My husband does not want me anymore and it is hard to come to grips with this. He stays out all night and may not come home. Texts his co-worker (female) all types of night and day telling his family that I am just evil and making a mess of his life. Prior to this I was his everything and that was better to him and his child then anyone else. I truly don't understand all marriages have issues, but he is just given up so soon. I am good though. I'm just not understanding how someone would be so strong minded about getting a divorce but not be cheating. We talk and he still wants a divorce can someone tell me why and tell me why I still love him despite how this is going?

I am sorry you are going through this, however, how could any of us tell you the answers to your "Why's?"

We don't know you nor him.

Why would you come to an internet site to ask this question?

Don't you have friends and family? Better yet, mutual friends that can help you through this?

idk???

he loves you, just no "in love" with you



Seems to be a popular reason these days...

I agree

I agree that we can't answer the why's. sometimes a person will never learn the why's of something to their satisfaction.

But sometimes going to strangers is easier than talking to friends or family. I don't like them knowing my personal problems, even though we are close. It's just a thing of mine lol. sometimes it's just getting unbiased opinions from people not emotionally involved

as far as the OP. why would you want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you (for whatever his reasons are)? Loving him still is understandable IMO, because I can't turn love on and off, but I wouldn't be with someone that doesn't want to be with me.

good luck with your situation.

Huh....you love your husband and in profile you are looking for a male for friendship . Is this the new love of 2009 ?!!!.

Generally speaking, from the info. you have given:

It's him, not you. Whatever you say or do, his mind is made up. No amount of begging, reasoning, crying or pleading is going to change it. Don't waste much more time, energy or emotion on "saving" the marriage. Instead, contact a good lawyer.

He is most likely cheating on you, despite what he says to you.

You still love him, because you are the one being rejected. That will go away thru the process of divorce.

It is sad, but probably true.

Good luck.

I am there right now. I am not cheating but I have wanted and asked for a divorce for the past year. Sometimes people find on late in the relationship that they arent as compatible as they once thought.

I have a different situation because my soon to be ex and I never have gotten around to sharing a home, or a life(long story)but I can understand sometimes people are lonely in relationships and need outside communication to keep their sanity.This doesnt mean their is infidelity but it is another sign that it is probably best to split,, if the communication is that dissolved. I couldnt talk to my husband about anything of substance without him flying into attack mode until I finally decided Id just rather not risk trying to talk to him at all. But I still longed for some adult communication.

I dont know why he would make accusations against you, but if he says he wants out,,believe him and believe it is better for both of you to be happy apart than miserable together.

"One and Done"

Deactivated already.