That's what I said. He totally agreed. He didn't like or even know that she had the letters until I brought it up. But, I could't just sit there while she's yellin at him for one thing and hiding another... I didn't like throwin my friend under the bus like that but I totally disagreed with everything she was doing.

I read once,

when a woman gets cheated on it's the emotional attachment with another that hurts her the most

when a guy gets cheated on it's the physical violation of his territory that hurts the most

maybe not but I read that

Yeah, I've heard women say that too, "Do you love her?" As if him loving her is worse than ****ing her. I guess I must be a weird woman, I don't give a **** if he loved her, if he ****ed her, it's over.

Also, this brings up two of my pet peeves- invasion of privacy and people stupid enough to let someone take naked pics of them- and then break up. If she hadn't been snooping through his computer, she wouldn't have known what was on there. I'm pretty sure he didn't have the ex's crotch shot as the wallpaper or anything, so she had to look pretty hard to find them. I believe in respecting privacy, if I can't trust you and vice versa, there's no point in being together.

Then the naked pics/video thing, not a good idea. I used to have a friend whose bf at the time asked her to let him make a sex tape of the two of them; she was shy so she said no. Ironically they broke up less than 2 months later. I was like, now aren't you glad you didn't let him do it? Can you imagine him passing that tape around to his friends or other people? Ewwwwww.......

I think its even simpler than that. When you love someone(regardless of gender) a betrayal of TRUST is the worst thing they can do.

Yea, she SAYS that she was looking thru his computer to find pictures of his daughter because she was scrapbooking. Which, she does like to scrapbook. However, neither of us believe that's how she found them. She was snooping. No doubt about it.
Oh and I can't say I've never done the nude pics however, my face was never in there soo... I guess it really doesn't matter. Can't prove it was me

I was talking to a friend last night. She was so upset and pissed that she found old pictures of her boyfriends naked ex girlfriend on his computer. They were not sent to him recently, they were back from several years ago when they were dating.
He claims he forgot he even had them. She told him she wanted them deleted, which he did delete them all.
But she constantly accuses him of wanting to cheat. Not that he's cheating, but that he WANTS to cheat.
She kept using those photos as an example, why would he keep those if he didn't want to see other naked woman and still want to sleep with them?
So I asked her... do you have any old love letters from an ex?? She said well yea. I said well there ya go. Same thing. She said no, it's not even close.
My point is that they are both ways to hang on to old memories. Guys in general are more visual and sexual than women are. Women are more empotional.
Guys would keep an old photo of their naked ex and a women might keep an old photo of her and the ex around a campfire cuddling.
To me, the emotion behind it is the same.
So I told her she can't get mad that he had those photos and long as she keeps her old love letters.

And that's about the time she really got pissed