Yeah both people to have the same commitment and the same idea of how to raise children (if they plan to have any) and how to manage bills and who will do what in the relationship...too often people just dont discuss those issues and then the differences become unbearable because people are not willing to change who they are and often see compromise as doing just that.

My first husband apparently felt at some point that he should live the single life and I should be the only one married,,,,not gonna work

My second just decided that I should take the role of the man in leading and supporting the household while he reserved the right to critique and complain about all of it,,,,also not gonna work

I will be sure, if there is a next time, to talk about the less glamorous facts of life with my partner before thinking we can handle a life long commitment.

yes, they both have swords, and all she has to do is a fast 180 and stab him in the back.

which one is the man?

at my age i see no reason to marry. i'll not be parenting children and my future mate will not need to depend solely on me for her support should we decide to part. i see the need for marriage to protect both parents and especially the children financially in the event of divorce. i think a marriage contract should only be legally enforcable for say twenty years after the last child is born. after that the couple can agree to remain together or part ways. a stay at home mother would of course be entitled to support for a time so that she could persue education for employement but there should be a legal expectation that she eventually would be equally capable of supporting herself on her own. if a couple should decide that they will not have children, marriage is not called for.

interesting of course i disagree

Reason to get married to ensure they have valuable life cover so that you can live to the standard that you expect, it just takes time!! Anna x

Get married because God and The Bible carry significance in your life.


Atheists and agnosts,, I cant really think of a reason other than wanting to do it.

When I fall in love and find the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with I won't need a marriage cerificate to stay with him. I will do it because I love him.

I see no reason to get married unless your religion calls for it.

I only want to get married because eventually, as a couple, we will get sweet senior citizen discounts.

You'll get those even without the marriage certificate.

Reason to get married
TAXES...

I want to marry my best friend and set a christian example for my kids.....but finding that christian man who isnt already taken at this point in his life is the kicker....

gosh am I the only one that considers it an honor to say vows to a man i plan on spending my life with and carrying his last name?

You are not alone. I agree wholeheartedly an honor and a blessing when God is part of the equation(for me anyhow).

Not true. Cause see, if we are married I can get her to put all her belongings in my name, including all monies owed to her. Since I am her husband, and she just happens to have an "accident", I get rich. YAY Me!!!

Cause you know in your heart you can commit to that person for the rest of your life.

Cause you know in your heart you can not commit forever, for what ever reason.

Well dude, if I was a chick, words like that would melt my heart.

Yeah,, some of the folks on these forums really have a way with words,....