So what's the consensus lately regarding how soon you meet someone?

Would you consider it a red flag if you talked to someone one evening for a few emails and exchanged pictures and they suddenly ask if you would like to go out?

If you do see some red flag material here...what is it?

seems like it would have to be a case by case evaluation

if you only talked to a person a couple times but found out they only live a couple blocks away then it would be fine to meet for coffee after only a couple of emails

but if they lived 1200 miles away and wanted to meet after a couple it would be kinda presumptive

but then papersmile and I knew after only a couple of emails and started planning a trip for her to fly to Texas

but then of course we are perfect for each other and that doesn't happen very often

I think if they are pushy about it that might be a red flag. I know pushy people in general annoy me. Or if they don't respect your wishes. If you said, I really like chatting with you and would prefer to spend some more time getting to know you before we meet ... and they are insistant on meeting... red flag imo

But if you think there is a connection than proceed to see if that chemistry is there in person... I don't see anything wrong with meeting. Just follow the basic safety stuff!

I don't see any red flag in what you described.
I personally don't like investing a lot of energy into a potential relationship until we've met in person and I can verify that there really is potential.
So, from what you described, I would be wanting to meet already too.
You have to go with your instincts though. If you feel something is not right, but you don't understand why, then don't reason away your intuition. Listen to it, something is not right. But if you don't have any such vibe, then make sure fear doesn't cause you to miss out on an experience that could enhance your holiday season.

but then if he wants to meet you at the strip club that might be a red flag

Personally,I don't see any red flags based on what you posted.As well don't know how your e/mails went.I think the person truly just wants to meet you.Good Luck!!

Every woman I've met online (and there haven't been too many) wanted to meet quickly. Within a few days and usually the next day. They understood you just can't get to know someone through emails. It's too easy to lie.

I think it's more suspicious if someone doesn't want to meet after several messages. Either they have something to hide or they aren't really interested in meeting someone new.

Not to get nit-picking about words.... a few emails - iffy; several emails - of course make plans to meet within the context.

You are right, from my experience if they want to meet too quick something is up. If they want to drag it out, they are hiding baggage! Some chicks are very smart and they inject info very slow, they might start out telling you they are divorced and never go out on weekdays. In two months they end up telling you that senior has left 7 Juniors behind, when he fled to Mexico.

Sooner rather than later, too many expectations can get built up if it drags out too long.

A couple of women wanted to meet ASAP, but they had a 'few drinks' under their belt already.

These are good answers and give me much to think on.

I may have screwed it up anyhow....when he mentioned meeting it was a few minutes after midnight and he said "tonight". My head automatically assumed THAT night (as in last night) and I wondered why the hell someone would ask me to go out that late and my head immediately went to a booty call... I just bailed out of the conversation. This morning I'm thinking he probably meant TONIGHT. OOPS! I'll just wait and see what exactly he did mean. If he doesn't email again....no great time lost.

Oh the joys of overthinking this online stuff!

Well, your reaction would have been mine... However, I probably would have clarified which 'tonight' he meant. And if it was as in right then, I would have scared him off directly!

if he wants to meet in the alley behind the pool hall, thats prolly a red flag

or at the truckstop out at the county line. that might be a redflag too

or at a adult theater

Yep, It didn't hit me until this morning... It'll be interesting to see if I get another email.

Shoot.....I was planning to suggest the truckstop too. They have such a nice selection of christmas presents to look at.

ohhh you mean actually going inside

thats different

You might want to just e/mail him yourself, instead of wondering .At least explain your bolting.I would say he's wondering as well.Good Luck

You know, people can lie in person just like they can through emails. I can normally tell when a woman is not being completely honest, or if she just isn't into me, or that she may want to say something but just doesn't want to do it right now. I don't want a woman to just blast out tons of info at me right away. Too much to process. And baggage is something we all have folks. Now, if she is married or is in the process of getting divorced and lied about it (by saying she is single) then she will get the nice "deletion" from Goof's archives.

And another thing. Women (it appears) are more apprehensive in sharing info because alot of times they have been deceived by a dude. Yes, men have it happen to them too, but I don't feel it is as frequent for us as it is for the ladies.

Now, if she wants to get together for a night of lust, then digits, hotel room and accessories are needed.