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Topic: Wtf! Help me understand!?!?
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Wed 11/18/09 09:10 PM
Ok. Its been about 2 months apart. I was married 2 years, together for 7. She says she doesn't wanna be with me anymore? But she also has no one else in mind and just doesn't wanna be with me anymore. I don't get it. I work full time. Support her and our 2 year old daughter, we were best friends, went out together on weekends and such, and we just started arguing and bickering and just fell apart from each other. It went on for like 6 months on and off. I can't changed her mind, she can't change her mind. I guess its time to start over and make new friends...... Thoughts anyone?

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Wed 11/18/09 09:13 PM
Why are women so crazy?yawn

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Wed 11/18/09 09:13 PM
She has her eyes on someone she thinks she might like better than YOU,,,or
She HAS someone SHE KNOWS is better than YOU,wink,lol

Or,,,she just realizes YOU BOTH are NOT GOING TO WORK OUT,,,

Thats my take.......drinker drinker :wink:

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Wed 11/18/09 09:13 PM
"I guess its time to start over and make new friends"

You said it right there. Thats the best advice I have. It just seems that you two grew apart.

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Wed 11/18/09 09:27 PM

Ok. Its been about 2 months apart. I was married 2 years, together for 7. She says she doesn't wanna be with me anymore? But she also has no one else in mind and just doesn't wanna be with me anymore. I don't get it. I work full time. Support her and our 2 year old daughter, we were best friends, went out together on weekends and such, and we just started arguing and bickering and just fell apart from each other. It went on for like 6 months on and off. I can't changed her mind, she can't change her mind. I guess its time to start over and make new friends...... Thoughts anyone?


Women are Crazy i guesssurprised

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Wed 11/18/09 09:31 PM
It can be so many reasons and I won't even begin to put crazy ideas in your head, but I will say absence makes the heart grow fonder and maybe giving her space may bring her to realize that you are the man for her. In this time also make some assessments yourself. Get some you time and do some self reflection. You may find the answer to what went wrong better than any of us can tell you. In the mean time have some fun. Not to beat a dead horse, but if its meant to be it'll be. Good luck

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Wed 11/18/09 09:39 PM
Not all women are crazy, that's a generalization and not fair. Are all men liars? No

Anywho, it could be several things. She should give you some kind of reason. If not that makes me wonder.


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Wed 11/18/09 09:46 PM
THERE CAN BE BUT ONE!!!!!!!HER HAPPINESS!!!!!!!drinker





I could never have this happen,,,as I would have done seen it happening and ASKED,,,what?,,,and then talk it through,,,and if she was done with me,,,she's done,,that easy and then move on...
THATS all you can DO...drinker :wink:

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Wed 11/18/09 09:48 PM
as you said....you both fell apart. Sometimes that happens. all you can do is pick yourself up, dust yourself off and keep trucking

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Wed 11/18/09 09:50 PM

Not all women are crazy, that's a generalization and not fair. Are all men liars? No

Anywho, it could be several things. She should give you some kind of reason. If not that makes me wonder.




I agree..not enough information here to even advise...but sounds like some cards aren't on the table!
Good luck...nothing beats good communication!:smile:

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Wed 11/18/09 09:54 PM
Personally, I think she just chose not to tell you there was someone elsewhoa If I were you, I'd respect the fact she decided to go, and move forward yourself:heart: I wish you all the best!!flowers

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Wed 11/18/09 10:09 PM
Your young..I will guess she is also. People change, drift apart. Not everyone who leaves, leaves for another..maybe it's just about her...
I know guys hate to hear that and it really makes no sense to them..seems she has fallen out of love, from what you say.

Best of luck to you flowerforyou

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Wed 11/18/09 10:12 PM

Ok. Its been about 2 months apart. I was married 2 years, together for 7. She says she doesn't wanna be with me anymore? But she also has no one else in mind and just doesn't wanna be with me anymore. I don't get it. I work full time. Support her and our 2 year old daughter, we were best friends, went out together on weekends and such, and we just started arguing and bickering and just fell apart from each other. It went on for like 6 months on and off. I can't changed her mind, she can't change her mind. I guess its time to start over and make new friends...... Thoughts anyone?


I find it hard to believe that she doesn't want someone else. But, it is a possibility, and unless you can prove that she does, then don't wonder about it. Here is the thing. She decided that she didn't want to be with you anymore. You won't change her mind, and in all honesty, why would you want to? If a woman tells me this, then I am just going to ask one time if she is sure about it. If she confirms it, then you must let her go.

Me and my ex argued alot towards the end of our relationship. We brought out the worst in each other, and to tell the truth, neither of us could figure out why. One theory I have is that we just knew that we would not work as a couple, but we kept trying to fix things (even when we knew we couldn't). Some people just are not meant to be together. Perhaps this is what the two of you will come to conclude.

Yeah, if I were you, I would start over. Close the book on this chapter in your life.

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Wed 11/18/09 10:26 PM
She fell out of love.

You will never understand why.

Don't beat yourself up over the issue.

Regroup, reinvent, eliminate your bad vibes and baggage, and move on.

Don’t blame the gender; this is just an example of human nature.

Best of luck to you! flowerforyou

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Wed 11/18/09 11:23 PM
Melody brings up a good point too. You will never understand why she fell out of love. Yeah, she could want someone else, but what I think Melody is referring to is that you will never understand why she fell out of love with you and wanted something else.

One thing I have found that is common in relationships is that when it feels that things are more "work" than just "fun", people tend to look for something to ignite that spark. Most of the time, it is a fling. As I said, we don't know if this is true for her, but I would wager that she felt weighted down when things in the relationship got tougher.

We all know relationships take work, and that if both parties do not put 100% into it, then the relationship is doomed. And, since she is done with you guys' relationship, you just need to accept it, take the time to deal with it, and then carry on.

I will say this too. I have been there my friend. Alot of us have. And, one thing I believe in is that I will meet a woman one day who just takes my breath away. And I want to. I want to feel that way again. And, I believe I will. I have no idea when. But I believe it will happen. And, I hope you will believe this too.

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Wed 11/18/09 11:26 PM
That def sounds like marriage

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Thu 11/19/09 12:05 AM
Reason #653 why marriage is a waste of time and money.

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Thu 11/19/09 12:16 AM
I was married 38 years--If we would have split every time we didn't "get along" we would have never had 2 great kids. And all the good stuff of staying together. I miss my X. Hope the next gal you stay with you marry. might be the knot that binds??? I know, its an old fashioned idea---

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Thu 11/19/09 03:20 AM
Sorry you wasted your time. Find new friends and with luck you'll find the right one.

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Fri 11/20/09 10:40 PM

Ok. Its been about 2 months apart. I was married 2 years, together for 7. She says she doesn't wanna be with me anymore? But she also has no one else in mind and just doesn't wanna be with me anymore. I don't get it. I work full time. Support her and our 2 year old daughter, we were best friends, went out together on weekends and such, and we just started arguing and bickering and just fell apart from each other. It went on for like 6 months on and off. I can't changed her mind, she can't change her mind. I guess its time to start over and make new friends...... Thoughts anyone?
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