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Topic: Killing Grandma is still an option
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Sun 11/01/09 07:51 AM


Geez,

The four of us - parents, brother and self have sat down and discussed what we want to happen should anything ever happen. It's written, though whether it's valid or not is debatable. It's not that traumatic of an issue. We've got DNR's all over the place.

Just do it!

Regarding living will - the doc told me, there'd have to be a group of 3 doctors to agree that the person was braindead before they'd actually follow the living will anyways.

Hospice - sad to say, in the end, it's how well you can take care of your family, I personally believe. We did not used to dump our elderly or sick in such places. They stayed home and were taken care of by the family. Now, we dump them when it's inconvient.


Maybe some hospice places you know take in terminally ill people.

We didn't "dump" my mother there. She was at my sister's house. Ever other week I would drive over 560 miles and stay a week to help take care of my mother. Hospice provided EVERYTHING she needed to help make the rest of her life as comfortable as possible. We rolled her every two hours so she wouldn't get bed sores, we set our alarms and took shifts, never getting a full nights sleep. Am I complaining, no way, just trying to set the record straight that there are some people out there that do not "dump" their loved ones when they are dying.

God rest your soul ma
6/19/09sad2 :angel:


No government intrusion required.grumble


Your dilligence is commendable. However, I wonder, if you had a dog in such dire circumstances, wouldn't it be considered more kind to put it to sleep? Why can't we be that kind to people?

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Sun 11/01/09 08:05 AM
Edited by peladac on Sun 11/01/09 08:08 AM



Geez,

The four of us - parents, brother and self have sat down and discussed what we want to happen should anything ever happen. It's written, though whether it's valid or not is debatable. It's not that traumatic of an issue. We've got DNR's all over the place.

Just do it!

Regarding living will - the doc told me, there'd have to be a group of 3 doctors to agree that the person was braindead before they'd actually follow the living will anyways.

Hospice - sad to say, in the end, it's how well you can take care of your family, I personally believe. We did not used to dump our elderly or sick in such places. They stayed home and were taken care of by the family. Now, we dump them when it's inconvient.


Maybe some hospice places you know take in terminally ill people.

We didn't "dump" my mother there. She was at my sister's house. Ever other week I would drive over 560 miles and stay a week to help take care of my mother. Hospice provided EVERYTHING she needed to help make the rest of her life as comfortable as possible. We rolled her every two hours so she wouldn't get bed sores, we set our alarms and took shifts, never getting a full nights sleep. Am I complaining, no way, just trying to set the record straight that there are some people out there that do not "dump" their loved ones when they are dying.

God rest your soul ma
6/19/09sad2 :angel:


No government intrusion required.grumble
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Your dilligence is commendable. However, I wonder, if you had a dog in such dire circumstances, wouldn't it be considered more kind to put it to sleep? Why can't we be that kind to people?


I did have a dog in such dire circumstances. Not a good comparison on your part.whoa Ever heard a dog tell you to let it die peacefully or put it to sleep? Not me, my mother told us her wishes, my dog didn't have that option. sheeshslaphead


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