I wanna know what you guys write? Or girls like to read in your inbox that get you to respond? I've tried everything from writing classy lines to funny jokes to poems to plain n simple Hi, how are you? Very rarely you get a reply. I do know girls prolly get tons of messages, especially the cute ones. But you would think they would respond to something.

So Girls write your thoughts, what would you like a guy to say to get you to respond. Or if any of you guys know the secret, tell lol.

Online chat is very different from real life. And its not so much about knowing what a Girl will respond to, but about starting a conversation. Most guys are decent n have manners. But just coz you haven't said what gets a response you are left guessing.

Thanks and keep this post alive !

I will tell you that when I receive an email that looks like a copy and paste...sorry. I prefer to know they took the time to read my profile and mention something about something specific

I think its important to first read a profile before messaging to see if your interests are similar. I tried to be pretty descriptive in my profile about certain things like age limits, personal values, etc...

If someone writes in their profile that they arent into guys that are obsessed with the gym, its probably best not to message them if you have a picture on profile with a bare chest and bulging biceps...

if someone writes that they have children 21 or 22 and therefore are interested in those who are at least 31, its probably best not to message them if you are 24 or 25.

I think the best way to get responses is to pay ATTENTION to what is laid out in that persons profile and be honest with yourself about whether you fit the description of someone they are interested in.

Good luck,,,:)

In my experience, you can pour your heart out in the best letters you could write and only to find it later in the trash can of her. The more women I meet, the less I understand them.

For starter, try hey, hello, what's up, hi. If they won't respond, forget about them. there is no trick involved.

Thanks your posts make alot of sense.

I think first and foremost don't do a copy and paste most of us can see right through it. Big turn off.

What gets my attentions is someone that has read my profile, can mention an interest or two. Let me know what we have in common and go from there.

Big turn offs for me

Hi you are hot wanna chat.
Text talk.
Sexual in emails if I want to be sexual with someone it sure isn't going to be in the cyber world.

Good luck

ya very true dude sometimes girls can be a bit confusing. But I think reading their profile and getting something they mentioned in the message might get their attention. I noticed also if you use their name like Hi Nicole instead of just hi, gets some of them to reply.

If you can't just be yourself and speak from your heart they will see right through ya. Your interest has to be genuine and like yellowrose said, if you don't take the time to read (study) their profile you'll be shot down..... good luck

I write something completely stupid...and it works. Hahaha! That's how I roll.

judging by your profile, you are an attractive young man who took at least a little time to be creative with your profile...you should have no problems if you focus on those with similar interests,,,,

Haha that is so true. Is there like a limit to how long the message should be. Like 1 or 2 lines ? or can it be a paragraph ? coz you don't wanna look needy. lol.

Thanks a lot for your response !

Thanks :)

lol

The content of the email doesn't matter to me. Unless it was blatantly inappriorate. Such as rude sexual comments. I would make decision largely based on the profile and photos.

I don't mind the "How are you" initial emails. However if the subsequent emails were very generic, brief, poorly written etc and he was unable to carry a conversation. Then I would lose interest.

what you type depends on the response you want as well. for example: an email saying "Hi. How are you?"

if I respond I would just say "fine, thank you. How are you?"

if you want more communication (with me at least) say more than that.

Probably a compliment, and something funny or cute
I'd respond to something like that

You must also consider that it's not your fault. It's a big possibility.



Or the person behind the profile is completely different than the real person

Or they aren't really looking

Or they are leading on several men at once and she shuffles men around like playing cards who should be dated.

Seen all of them.

I think the length of a first contact email would depend on the person. I have had emails that grabbed my attention with only a line or two and others that were a couple of paragraphs it depends on the email.

I think the most important thing is to be who you are..

ya Thanks for the advice !