I'm 24 and I often find myself attracted to men who are older (30s). I
personally don't see this as a large age difference, but a lot of the
men I'm interested in talk to me and treat me like I'm a child. It
usually ends up making them feel uncomfortable that I'm younger.

I'm wondering if anyone else has any thoughts on this topic. I'm sure
it's come up a million times before, but I'm really new here.

okay sometimes men can do that i get it alot i love older men dont ask
me why but i know what u mean about getting treated like a child it
sucks big time.your a very pretty women and im sure you'll find that
nice man. theres not that big of an age diffrence to me atleast i see
age is just a number hope that helped

totally know what ur saying.. i recently dated a older guy..i am 22..
and he was 30... and he was really nice and respectful at first... but
then it turned into feeling like he was trying to act superior than me?
so i guess thats why we didnt wind up connecting like we did on our
first date... and now he dosent call me ... all well his loss

When I was late teens - early 20s, I only went out with older women; not
sure why, that was just the way it worked out. Even in high school, my
gfs were always older! Maybe because I was always involved in musical
things and that exposed me to a wider range of people.

It shifted a little as I got older, and my last x number of girlfriends
have been younger. The absolute best gf I've had was 11 years younger,
but her age wasn't the reason she was the best. It was her intelligence
(160 IQ!), her creativity, her communications skills, her warmth and
loving nature, the fact that we NEVER ran out of things to talk
about....if I could meet another one like her, I wouldn't care how old
she was!

Having seen both sides of the spectrum, I've reached the conclusion that
the age is really irrelevant, since every person is different, every
person has different aptitudes and capabilities and beliefs and
requirements. And judging someone solely by a number like age, makes no
more sense then judging them by their shoe size or Social Security
Number.

So, what this really tells me is that it's really more a function of
circumstance and who you have access to. Since I don't drink, I don't
hang out in bars, therefore I don't interact much with drinkers.

I think every case has to be looked at individually.

When people ask me about what's too young or too old, I always say
"Diapers on either end of the scale is a red flag." Which is either
overstating it or understating it a bit; but I really don't see age as
any sort of major determinant.

what's up with the younger men and older women huh? cause doesn't taht
fit more.. cause a female is just as fully sexually mature at 30 as men
are in there teens and 20s.

IMHO age is just a number if you truly connect on a deeper mental,
emotional and spiritul level with another person.

Well, I have a limit with even the profiles that I look at, and I have
had some very young women or ladies look at my profile as well. I do not
know why they would even be interested in a man of my age while they are
so young, but as for me... I just cant see myself dating someone that is
younger than my oldest daughter, I mean that would make me feel like I
would be a pervert... but I guess that's just me.

Im with you Dave...I would have flashes of my daughters...
couldnt handle that...

I don't think age really matters..its just a number. I have dated
younger guys and things worked out really well. Now the last guy was
about 3 years older, that was very nice also.
Its not that I even look at the age factor, I just go by how we get
along. It does seem like I mostly get along better with the younger
ones...well atleast thats what I thought until here lately I
think I go by more of a maturity level and a connection level...but I do
have a son that is getting older, so I do have to set some rules on the
age limit.

Dave just because you look it does NOT mean you are interested. You
could be curious about someone after a post that has a response or
comment that STANDS out.

It could be you want to know where that person is from. Not that you
want to date that person

Honestly, my age limit is no more than 7 years

Oh what the flip!!! the younger the buck the stiffer the horn


Barbies being naughty tonight!!!!!!!!

I agree that age doesn't really matter. I just think that a lot of guys
who are 30, 31, 32 get weird about age. They are freaking out
themselves because they aren't in their 20s anymore, and so they start
making non-stop comments about how young I am. They get so insecure
about it I guess. It happend to me last night at a bar with a guy who
is 29. He's 5 years older... who cares. I have a rule: I won't date
guys as old or older then my mother. My only exception at this point is
Colin Firth (great english actor).

Philosphically speaking younger women are great as long as they are
mentally mature. I don't want a girl thats more like a daughter than a
lover and friend.

age does not really matter

if the guy you are dating treats you like a kid then that is his problem
not yours and frankly he would not be worth dating

- treated as an equal and loved unconditionally

Not everyone goes through life stages at the same ages.
Some guys are late bloomers.
So when a guy is just beginning to mature with establishing
relationships, the women of his age or generation have already been
there...done that...had a family...and moved into other stages of life.

So the late bloomer guy considers selecting a girl from
a "fresh batch" of women... whom are without all the baggage of a lot of
failed relationships as is the case with older women or women of the
guy's age.

Makes sense to me.

I think it all comes down to the idea that "compatibility" isn't
something you can stick a number on. You never know who you will
"click" with; and, to exclude someone up front, without ever giving them
a chance, strictly on the basis of a number, might deprive you of a
chance to mesh with the best person you will ever meet....

UMMM OK BUT THERE IS NO WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY THAT i WILL LET MYSELF CONNECT
WITH AN 18 YEAR OLD NO MATTER WHAT YOU SAY!!!!

Gypsy, are you from the Chicago area or are you just visiting?

I agree with sodamnsexy... plus I've always been told that I act older
then my age (probably why I find myself more attracted to men within
5-15 years older then me). I just find that the men in the early 30s
age range sometimes freak themselves out about "how young I am". It
obviously doesn't bother me at all...

But I'm really glad to see so many people commenting on this topic.

I've been wondering about this. I want a family, even though I'm a bit
young. All of the guys my age are too immature for a family and I'm not
the type to go out drinking for a fun time. Not my cup of tea. I've been
meeting some guys on here who are 28-29 and I'm wondering if a 9 years
difference is too much? I'm 20, by the way.