Betty this is why I love you!
You are soooo smart! Ahem, I will slip ya a $20 if you introduce me to the right one

First I will have to find one for myself
But you will be next in line hows that?

Hey what about me ???

Apparently you have to get in line.

I'm staying out of that line for now...
I have found someone totally awesome...and the only fly in the ointment is that he is 6 time zones away


But you do what you have to do...as always..

of course you too Carold...
And Jan 6 times zones away?Are you sure you don't want to get in line?

Betty,
you have powers...I recognize that...
but you are not all-powerful
And He is working for me....

Love yah Jan but me and Betty go way back

Yes Carol we sure do

Then it won't bother you a bit that I don't get in line...
Work your magic, Betty....

My work is never done around here

It's good to have a purpose in life...
keeps you going, it does...

Well Jr when you become a widower than u will see

Wow - I am confused. This forum has really bounced around. I think all men and all women have issues. They both have to work through them and find just the right person who feels and thinks the same. If that changes, then you at least had some good times. There are always two sides to every story. But, it is good that we call all air our feelings on Mingle.

Greeneyes< what is your problem with men.You lastly wished upon jr what seems to bug you most ...being a widower.Now that's just rude..
PLEASE DO NOT GENERALIZE AND PUT ALL MEN IN YOUR CATAGORIY OF SCARED TO TALK ABOUT YOUR PAST.I FOR ONE HAVE NO PROBLEM TALKING TO ANYONE ABOUT ANYTHING.
Being a widow is something that defines who you are and should not be taken lightly.When you find someone who can be open enough to listen or share thoughts on this subject, then more power to the two of you. Till then , be kind to the rest of us.We have done nothing to you. .

rarely do i say that something is impossible but in this case...............

have to be married to become a widower. that ain't happenin.

ah, we do it too mike. threads abound with men blaming women for their lack of success in finding a relationship that works. we all get hung up on such things as our misfortunes being the cause of our plight in life. instead of changing things that we have control over, we often attempt to "wish" a change of things we cannot control like men/women with whom we are having little success. that's my point here. if you're having trouble in the dating game, look within. you can only change your behavior or demeanor. you cannot change the behavior of others.

i just have to wonder why people describe themselves as widowed or divorced. why not just say that you're single? does your past really matter? sure, what happened to your spouse will eventually come up but by then a relationship might already have happened. just a short conversation before such details are mentioned can often make a positive impression. but making a big deal of being a widow or a divorcee is just a form of baggage when it affects your view of the oposite sex and anybody with any intelligence at all will pick up on that baggage. we all say that we carry no baggage but in fact we all do whether it be from our previous relationship or, as is the case here, we carry it from a few unfortunate dates or online chats. as you suggest, generalizing about men/women is the very definition of baggage and nobody is interested in somebody with baggage.

ah, we do it too mike. threads abound with men blaming women for their lack of success in finding a relationship that works. we all get hung up on such things as our misfortunes being the cause of our plight in life. instead of changing things that we have control over, we often attempt to "wish" a change of things we cannot control like men/women with whom we are having little success. that's my point here. if you're having trouble in the dating game, look within. you can only change your behavior or demeanor. you cannot change the behavior of others.


Absolutely!
If we all just took responsibility for our own actions, changed what we do have control over for the better, and stopped blaming others and complaining when we fail.....this world would be a far better place to inhabit. It goes far beyond just dating issues..

Nobody is interested in baggage??? Wait, what if it is a matching set and unscratched?
If we have any age on us at all, then yes we have baggage. I will repeat here what I said when I first came onto Mingles. We need to change and compress until our baggage is only a carryon, and easily left behing if the trip destination is well worth it!
I am just waiting to book the ticket!

Oops...the computer unquoted the quote....

I didn't mean to steal your words, Jr....

With Betty at the front of the line, I know we will only have the cream of the crop looking at this line! Ladies..grab your numbers nowwwwwwwwwwww