that she wants her grandson to marry his babies' mother, he doesn't want to hurt her, but he loves me, and I dont think that she has met me yet. His mom and dad are the only ones who actually know me out of his family, and they want him to marry me because according to his mom, I'm more sensible, smarter, caring, kind and sweet and will actually take care of him and the kids, even though he has cancer. but the rest of the family believes that he should marry her because it's the right thing to do, and they dont honestly care who they hurt, even if he gets his heart broken and everything by her, it will be me, Jesse and his mom picking up the pieces if he should go that way. So tell me, should he leave me, and go off and marry someone that he doesn't love and give up his happiness, or should he stay with me, and actually be loved and taken care of like he is suppose to?

Wow.

This isn't even something that should be considered.

Just cuz granny wants him to??

You gotta be kidding.

Well it's up to him really, but you should already know the answer.
Why give up being happy, i wouldnt get back with the mother of my child after the stuff she pulled and how she acted. I'd rather stay single, or be with someone who makes me happy.

I dont know his situatio but i would rather have my child grow up with 4 caring parents, then 2 that cant stand being in the same room with eachother but live together just to offer a whole family.

I say take happiness, or atleast try to be happy, and try to be the best parent you can be too.

Like i said it's really his decision. If he loves her they work i think do that, if not try to be happy and give the kid a couple good homes then.

Thats just my opinion, i could be wrong(athough i doubt it here).

Why doesn't he just wait until his Grandma dies, and then marry whoever he wants?

He should go where ever his heart takes him weather is leaving you to please his grandmother or being happy living by your side its his i don't think any parent what so ever should tell their child who they should love and who they shouldn't but unless they see something bad in you.

Honestly, who does your boyfriend want to marry? How did you find out all of this information? I think IF your boyfriend told you then you have a problem.
I feel like this...I don't let anyone tell me who to marry, that is my decision and if no one agrees with it that is their problem. You have to remember that Grandma is not the one who has to live with the mate! I think you need to re-evaluate your relationship with your so called boyfriend especially if he is the one telling you how Granny feels!!

didnt you tell us in a previous thread that this other woman signed over her unborn twin's to the father and the two of you were getting married and were planning on raising the babies?

No joke. And his babies' mother automatically believes that I'm out of his life completely, so she decided to try to rub it in my face, now usually, I dont get mad easily, but by god I was so pissed off, that I could of walked there and ripped her apart, and not even denying that I did it. But I had a long talk with his mom and everything, and she explained exactly what was going on. I'm not out of his life, and there is nothing more than his parents want than to welcome me to the family.

I'd end this relationship the guy is not making it clear you are who he intends to be with

Yes I did, but then all this stuff happens. It's ugh!!

His parents seem to want you in his life more than he does.

 Run....

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Your to young for craziness!!!

He made it clear that he wants to marry me, but he doesn't want to hurt his grandmother. I wonder if she has actually met Juila, cause if she hasn't, that would explain why she is still alive.

His parents love me mostly because I'm the only girl that he has ever dated that hasn't hurt him in any way.

I don't think it matters what his parents want. I honestly think he is playing you..I don't think he is being totally honest with you about who he is IN love with.
You are way to young to get into a mess like this. Cut your ties and run like crazy!!

I guess if he feels as strongly as them, then he will marry you. Gramma is going to have to live with it. Or not.

you are 20 years old don't be in such a hurry to get married go to school use this time to make a life so when you have kids you will be better prepared

This may come off as cold...but maybe he should have left the leash with grandma. He is a big boy, he can make big boy decisions now...

I agree with Fear if he isn't man enough to stand up to granny he wouldn't be a man to me

i wonder how well you know your fiancee at all?