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Monier
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Tue 12/08/09 08:50 AM
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Being smart is definitely a curse socially.
Or should I say being smart as well as being sane. I've been trying to restructure my way of thinking when dealing with the opposite sex. I've had many discussions regarding this topic with a female friend of mine. I've found that the higher your level of thinking, the higher the level of expression needs to be. This is great if you are posting on forums but very bad news while dating. The more you express to the other person, the more you come off as 'lecturing' to them and run the risk of ending up on the aggressive side of a seemingly one sided conversation. I came to the conclussion that when getting to know somebody, 'dumbing down' so to say, is the way to go until you know more about them. My friend says it's lowering my standards but I disagree. If you want to understand a person that speaks another language, is'nt the best way to go about it learning how they speak? There is actually alot of wonderful people out there that we are not getting to know because of communication issues. A lady that I talk to may be timid or outgoing when I meet her. Neither may end up being her true personality. She just happens to act that way when she is getting to know somebody. More listening and understanding is needed and even though we often judge another's intelligence based on conversation, I now think that looking for feeling is more important. |
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More listening and understanding is needed and even though we often judge another's intelligence based on conversation, I now think that looking for feeling is more important.   |
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Being smart is definitely a curse socially. Or should I say being smart as well as being sane. I've been trying to restructure my way of thinking when dealing with the opposite sex. I've had many discussions regarding this topic with a female friend of mine. I've found that the higher your level of thinking, the higher the level of expression needs to be. This is great if you are posting on forums but very bad news while dating. The more you express to the other person, the more you come off as 'lecturing' to them and run the risk of ending up on the aggressive side of a seemingly one sided conversation. I came to the conclussion that when getting to know somebody, 'dumbing down' so to say, is the way to go until you know more about them. My friend says it's lowering my standards but I disagree. If you want to understand a person that speaks another language, is'nt the best way to go about it learning how they speak? There is actually alot of wonderful people out there that we are not getting to know because of communication issues. A lady that I talk to may be timid or outgoing when I meet her. Neither may end up being her true personality. She just happens to act that way when she is getting to know somebody. More listening and understanding is needed and even though we often judge another's intelligence based on conversation, I now think that looking for feeling is more important. Good points, but communication and intelligence aren't mutually inclusive, and intelligence comes in different forms. For instance: A scientist may have a high IQ, and be able to lecture the entire scientific community on the benefits of stem cell research, yet lack street smarts (common sense), and find it nearly impossible to communicate his innermost feelings clearly. Still it's important not to judge someone's intelligence, according to their language (communication style), which I think was your last point, and you also made some spot on comments in regard to communication issues. |
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lmao!!!!!!!!!! i see quiet is still at it  i wonder why his screen name is quiet? hahahahaha that was because when I made my first profile back in 2005 I was watching "The Quietman" with JohnWayne so I used that and its been some form of Quietman or QMan or Quiet ever since (except when it was Mongo but thats another story) |
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a smart person makes As a dumb person makes Fs,so when these two breed their children make Cs in school
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a smart person makes As a dumb person makes Fs,so when these two breed their children make Cs in school It's a good thing this isn't necessarily true, otherwise, civilization as we know it would be extinct. |
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Lots of people say they are looking for someone with brains and someone who is "smart". But, I wonder if many of us, myself included, aren't a little intimidated by someone who is much smarter than we are. How do you feel about someone who is much smarter than you? I think for me it would determine how "smart" is defined. I mean we have Book Smart I.Q. smart Life Smart. just a few. I don't think I would be intimidated since I have never met anyone yet that knows everything. The day I do I might be intimidated. I breezed trhough school, and college, life on the other hand was something I had to learn and well I am still learning. My grandfather was the smartest man I ever knew, he made it to 3rd grade and yet he could give you the spec's on building a house in his head and yet he was one of the most humblest people I ever knew., I am not intimidated by someone being smart. I am however, turned off by someone that uses their "smarts" to downgrade someone else. |
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I am attracted to intelligence. If I am smarter than my man I usually leave and end the relationship. Well I usually leave and end every relationship so I guess I have yet to find the intelligent man. I like to have discussions and toss around different thoughts about different topics and if a man can't hold his own view then whats the point. Well, I am seeing someone...but the jury is still out on this one! Wow your Hot Smileycoll, thats one lucky guy the jury is still out on. |
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I'd say if the chick flaunts it ... she's not worth it. If she's nice about it and patient ... then theres something worth while in her to persue.
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