This is the first topic I ever post. I am just wondering though, what I
should do. There's this guy I like from work. We're friends and talk on
the phone on a regular basis. He went on vacation for a week and a half
and got back in Sunday though he didn't go to work till today. We kept
in touch through email. The last time I emailed him was on Sunday, to
tell him I heard that there were some crazy storms in Texas, which is
where he was vacationing, and to wish him a safe return home. Yesterday
he emailed me back with this:

Things are pretty tough right now Sam. To live is to die. It hurts
when you are reminded of this by firsthand experience. Needless to say,
I'm a bit down and out right now. If you should see me at work
tomorrow, no questions please. We'll catch up real soon. I promise
:)Talk to you soon Sam. -B

I replied with this:

I promise, no questions tomorrow. I hope you are coping with whatever it
is that life has hit you with this time. Good night. I would call you
but don't want to impose, so just call me when you can, yah?

At work this morning, I put a card in his mailbox pretty much just
telling him that I hope that whatever it is will get resolved soon. Also
that I wish there were something I could say or do and that if there is
to let me know. He sent me a text during his break, obviously, once he
got it. It read, "Ur too sweet Sam."

Now I am confused as to what, if anything, I should do. I want to talk
to him and be there for him, but don't want to smother him. It bugs to
know that he's going through some tough times which I can't seem to
help, you know? Any suggestions? Sorry to have made this so long?

Men..well most men don't lie to talk about thingsthat trouble
them..especially if thy feel forcedto do it..just let him alone and be
there when he needs to let it all out

Excellent advice, Lady. :)

dont like I meant..sorry

so don't call, email, nothing? Ouch.

nope...he will come to you when hes ready

If you keep trying to talk to him when he isnt ready that will just push
him away

He knows I want him to call me, right? I guess I'll just wait, it is
easier said than done though.

I know the waiting is the worst but be patient with him

you give great advice Lady.

Thank you K

You read his email. what the heck does it mean? did someone die? that's
what it sounds like to me, what the heck? He was suppoused to be gone
for a wedding not some tragic occurence, you know?

Well maybe something badhappened at or after the wedding

yah, i guess. anyhow, thanks for the advice, i'll try to take it. he
gets off work in half an hour. Hopefully he'll call, before the day is
over.

Give him time..hell call

Hi Sam welcome to the site...

the problem with gurls is we say too much & we push them too much.
now look at how much you wrote when he already knows your there for
him. he said No Questions!! what was the purpose of repeating all that
for him to have to read??
When I'm upset about family or what ever I get on here because I know
my friends almost always have a smile for me & i don't have to deal with
the real world for the time.
Now as long as nobody asked, (So how is your Dad doing)then I didn't
have to think about it. no matter what they said wasnt going to change
anything. I know their my friends & care about me & what I'm going thru.
BUT THEY STILL CAN'T CHANGE ANYTHING!

So it's alot better to have somebody jokin or just chattering to me
then trying to comfort me...
1 friend he would come on & say are you ok? or how are you doing?? IF
I just said I'm ok!! then he would start just talk to me tell me whats
up? why won't you talk to me?
&&& by this time I'm doing these racking sobs that I spent 1/2 hr
getting over.. just because he felt like It was all about him...
All your going to do is push him away from you by being so
"CARING"
read your own words!!! sorry I made this so long!!!
well how do you think he felt having to read all that crap when he
asked NO QUESTIONS PLEASE!!!

sorry if that came out hard!!! people just don't think thou.

((((((((((((((((((Catch my buddy)))))))))))))))))))))

Thanks. CatchMe. No, I get it. I am done with it. I know he's not
trippin' not now. I have decided to just wait and see what happens.
Night. (I work night shifts, so it is nap time.)

G'nite & good luck!! he knows your there, just be
cheary for him. send him a silly face, just dont even ask are you
better yet. thou!!! that would make me cry again..

((((((((((((((((((((MsMagic))))))))))))))))))

I sent him a message earlier saying good night and what's your favorite
candy bar. Is that ok?