I wouldn't take that bet if you offered a hundred to one.

You already made up your mind about what you are going to do. So why ask the question the in first place?

My, my. You certainly DO have powerful HOPES about this fellow. Lucky "bastid."

You've had a lot of replies already, all in earnest from what I can see. Unfortunately, all any of us can do is guess.
I humbly submit that you are intent of finding out if he 'really missed you,' more to validate your own emotions about him than anything else. Since the relationship is unlikely to progress further than it has, there's no good reason for you to try to get that satisfaction.
It appears no matter what we say, that you will still pine for that validation, so I hope you get it. I don't personally think you CAN get it, since even if he tells you he misses you, you wont be able to believe him.
I suggest you take some vitamins, get a bunch of good, healthy, strenuous exercise, and that will help you put him into perspective. Hopefully, the perspective in this case, will be the rear view mirror.

So you have an issue with this one man & now you are wondering if MEN can be this cold ...wtf

You know I learned long ago that people lie to themselves often! They begin to actually beleive they are a person they really aren't! If someone admits fault, then you probably have a real person! But those who portray themselves as perfect or rightous, take their advice with a grain of salt!

Thank you for your kindness!

Your welcome! Just be careful with your feelings and tell him if he wants to see you then you guys need to take a step back before you take a step forward again, "No Sex"! If you can't trust yourself to not have sex then make sure to spend time together where you can't be vulnerable to your emotions! Good Luck!

and chocolate chip cookies to go with them..

Nothing wrong with wanting that. Just not likely it is gonna happen. From all the responses you have read, it's pretty obvious what the majority of people think, with good reason. The movie ending usually only happens in the movies.

It is more likely, that you love this guy much more than he loves you, and he is probably just coming back for more sex.

Proceed with caution.

Good luck.

Men and women both can be so cold.

You already know the answer to your first question. I'm sorry, but please remember that you are worth more than a booty call.

I AGREE!!!,,wink....and BEEN THERE,lol,lol









IF ya WANT SOME,,,GET SOME,,,
but if ya WANT MORE,,,,don't be openning THAT DAMN DOOR!

How THAT???? Wink,lol,lol

I speak from experience, so please listen. You only harm yourself and your self esteem by letting him back in. I continued to let a boyfriend-fiance back in on and off for years. They can cry, they can leave you at the alter, they can say they can't live without you and be gone the next day.

This guy isn't even saying any of that-even though it's what you want. Actions speak volumes. Please come to realize that this is what you are going to get. He calls you, you let him back in. You have feelings for him, he leaves. He calls you, you let him back in. You want more and then he leaves. The pattern has been set.

HE DOES IT BECAUSE HE CAN. You let him back and no amount of wishing it different will make him stay. This could go on indefinately and you will always be devastated and consumed by what you want from him. He might even beg for a second chance and you will fall back into the pattern again. You will focus on what you can do or say that will change him into a committed guy.

My heart aches for you. Please focus those needs on being happy with you. Do not settle for less than what you want. Stay away from him. I say this for your own good. I'm wishing I could send you the strength to say NO.

As I said earlier....Thank God I am a lesbian and I do not have to put up with men!

I believe that this is the BEST advice that I have read yet........

Yes, some men can be this cold...It is why men cheat on thier wives..they see a oportunity to get some from someone else and they take it....Statistically speaking the stronger the testosterone levels and and sex drive...the higher the possibilty

You already know.

yes most of the time they are just that low !!

okay sorry to the few men that are nice and want more than sex