Topic: Creating an issue that doesn't exist...
LadyOfMagic's photo
Sat 11/07/09 01:46 AM





Yet again, humans cease to amaze me. So here I am at work, doing, well, doing whatever it is that a clerk at a convenient store does...when all of a sudden a black female (she made it quite obvious she was "black") comes in with a white male (another thing she seemed to continously point out) whom, and I'm assuming here, were lovers (the main reason I'm assuming is the conversation went from "really good friends" to "my boyfriend"). And through this entire conversation, if one can just imagine a stoner with the "I don't give a ****" look on their face, I stood listening.

About a dozen times throughout this conversation she noted she was "black" and the guy was "white", I guess I was supposed to get up in arms and throw back my head while letting out a howl...well, I didn't, because I don't care.

Why the **** do people seem to have the incessant need to create an issue where one simply does not exist? I understand the whole preconcieved notion that white people don't approve of said relationships, but regardless of me telling this lady multiple times "I don't care", she still seemed to want a different reaction...WTF people...WTF?!

She assumed that YOU cared because most of the world does..from the government to state officials to just regular old joe blow..It is not right and its just plain old stupid for people to be concerned with what goes on in a total strangers bedroom but they are..that's why interracial marriages needed to be legalized and thats why homosexual marriages still haven't been legalized in most places because people DO care what happens behind the four walls of a supposed FREE citizens home.


Interracial marriages are legalized, they're not always approved of, but they are legal....

I know they are legalized NOW..Thats why I said they NEEDED to be(had to be legalized I guess should have said)..They weren't always legal.


Oh yeah, I misunderstood. Definitely.flowerforyou

What bothers me is that the woman acted as if someone was persecuting her before it even happened. I assume people have stared at her and her white bf's in the past so she was anticipating a reaction, and thinking an "offense is the best defense" so to speak. But in my opinion that's stupid; you can't go around just assuming people will be against you, for whatever reason. Reacting to an imagined threat is not only paranoid, it's ignorant, and it makes her into the prejudiced person, not the other way around- she had no idea about the OP's beliefs on race, she made an assumption.

For one thing, interracial relationships have become more prevalent and more socially acceptable in many parts of the world, so pretty soon she won't even have that to base her paranoia on. If you see a black child on tv, it's usually a "mixed" child, and the same goes for black actresses, if you read their bios, most of them aren't "just" black they're made up of other ethnicities, as well. If you watch television and movies, they're making efforts to cast interracial couples, usually without mentioning their differences at all. So some opinions are changing, albeit slowly...

I'm prone to agree with what others have said, for explanations of why she acted paranoid- maybe she was high, or drunk, or providing a diversion while someone else tried to shoplift. Or maybe she's just an idiot who wanted attention. Either way, I still say it looks ignorant to start a fight over a perceived notion, that kind of thing just keeps stereotypes and racism going with no intelligent end in sight.

I'm sure she only acted like that because she is so used to people having an issue with her personal life soooo she does it before they get a chance to..because she knows that even though the world itself is headed into 2010..most..yup I said most..of it's people are still back in 1950's Hicksville,USA.

FearandLoathing's photo
Sat 11/07/09 04:26 AM
Okay, just about everyone is missing the point here...yep, about everyone here.

One; who the hell cares what you do and with who you do it with, as long as you are happy with whatever lifestyle choices you made beit screwed up in other peoples eyes...who cares? Two; I don't live a cookie-cutter life so to speak, I don't care...simple as that and it doesn't get a whole lot more complicated. Don't like my hair, oh well, don't like my personal decisions, it will be harder on you in the long-run. Three; the main reason that I can see as to why racism is so prevalent is that it is a guard, or a defense, it is used when it doesn't need to be and brought up when it is a non-issue...case and point, my situation.

I understand racism is still around, however, every time you come across someone don't bring it up in an offensive light...this is what creates hostility for the most part, feeding ideas typically leads to action so while one person doesn't care (me) there are thousands more that will jump given the opportunity...nothing said, nothing to jump on.

BABCHI's photo
Sat 11/07/09 05:05 AM

Seems to me, she was looking for disapproval in order to pick a fight with someone. I know people like this. Looking for any excuse to pick a fight.



Could this be another answer for PMS?

Boobella's photo
Sat 11/07/09 06:08 AM
Sound if she into drama and just wanted the attention hey look at me ..jmo

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Sat 11/07/09 10:23 AM






Yet again, humans cease to amaze me. So here I am at work, doing, well, doing whatever it is that a clerk at a convenient store does...when all of a sudden a black female (she made it quite obvious she was "black") comes in with a white male (another thing she seemed to continously point out) whom, and I'm assuming here, were lovers (the main reason I'm assuming is the conversation went from "really good friends" to "my boyfriend"). And through this entire conversation, if one can just imagine a stoner with the "I don't give a ****" look on their face, I stood listening.

About a dozen times throughout this conversation she noted she was "black" and the guy was "white", I guess I was supposed to get up in arms and throw back my head while letting out a howl...well, I didn't, because I don't care.

Why the **** do people seem to have the incessant need to create an issue where one simply does not exist? I understand the whole preconcieved notion that white people don't approve of said relationships, but regardless of me telling this lady multiple times "I don't care", she still seemed to want a different reaction...WTF people...WTF?!

She assumed that YOU cared because most of the world does..from the government to state officials to just regular old joe blow..It is not right and its just plain old stupid for people to be concerned with what goes on in a total strangers bedroom but they are..that's why interracial marriages needed to be legalized and thats why homosexual marriages still haven't been legalized in most places because people DO care what happens behind the four walls of a supposed FREE citizens home.


Interracial marriages are legalized, they're not always approved of, but they are legal....

I know they are legalized NOW..Thats why I said they NEEDED to be(had to be legalized I guess should have said)..They weren't always legal.


Oh yeah, I misunderstood. Definitely.flowerforyou

What bothers me is that the woman acted as if someone was persecuting her before it even happened. I assume people have stared at her and her white bf's in the past so she was anticipating a reaction, and thinking an "offense is the best defense" so to speak. But in my opinion that's stupid; you can't go around just assuming people will be against you, for whatever reason. Reacting to an imagined threat is not only paranoid, it's ignorant, and it makes her into the prejudiced person, not the other way around- she had no idea about the OP's beliefs on race, she made an assumption.

For one thing, interracial relationships have become more prevalent and more socially acceptable in many parts of the world, so pretty soon she won't even have that to base her paranoia on. If you see a black child on tv, it's usually a "mixed" child, and the same goes for black actresses, if you read their bios, most of them aren't "just" black they're made up of other ethnicities, as well. If you watch television and movies, they're making efforts to cast interracial couples, usually without mentioning their differences at all. So some opinions are changing, albeit slowly...

I'm prone to agree with what others have said, for explanations of why she acted paranoid- maybe she was high, or drunk, or providing a diversion while someone else tried to shoplift. Or maybe she's just an idiot who wanted attention. Either way, I still say it looks ignorant to start a fight over a perceived notion, that kind of thing just keeps stereotypes and racism going with no intelligent end in sight.

I'm sure she only acted like that because she is so used to people having an issue with her personal life soooo she does it before they get a chance to..because she knows that even though the world itself is headed into 2010..most..yup I said most..of it's people are still back in 1950's Hicksville,USA.


Yes....however, when you do that, you run the risk of making things worse, simply because not everyone cares what other people do. I agree that lots of people care, like that judge who wouldn't marry the IR couple in Louisiana, but to me, he was a meddling idiot. I don't care who dates/marries/screws/breeds whatever with anyone else because it doesn't affect me.

I'm quite sure I'm not the only person who feels this way, I know I'm weird, but I can't be that weird. For her to go around being on the attack before she is even attacked, she's becoming as stupid as the people who treated her like ****. It's the oppressed becoming the oppressor, not a good position to be in.

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Sat 11/07/09 10:25 AM

Sound if she into drama and just wanted the attention hey look at me ..jmo


I agree. Some people are so immature, they need attention no matter what, whether it's negative or positive. It's usually children who do this, but obviously adults do too.

IndnPrncs's photo
Sat 11/07/09 10:30 AM







Yet again, humans cease to amaze me. So here I am at work, doing, well, doing whatever it is that a clerk at a convenient store does...when all of a sudden a black female (she made it quite obvious she was "black") comes in with a white male (another thing she seemed to continously point out) whom, and I'm assuming here, were lovers (the main reason I'm assuming is the conversation went from "really good friends" to "my boyfriend"). And through this entire conversation, if one can just imagine a stoner with the "I don't give a ****" look on their face, I stood listening.

About a dozen times throughout this conversation she noted she was "black" and the guy was "white", I guess I was supposed to get up in arms and throw back my head while letting out a howl...well, I didn't, because I don't care.

Why the **** do people seem to have the incessant need to create an issue where one simply does not exist? I understand the whole preconcieved notion that white people don't approve of said relationships, but regardless of me telling this lady multiple times "I don't care", she still seemed to want a different reaction...WTF people...WTF?!

She assumed that YOU cared because most of the world does..from the government to state officials to just regular old joe blow..It is not right and its just plain old stupid for people to be concerned with what goes on in a total strangers bedroom but they are..that's why interracial marriages needed to be legalized and thats why homosexual marriages still haven't been legalized in most places because people DO care what happens behind the four walls of a supposed FREE citizens home.


Interracial marriages are legalized, they're not always approved of, but they are legal....

I know they are legalized NOW..Thats why I said they NEEDED to be(had to be legalized I guess should have said)..They weren't always legal.


Oh yeah, I misunderstood. Definitely.flowerforyou

What bothers me is that the woman acted as if someone was persecuting her before it even happened. I assume people have stared at her and her white bf's in the past so she was anticipating a reaction, and thinking an "offense is the best defense" so to speak. But in my opinion that's stupid; you can't go around just assuming people will be against you, for whatever reason. Reacting to an imagined threat is not only paranoid, it's ignorant, and it makes her into the prejudiced person, not the other way around- she had no idea about the OP's beliefs on race, she made an assumption.

For one thing, interracial relationships have become more prevalent and more socially acceptable in many parts of the world, so pretty soon she won't even have that to base her paranoia on. If you see a black child on tv, it's usually a "mixed" child, and the same goes for black actresses, if you read their bios, most of them aren't "just" black they're made up of other ethnicities, as well. If you watch television and movies, they're making efforts to cast interracial couples, usually without mentioning their differences at all. So some opinions are changing, albeit slowly...

I'm prone to agree with what others have said, for explanations of why she acted paranoid- maybe she was high, or drunk, or providing a diversion while someone else tried to shoplift. Or maybe she's just an idiot who wanted attention. Either way, I still say it looks ignorant to start a fight over a perceived notion, that kind of thing just keeps stereotypes and racism going with no intelligent end in sight.

I'm sure she only acted like that because she is so used to people having an issue with her personal life soooo she does it before they get a chance to..because she knows that even though the world itself is headed into 2010..most..yup I said most..of it's people are still back in 1950's Hicksville,USA.


Yes....however, when you do that, you run the risk of making things worse, simply because not everyone cares what other people do. I agree that lots of people care, like that judge who wouldn't marry the IR couple in Louisiana, but to me, he was a meddling idiot. I don't care who dates/marries/screws/breeds whatever with anyone else because it doesn't affect me.

I'm quite sure I'm not the only person who feels this way, I know I'm weird, but I can't be that weird. For her to go around being on the attack before she is even attacked, she's becoming as stupid as the people who treated her like ****. It's the oppressed becoming the oppressor, not a good position to be in.



:thumbsup: I agree....

FearandLoathing's photo
Sat 11/07/09 11:32 AM







Yet again, humans cease to amaze me. So here I am at work, doing, well, doing whatever it is that a clerk at a convenient store does...when all of a sudden a black female (she made it quite obvious she was "black") comes in with a white male (another thing she seemed to continously point out) whom, and I'm assuming here, were lovers (the main reason I'm assuming is the conversation went from "really good friends" to "my boyfriend"). And through this entire conversation, if one can just imagine a stoner with the "I don't give a ****" look on their face, I stood listening.

About a dozen times throughout this conversation she noted she was "black" and the guy was "white", I guess I was supposed to get up in arms and throw back my head while letting out a howl...well, I didn't, because I don't care.

Why the **** do people seem to have the incessant need to create an issue where one simply does not exist? I understand the whole preconcieved notion that white people don't approve of said relationships, but regardless of me telling this lady multiple times "I don't care", she still seemed to want a different reaction...WTF people...WTF?!

She assumed that YOU cared because most of the world does..from the government to state officials to just regular old joe blow..It is not right and its just plain old stupid for people to be concerned with what goes on in a total strangers bedroom but they are..that's why interracial marriages needed to be legalized and thats why homosexual marriages still haven't been legalized in most places because people DO care what happens behind the four walls of a supposed FREE citizens home.


Interracial marriages are legalized, they're not always approved of, but they are legal....

I know they are legalized NOW..Thats why I said they NEEDED to be(had to be legalized I guess should have said)..They weren't always legal.


Oh yeah, I misunderstood. Definitely.flowerforyou

What bothers me is that the woman acted as if someone was persecuting her before it even happened. I assume people have stared at her and her white bf's in the past so she was anticipating a reaction, and thinking an "offense is the best defense" so to speak. But in my opinion that's stupid; you can't go around just assuming people will be against you, for whatever reason. Reacting to an imagined threat is not only paranoid, it's ignorant, and it makes her into the prejudiced person, not the other way around- she had no idea about the OP's beliefs on race, she made an assumption.

For one thing, interracial relationships have become more prevalent and more socially acceptable in many parts of the world, so pretty soon she won't even have that to base her paranoia on. If you see a black child on tv, it's usually a "mixed" child, and the same goes for black actresses, if you read their bios, most of them aren't "just" black they're made up of other ethnicities, as well. If you watch television and movies, they're making efforts to cast interracial couples, usually without mentioning their differences at all. So some opinions are changing, albeit slowly...

I'm prone to agree with what others have said, for explanations of why she acted paranoid- maybe she was high, or drunk, or providing a diversion while someone else tried to shoplift. Or maybe she's just an idiot who wanted attention. Either way, I still say it looks ignorant to start a fight over a perceived notion, that kind of thing just keeps stereotypes and racism going with no intelligent end in sight.

I'm sure she only acted like that because she is so used to people having an issue with her personal life soooo she does it before they get a chance to..because she knows that even though the world itself is headed into 2010..most..yup I said most..of it's people are still back in 1950's Hicksville,USA.


Yes....however, when you do that, you run the risk of making things worse, simply because not everyone cares what other people do. I agree that lots of people care, like that judge who wouldn't marry the IR couple in Louisiana, but to me, he was a meddling idiot. I don't care who dates/marries/screws/breeds whatever with anyone else because it doesn't affect me.

I'm quite sure I'm not the only person who feels this way, I know I'm weird, but I can't be that weird. For her to go around being on the attack before she is even attacked, she's becoming as stupid as the people who treated her like ****. It's the oppressed becoming the oppressor, not a good position to be in.


See, she's getting it...

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Sat 11/07/09 11:33 AM








Yet again, humans cease to amaze me. So here I am at work, doing, well, doing whatever it is that a clerk at a convenient store does...when all of a sudden a black female (she made it quite obvious she was "black") comes in with a white male (another thing she seemed to continously point out) whom, and I'm assuming here, were lovers (the main reason I'm assuming is the conversation went from "really good friends" to "my boyfriend"). And through this entire conversation, if one can just imagine a stoner with the "I don't give a ****" look on their face, I stood listening.

About a dozen times throughout this conversation she noted she was "black" and the guy was "white", I guess I was supposed to get up in arms and throw back my head while letting out a howl...well, I didn't, because I don't care.

Why the **** do people seem to have the incessant need to create an issue where one simply does not exist? I understand the whole preconcieved notion that white people don't approve of said relationships, but regardless of me telling this lady multiple times "I don't care", she still seemed to want a different reaction...WTF people...WTF?!

She assumed that YOU cared because most of the world does..from the government to state officials to just regular old joe blow..It is not right and its just plain old stupid for people to be concerned with what goes on in a total strangers bedroom but they are..that's why interracial marriages needed to be legalized and thats why homosexual marriages still haven't been legalized in most places because people DO care what happens behind the four walls of a supposed FREE citizens home.


Interracial marriages are legalized, they're not always approved of, but they are legal....

I know they are legalized NOW..Thats why I said they NEEDED to be(had to be legalized I guess should have said)..They weren't always legal.


Oh yeah, I misunderstood. Definitely.flowerforyou

What bothers me is that the woman acted as if someone was persecuting her before it even happened. I assume people have stared at her and her white bf's in the past so she was anticipating a reaction, and thinking an "offense is the best defense" so to speak. But in my opinion that's stupid; you can't go around just assuming people will be against you, for whatever reason. Reacting to an imagined threat is not only paranoid, it's ignorant, and it makes her into the prejudiced person, not the other way around- she had no idea about the OP's beliefs on race, she made an assumption.

For one thing, interracial relationships have become more prevalent and more socially acceptable in many parts of the world, so pretty soon she won't even have that to base her paranoia on. If you see a black child on tv, it's usually a "mixed" child, and the same goes for black actresses, if you read their bios, most of them aren't "just" black they're made up of other ethnicities, as well. If you watch television and movies, they're making efforts to cast interracial couples, usually without mentioning their differences at all. So some opinions are changing, albeit slowly...

I'm prone to agree with what others have said, for explanations of why she acted paranoid- maybe she was high, or drunk, or providing a diversion while someone else tried to shoplift. Or maybe she's just an idiot who wanted attention. Either way, I still say it looks ignorant to start a fight over a perceived notion, that kind of thing just keeps stereotypes and racism going with no intelligent end in sight.

I'm sure she only acted like that because she is so used to people having an issue with her personal life soooo she does it before they get a chance to..because she knows that even though the world itself is headed into 2010..most..yup I said most..of it's people are still back in 1950's Hicksville,USA.


Yes....however, when you do that, you run the risk of making things worse, simply because not everyone cares what other people do. I agree that lots of people care, like that judge who wouldn't marry the IR couple in Louisiana, but to me, he was a meddling idiot. I don't care who dates/marries/screws/breeds whatever with anyone else because it doesn't affect me.

I'm quite sure I'm not the only person who feels this way, I know I'm weird, but I can't be that weird. For her to go around being on the attack before she is even attacked, she's becoming as stupid as the people who treated her like ****. It's the oppressed becoming the oppressor, not a good position to be in.


See, she's getting it...


I always get it.smooched

Gossipmpm's photo
Sat 11/07/09 11:35 AM
I think Al Sharpton planned the whole thing!!!:heart:

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Sat 11/07/09 11:38 AM

I think Al Sharpton planned the whole thing!!!:heart:


rofl rofl rofl rofl flowerforyou

BonnyMiss's photo
Sat 11/07/09 12:24 PM
She just wanted to show you that she takes cream with her coffee..........

msharmony's photo
Sat 11/07/09 12:29 PM
Yeah, sometimes people want to share the weirdest info with strangers.. It seems it was her approach that offended the OP though.

IF I had a nickel for everytime someone told me about what color eyes their kid or grandkid has because of my daughters eyes,,,,,

FearandLoathing's photo
Sat 11/07/09 01:31 PM

Yeah, sometimes people want to share the weirdest info with strangers.. It seems it was her approach that offended the OP though.

IF I had a nickel for everytime someone told me about what color eyes their kid or grandkid has because of my daughters eyes,,,,,


Didn't offend me, annoyed me...as if I'm blind...

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Sat 11/07/09 01:53 PM
Without reading anything but the first post, people create problems that don't exist for attention. They need attention someway and if they're not getting it, they need to make themselves stand out somehow. It's the "look at me" syndrome. These are the people who thrive on drama.

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Sat 11/07/09 01:56 PM

She just wanted to show you that she takes cream with her coffee..........


could be, i've had guys pull that **** with me more than once, i'm like sooo, who cares?????laugh laugh laugh

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Sat 11/07/09 02:00 PM
Sounds like she was acting crazy to distract you from someone else shoplifting.


That was my first thought too, especially since she made such an issue of it.

krupa's photo
Sat 11/07/09 06:32 PM
Uhhhh Fear....

Could be worse......imagine what that poor snowflake who is f***ing her is having to put up with. THAT is the guy who should be posting up on this thread!

Edy_ca's photo
Sat 11/07/09 07:06 PM

Uhhhh Fear....

Could be worse......imagine what that poor snowflake who is f***ing her is having to put up with. THAT is the guy who should be posting up on this thread!



heh good point

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Sat 11/07/09 07:16 PM
Captain Kirk got along famously with green women