I have the outlook that i dont need to be married to be committed to somone. I dont need to stand before a judge or pastor that i dont really know or respect and have them tell me i am committed. once i say i am with you that is it... i will never cheat lie or intentially hurt. I was married once and was not opposed to going through the ceremony in fact it was great. I am not bitter or jaded against ever doing it again... just dont need too... does any one get this....

I was married once, too -- and it scared me off!

Seriously, I really don't see the need for it. It strikes me as a somewhat outmoded, archaic ritual; designed, apparently, for the purpose of seeking approval and validation of others (whether it be society or God or whoever).

I don't need any of that.

And I don't see myself going through it again.

NO. NO. NO. Thank you !!!

the only thing about a legal marriage is the tax breaks, insurance, etc. Then again you could be considered common law (at least in Texas).

I don't feel the need for marriage any more (like when I was young) I can enjoy a committed relationship with someone with out a piece of paper

Yep. Once you sign that paper then things change.

I can't wait to get married!

I agree that the "paper" doesn't seal the deal but in the BIGGER picture, marriage is a commitment. Too many people don't want to commit and it's easier to fly by the seat of their pants. The ceremony of marriage is important; otherwise, people use relationships like revolving doors.

A man who can obligate himself to marriage is THE sexiest man I can image!!!

Unfortunately, there are people that -- once married -- believe things have to change. For example, any behavior or "fun" before marriage has to stop (guys with their buddies, girls dressing in short skirts). I admit these are very basic examples but they are easy to illuminate.

I am one of the people that believe NOTHING should change! I want to marry the man I fell in love with and not some stepford man or husband machine. I'd run screaming if he wanted things to change. If it isn't broke -- don't fix it! Marry and conquer the world!

I never want to breed though.

exactly

Yep, I get it.. and I am sure that there are others that get it too.


However, to me, marriage is just another step in commitment. I will not get married unless I am almost 100% sure that the person is in it for the long haul. Marriage is work and I think some people find that relationships are more easy to break and walk away when things get tough.

Yeah! What she said, but I have already breeded!

the only difference in marriage are the legalities that go with it. Being married doesn't mean commitment. The commitment is in the heart and mind...not the paper.

IMO...marriage is for the benefits that you can get such as tax breaks, insurance, etc

Been there, done that, NEVER doing it again!

I agree ... to a point.
However, just because you said you're commited, doesn't mean you'll actually stay lol
Not that marriage means you will either but it certainly does make you rethink things because it's not as easy to just leave. No you have to do things legally and you have to pay. Soooo... you might not easily just get up and go, or cheat on your spouse. That one will really cost you.
Also, it was mentioned before, taxes and insurance. If you have kids, it's nice to have all of you with the same last name :) but of course, this is getting more and more common to not as many times people have kids from past relationships.
I do feel tho there is a difference between being your wife, and being your girlfriend. Maybe it's just a "status" thing to me, IDK. But I would feel more secure being the wife than the forever girlfriend.

Some people are better to breed than others. I would not be a good mother because I am not interested in "family" stuff or raising kids (or touching them or hearing them ). I applaud people who can be good parents though!

No worries there, I personally think that individuals that recognize parenting isn't their 'thing' is good! It means that you have a good sense of self, better than not knowing self and then breeding!

A marriage license is a business contract. It is one person giving their word that the other person owns half of anything they gain while together and in some places everything you've already gained. It's a good deal if you're poor and can marry someone rich.

Personally I have no use for it.

Melody puts it well. Though, I am not against having kids .

I find it sad that there are so many people that are so bitter toward marriage these days. They seem to assume that just because one marriage went bad for them, that another would go the same way. Not that getting married is my goal right now. But those who are bitter from a previous marriage show that very quickly and it can be a big turn off.

yes forever girlfriend seems bad huh

Some people are fine with it. Some are not. Down the road I would much rather say I've been married for 15 years than well, we've been living together for 14 yeas and together for about 15 years"

I'd marry Melody, but we would have to have 2 seperate rooms to watch football