Oooooooooo I love this subject!!!!!!!!!!!


It would seem these days that we as a (so called) civilized society have progressed in many areas, Modern medicine is a wonderfull thing, Tech operations seem unlimited areas of advancement, Bio Engineering Has unlimited potential. We have also (sadly) become quite prificient at other things, Like Verbal and Emotional abuse. We have made an art form of learning how to put down, belittle and degrade one another then have the arogance to turn around and wear it like a badge of honor. I stay a recluse for a reason

I am going to have to "train" myself to keep my mouth shut and not hurt those that I love by saying stupid things that I can't take back.

Do you think there is more emotional and verbal abuse than 100, 300, 500 yrs ago? I am not sure?

I don't GIVE,,,,orders or give out hustle remarks,,and mad will never surface from me to them,,,,UNLESS,,,I recieve THAT from them,,
so mad is a two way street,,,and it takes a big person to over-look little things and not MAKE THEM a ANGERED TIME,,but a talk time to see reasoning and find,,understandings...at least that is my thoughts
I act a lot like a woman, when she's a bit put down or yelled at,,I know this as I have been told this by a few,,wink,lol THAT doesn't bother me to have THAT said as it is true,,I become less talkitive, or silent when my feelings have been pushed away,,in hers,,,,
so as to talk about it,,when and if she would catch THAT,,,then that lets me know,,she's willing to see my views on what happen,,,
or and also,,to see if she knows I am bothered and she doesn't ask me if anythings wrong,,,lol
And I know my ex in many ways acted sometimes that same way,,so I would ask,,we would talk about it...
I've always been a talking through any matter,,type of person.
Because I know things HELD IN,,will GROW...
so WHY,,let them??wink,
And one can SHOW anger everyday,,,and one can choose to NOT see it as anger everyday,,,,I prefer NEVER to be into,,yelling anger or the other one up-set,,if at all possible,,,yet I am a realist and IT WILL still come-about with everyone at some points or times in their lives,,,WE just ned to know,,,the other one,,,still will know and understand our reasons for that...

Thanks

I've apologized for what I said. The other, I am guessing, doesn't care and doesn't want to talk. It's ok. I've said all I can say to express that I am sorry and now I move on from the situation.

Honey what you said,,,wasn't stupid,,,it was maybe wrong,,,but you know I feel the term stupid degrades and YOU will NEVER be STUPID IN MY MIND....And we all say things that we don't really mean as a fact or an air of thought,,so as to your voice being heard,,,YOU MIGHT, pick better timing or choice of words better before saying them,,,,but thats all of us...


This ABOVE,,,is what I would say,,,to YOU,,if WE were in a relationship and you said what you did here above to me,,,wink,lol

Thank you. I know anyone can get mad and say things they don't mean, but the important thing is to talk about them and move past them, not just let it go or stop talking. Maybe one day, they will come around and we can talk...who knows???

If you always speak from your heart and tell the truth you wouldn't have problems like this. There would be nothing to take back. But we are human and it is hard when you are hurt. I try to not speak if I can't say something positive. If I feel the anger coming I try to control it and work out the situation calmly so we can resolve the issue. But I always forgive...or try to when someone said mean thing to me then takes them back.

I think I am a VERY forgiving person, but I do know that others aren't quite so forgiving...it happens.

65 years ago, the Mills Brothers had a #1 hit, "You Always Hurt the One You Love." Perhaps there is a bit of truth as some point in a relationship...something is said or done. We almost all do it!

Last year I lost my temper with someone and apologized, but they never forgave me. For a while, I felt bad about that, because no one had ever not forgiven me, but then I realized that it was their problem not mine. When you wrong someone and apologize to them, and you're truly sorry, it's up to the other person to accept it or not. If they choose not to, there's nothing you can do but move on. You did your part by apologizing, I wouldn't hold on to the guilt if I were you. Next time, be careful what you say, everything can be a learning experience. I hope you feel better soon.