When you go through a divorce, there are so many stages to go through. It took me over a year and a half to even want to think about dating someone else. I wanted to make sure that the old relationship was through and I would never bring baggage into the new relationship. I am actually glad I waited...it gave me "me time," sometimes we forget to take care of ourselves.
good luck

You're still married no matter what kind of spin you put on it. Why don't you take care of that before looking for "friends"? Oh and you can't find "friends" in real life? You sign up for a dating site to do so? Sign up for WOW or whatever.

And I also call BS on you not looking for a date...several of your previous posts have stated you found some girls cute and wanted to know how to approach them...for what? Scrabble? Give me a break.

Whew,,sorry but your still married,state that, your not even legally seperated.Your mentioning your x .... she is not an X.And yes this is a dating site.If your looking for FWB state that.Come on lets be honest here!!

WOW,,,,,for someone as shallow as you, wink,,,THIS observation,,,,,,must have been made from someone much shorter and with long hair as to protect the very intelligent brain beneath it,,wink,lol...YOU have a very interesting profile that just over-flows with,,,,,,,,,all the hurt of living life on a singles site,wink, CHEERS to a GREAT READ!!
Oh,,,and there really are,,,,some good men left on this site..
NO,,,I am NOT one of them,,,I am just a REAL person..,wink,,

Now as for these comments to the OP..I agree,,,,100 percent.
Many tend to LOOK, or SEE whats available BEFORE they FINISH the DONE DEAL...which is why I have always said NO to dating one in HIS current situation,,as I would NOT want to be,,THEIR EXCUSE,or REASONS to tell their mate,,,,Goodbye...wink,,
And one can only relate to that, IF they have been on THAT DUMPED side... <-----I added these,just to anger you more,,,,lol,lol

Wait you're calling me shallow for calling him married? He IS married and on a dating site claiming to look for friends. He also admits to being on singlesnet...he didn't sign up for separatednet or marriednet, did he???.

Of course my profile is a great read, duh. BTW, what's written in my profile has nothing to do with this subject. If I wanted a profile review, I would ask for one, but since I didn't well I know it may not have tons of "put this picture in your profile if" ad nauseam, but I have no soul and the plight of finding dates by doing so is lost on me.

Also, you don't have to type the word "wink", there is a smiley in the menu to the left. <---See?

Thanks for playing.

I used to always put smiles on my statements joking or flirting and then some one said you can put a smiley for that lol duh, yeah. But putting a smiley wasn't the way I was feeling it :) smiles.

So she is angry that your on a site such as Mingle, if she was my ex i would be saying you to me are ex-communicated. ex-directory,ex-tinct,ex-lover notice the EX? MEANING. Anna x

oh good grief charlie brown....


this is not rocket science....

your still married......

your in denial about wanting "just friends"

you really want to get laid but are afraid to admit it.

Neither You or your ex know how to patch things up with each other so ...now you need a divorce.....i suggest saving as much money as quickly as possible so you can get one.

quit listening to your ex....unless you think there may be a chance you two can work things out. If she cares to know who your with then obviously she still cares about YOU. If thats the case then you need to ask yourself if you still care about her....do you?

Is it enough to try to work on the relationship?

If not then don't let what she thinks bother you....what she thinks has no business being on your mind when its your decision on what you want to do.

To get laid or not to get laid...that is the question.

I wanna see this one.

OP somehow I get the feeling she is not an EX but a PRESENT... Maybe you should take care of old business before you take care of new business.,

Maybe your so called "ex" thinks you are CHEATING by being online whether it's for friends are not!

SOME women/men do honestly consider being on a "Dating Site" as a form of unfaithfulness

-JMO-

Divorce is such a mess........Avoid new romantic entanglements, it will just add to your heartache. Avoid your soon-to-be ex except for legitimate reasons regarding the dissolution of the marriage.

Take some time for yourself.
Get back to feeling good about you.
Get to the place where it's OK not to have someone in your life.


Good Luck

You don't HAVE to be indecent about it. Don't do it in the schoolyard during noon recess; but in the recesses of your home, sheltered behind drawn courtains and impenetrable walls.

Geezzz...I'm just getting OWNED on this topic. Again, for those ladies out there, I'm not denying anything! True that my ex and I are separated and we're already at the point that we just want to get a divorce. We had already agree that we're not compatible and if we continue to stay together, we'll tear each other heads off. One of us will end up dead and there has been plenty of times where I've lost it! I can get along with everyone else but her on the other hand, I cannot unless we treat each other like friends. I am only here to look for FRIENDS, nothing more! If you question my integrity of why am I on here? Well, first it was out of curiosity for shiots and giggles...but when I finally figured out that its best just to make or look for friends, I went ahead with it. My intention is to look for friends and that doesn't exclude men, and the shocking truth is, I have more guy friends than female friends because us guys can be such arsehole to each other and wouldn't give a rats *** about it. Women on the other hand would be so offended and uptight about it. I had already made up my mind that being in a relationship isn't for me anymore because its not part of my life and I don't belong there. That is why in earlier replies of older posts, I end up saying that not everyone has another half in their lives. I had always believed that I was born for war ever since I was 8 and continued to train myself to be like that but it doesn't mean that I'm completely barbaric! I have manners and everything else that comes along with it. So, really, what's the point of me being in a relationship?

Why does your ex-wife have any control whatsoever over your b@lls?

Stop letting her have control over you. You are giving her PERMISSION and the woman has no rights. No wonder you are screwed up. Stay out of her business and make her stay out of yours. Otherwise, you are just making a juicy drama sandwich, and if you insist on that crap, you deserve every pain and all sorts of suffering for being STUPID!!!

Quit trying to listen to "everybody else" ESPECIALLY you're ex, soon to be ex, someday will be an ex, current ex, whatever she is... if the word EX is involved, she doesn't get to tell you what to do or what you should or shouldn't be doing anymore. Those rights have been stripped.
There, now that that part is out of the way...

You do what you feel you need to do to make yourself happy. If you're going to try and meet someone, just be CLEAR about your situation. As long as you're not hiding anything, harming anyone, or lying, then by all means, talk to whoever you want to.

I was on here the whole time I was in a relationship. I was very clear that I just wanted to chat on here and talk to people, friends only. I don't see anything wrong with it.

Lie to her bro.

She is worked up and on your @ss anyway. Might as well flip her out and get SOME entertainment out of it.

Tell her you ain't looking cause you are banging a 20 year old stripper with webbed toes and a real fetish for teabagging.

That should throw her.

Face it man.....angry jealous women are GONNA b#tch. Might as well do it on your terms.

"She does things for me that you never would....like put a hickey on my gooch while I watch MASH reruns". Laugh your @ss off when you lie too. She will have no idea how to react.

Trust me.....this is a legitimate diversionary tactic.

Well Well, you complain about the EX as if it is ANY of her buisness, then when your given the same advice by different people ie... get laid you respond like scarlet Ohara OMIGOSH!!!!
What we have here folks is a prude in wolves clothing!!!!
Dude grow a pair and get on with it..........