I seem to have less tolerance for violence, derogatory language, prejudice, and such.

Does this intolerance for vulgarity come from becoming more educated or increasing age?


Just wondering what people have to say about the topic.

Most likely it is from education and negative personal experiences with these issues. Age alone does not affect these things.

Today people can call anything derogatory, offensive, rude or down right ignorant. As adults, we should hear without all the dressings and flowers. It can be very good for us and sobering in a world where truth is only reserved for the babes. As we build relationships-our initial conversations should change.
Never take it personal!

Okay... not naming names.... the word 'box' was used to refer to a female part on the forums here.

Is this no degrogatory?

To me it turns my stomach.


Violence on television... The brand new show 'flashforward' it was called.. I think. I had to turn it off several times. Not only because my young son was in the room, but because of it's general content.


I do take stuff personally, that I 'consume' or is produced from mass consumption.

A combination of things maybe. I have zero tolerance for violence, I have always been that way. Other things, seems my tolerance level actually increases. Not much gets under my skin anymore.

Derogatory remarks about people, such as the example you gave, make me sick. And, very angry.

That comment wasn't made towards someone, but just a general comment.

I tend to think I have less tolerance as time goes on because I have been bombarded by it. Instead of desensitizing me, it makes me want to squash it like a bug.

Please explain a little more, so I (and other people) can understand a little better.

I saw that post..so I know what your referring to.
I guess for me, it would bother me if the intent was to be mean, the actually verbiage doesn't bother me.

If it was made referring to a woman, any woman, it was towards someone. It would be like me using a racial slur - but not towards any one person in particular. It's not okay.

I didn't see the post, but I'm not sure how referring to a woman as a "box" is not intended to be mean.

Personally I think verbiage is important, because there is context behind it. Yes, the individual didn't mean any ill with the comment, but to me it is degrading to use a term like that, especially in that context. Now I understand this is just my opinion.

And I am not trying to make a fuss about that particular post, just used it as an example.

Perhaps I am more sensitive to it due to negative personal experiences.

I may fall into the same boat.

But I don't think being sensitive... quite sums it up... more like more aware of the underlying context.

I work with mainly men in my job. I deal with men thinking you can't do something, can't use a tape measure, must be someone's secretary, call you honey or sweetie or worse yet, try to hit on you when they are married. They are viewed as just being men and if I make a big deal out of any of it I would be a biotch. We are exposed to so much more through the media that you would think it would sink in. It doesn't. I set them straight. It doesn't mean they won't do it again, but at least I tried.

The same goes for racism in any way, shape or form. My child was called a freak by his principal because of his hairstyle and dress. When someone is in authority and is blatantly misusing his title I will address it, and address it in front of people that matter. I don't let any of it slide anymore because I'm going to let them know that it isn't acceptable. How else will anyone learn?

Maybe I was less likely to speak out when I was younger. That is not the case now. Whether it has to do with education, I can't say. It does have to do with being aware.

I agree. Words are powerful things.

Thanks for explaining and sharing personal examples!

I'm not sure what gives rise to intolerance of ignorance. I'm sure age plays a role in the early going. I was intolerant of ignorance from quite an early age and because of it I became a recluse to avoid it.

Unfortunately I just didn't know how to seek out more mature and intelligent friends. So rather than try, I just withdrew from the guys who lived in my local neigborhood who were always up to no good. I ended up being a loner, which wasn't exactly good either.

Thanks for sharing.