I have recently had my heart put in the blender and set on puree. This guy has destroyed me! I even let him know how badly he has hurt me. How do I go on without him? I have not eaten in 5 days, barely sleeping cuz he isnt next to me now and i am not even showering regulaly anymore and that has always been very important to me.

I understand and i won't tell you the pain goes away .I have good days and bad.The days i keep busy are easier.I made friends on here and that helps

Don't know the circumstances but the best advice go out and try your best to do things you enjoy doing, walking, jogging, sitting at the beach and painting, whatever your own interests are, one it distracts you and gives you something to concentrate on other the feeling hurt, and number two you might realize that sometimes it is fun to be single

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its the old advice wich is little help when you feel so bad

but

get busy, even though you dont want to move, you have to fill your time till you pass out exhausted, then do it again until the pain dulls and you`ll probably have a new interest.

but firstly, go get a shower, you smell

Know how u feel its hard when you love someone with all your heart mind and body only to find out they don't feel the same and the pain never goes away but don't be a doormat for him i know its hard but even if you have to fake it for a while act like it doesn't bother you and focus on other things and eventually the pain will dull and you can function again . Don't let him win the whole game

I don't know the details and I dont know if this will help either but, one thing I always tell my daughter is: The one good thing about having one relationship end is that there are so many more men left in this world to choose from. Take the time you need to get over this guy and then have some fun!

I've had my heart broken more times than I care to remember however, it gets easier for me as time goes on because I realize that most people in our lives aren't meant to stay...only a select few. Romeo will come...just gotta finish kissing all these frogs! :)

Everyone will say the same thing, it takes time to heal. And they're right. Lonetar is right, you should shower.........lol

That's pretty sound advice. People have to go on living. No matter the pain, if it lingers, that's self torment.

It's tough when you have a broken heart. You keep thinking that maybe that person you love will come back and you'll work things out. It's easy to dwell on that thought, but using that logic to motivate one's self in life is the way to go.

@Sillygurl77 - Hold your head up. Take care of yourself and when you see him again make sure you are smiling. Strive to love everything you do. When a task seems hard, tackle it with determination. Doing these things might not get him back, but it just may make him regret breaking your heart seeing you at your best and possibly happy with somebody else.

I second that.

Do not worry there is lots of fish in the sea.......

There is some great advice here. You are grieving right now...takes time. Join in the forums. That always helped me a bit

I took the chance and read your profile hun. I will say this, you must first heal and love yourself before you can find someone to help you love again.

I wish you all the best and I agree with Yellowrose. Stay in the forums, you will make friends if nothing else.

You can't let someone else destroy your life. You're important, whether he's there or not. Whether he realizes it or not. I read your profile, so I see you have children. They're more important than him. When you feel yourself getting depressed, remember your children, they deserve a mom who wants to live for them- this means getting a shower, getting dressed, doing whatever household chores need to be done to maintain a proper home, and showing them a strong woman who doesn't let another human being destroy her spirit. I have had my heart broken, so I know how you feel, but you can't let this be your end. You're a lovely person, and I'm sure you're a good person. Never let anyone else be worth more than you are. It's okay to grieve and hurt over what you had and what you lost, but don't let it destroy who you are.

Good luck and heal fast.

I know how you are feeling because I had the same thing happen to me...The hurt really doesn't go away, it only deminishes a little with time

Take a damm shower, eat something, get off your ***, and go find a good man.
Also, if a man is truely interested, he will be your friend first.

I know how you feel... my sympathy is with you...you are so lucky that he isn't your roommate and you still see him every day.. not fun to be strung along either... best of luck to you ... you need to eat even if it's a little bit... this too shall pass and like everyone is telling you there are plenty of fish in the sea...if you get sick from not eating then he wins and you don't want that...