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Do you all think it's better to be single than stay in a relationship that is no good for you, even if that includes reasons that the person youre with cant control?
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Do you all think it's better to be single than stay in a relationship that is no good for you, even if that includes reasons that the person youre with cant control? My happiness is of the utmost concern, if I am not happy there is no way I can give anyone else happiness regardless of who they are. I'm better off single right now, could change but not likely soon...I'm happy with myself, suppose you have to be happy with yourself in order to engage in a relationship...but that's just me... |
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Edited by
Calleigh12
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Thu 10/22/09 10:38 PM
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Do you all think it's better to be single than stay in a relationship that is no good for you, even if that includes reasons that the person youre with cant control? You're only responsible for yourself, if the other person has issues, they need to resolve those on their own. You can be supportive, but you shouldn't have to sacrifice your happiness for them. Besides, most people don't appreciate sacrifices anyway, so I don't even bother. As for preferring to be in a crappy relationship over being single, um, no thanks, I don't crave human companionship that much, thank god. |
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Good. I feel less guilty about my breakup now. I broke up with her because she wasnt taking really good care of herself like she said she was going to do, she is in the hospital right now. i do not have the strength or know-how to help her, it was all i could think of to do. i want to be with a woman who can take care of herself and her health problems.
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Good. I feel less guilty about my breakup now. I broke up with her because she wasnt taking really good care of herself like she said she was going to do, she is in the hospital right now. i do not have the strength or know-how to help her, it was all i could think of to do. i want to be with a woman who can take care of herself and her health problems. You did the right thing. |
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They say, turn the other cheek. Well, I only have 4 cheeks to turn, after that, it's game over.
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Edited by
Coldfire25
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Thu 10/22/09 10:55 PM
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Good. I feel less guilty about my breakup now. I broke up with her because she wasnt taking really good care of herself like she said she was going to do, she is in the hospital right now. i do not have the strength or know-how to help her, it was all i could think of to do. i want to be with a woman who can take care of herself and her health problems. You did the right thing. thank you calleigh. i feel alot better now. after the breakup it ate me up inside. i kept on wondering if there was something i couldve done to bring me and her back together again, but i dont know of anything. hurt me alot doin it. thought i was an a*****e. but the more people that tell me i did the right thing, the better i feel. |
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Good. I feel less guilty about my breakup now. I broke up with her because she wasnt taking really good care of herself like she said she was going to do, she is in the hospital right now. i do not have the strength or know-how to help her, it was all i could think of to do. i want to be with a woman who can take care of herself and her health problems. You did the right thing. thank you calleigh. i feel alot better now. after the breakup it ate me up inside. i kept on wondering if there was something i couldve done to bring me and her back together again, but i dont know of anything. hurt me alot doin it. thought i was an *******. but the more people that tell me i did the right thing, the better i feel. No problem. 
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Being in a bad relationship dooms everybody into misery so I see it as a waste. At least single you have and opportunity to meet someone.
If you are finding yourself in a relationship that the people you are picking see screaming as a communication skill then something is not on track there. Something about your posts seems to have a vibe that you can't be successful and that tends to draw people who enjoy kicking people they can easily dominate. If you see you deserve good treatment you have a lot better chance of ignoreing those who won't provide it and attracting the ones who will. Not saying to be egotistical just self respecting. |
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Being in a bad relationship dooms everybody into misery so I see it as a waste. At least single you have and opportunity to meet someone. If you are finding yourself in a relationship that the people you are picking see screaming as a communication skill then something is not on track there. Something about your posts seems to have a vibe that you can't be successful and that tends to draw people who enjoy kicking people they can easily dominate. If you see you deserve good treatment you have a lot better chance of ignoreing those who won't provide it and attracting the ones who will. Not saying to be egotistical just self respecting. i say it like it is, i say it how i feel. im used to getting bad replys, be it online or in person. i never learned how to change myself to everyones liking. |
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Do you all think it's better to be single than stay in a relationship that is no good for you, even if that includes reasons that the person youre with cant control? If the person you are with can't control their life you are not going to be able to either. Lot of times not being able to control your life is just and excuse or a choice to be weak. You have to ask yourself are you enableing bad behavior? |
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Being in a bad relationship dooms everybody into misery so I see it as a waste. At least single you have and opportunity to meet someone. If you are finding yourself in a relationship that the people you are picking see screaming as a communication skill then something is not on track there. Something about your posts seems to have a vibe that you can't be successful and that tends to draw people who enjoy kicking people they can easily dominate. If you see you deserve good treatment you have a lot better chance of ignoreing those who won't provide it and attracting the ones who will. Not saying to be egotistical just self respecting. i say it like it is, i say it how i feel. im used to getting bad replys, be it online or in person. i never learned how to change myself to everyones liking. You don't have change who you are, just think enough of yourself that you don't allow yourself to be used or mistreated, just to be in a relationship. Value yourself over others; people call that selfish, I call it self-love. And as others have said, until you love yourself, you can never truly love anyone else nor can they love you. You took the first step, breaking off a destructive relationship, you should be proud of that. 
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Do you all think it's better to be single than stay in a relationship that is no good for you, even if that includes reasons that the person youre with cant control? If the person you are with can't control their life you are not going to be able to either. Lot of times not being able to control your life is just and excuse or a choice to be weak. You have to ask yourself are you enableing bad behavior? He ended the relationship so he's not enabling bad bahavior; he's helping to put a stop to it. |
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I truely think it is impossible to change yourself to everyones likeing. Probably seeking someone who likes you as you are is going to be more successful.
From what you have added I think you are wise to exit the relationship. And ultimately may have done the most caring and helpful thing you could do by getting her in hospitialization and backing out of a relationship she is not prepared to handle. Wish you better luck elsewhere. |
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Do you all think it's better to be single than stay in a relationship that is no good for you, even if that includes reasons that the person youre with cant control? If the person you are with can't control their life you are not going to be able to either. Lot of times not being able to control your life is just and excuse or a choice to be weak. You have to ask yourself are you enableing bad behavior? He ended the relationship so he's not enabling bad bahavior; he's helping to put a stop to it. eh, either which way, i still dont know what ive learned. guess im hard to catch on like that. i still feel like im right back where ive started. havnt really been with women that long in my life. well, there is one thing ive learned early, not relevant to my latest relationship, and that is ive got to be on my guard for quite a while. my latest relationship went alot more smoother in the beginning than i expected. |
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When the sex goes bad The kissing stops The bad mouthing starts When being near the person starts to hurt  I agree with most of this one.. EXCEPT "when the sex goes bad." In that case, I would say you love the person for the wrong reason, Hell, most 60+year old couples would dissolve. But To me... screaming kills it quick. get it under control or leave. Screaming is neither Love nor respect. |
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Do you all think it's better to be single than stay in a relationship that is no good for you, even if that includes reasons that the person youre with cant control? If the person you are with can't control their life you are not going to be able to either. Lot of times not being able to control your life is just and excuse or a choice to be weak. You have to ask yourself are you enableing bad behavior? He ended the relationship so he's not enabling bad bahavior; he's helping to put a stop to it. eh, either which way, i still dont know what ive learned. guess im hard to catch on like that. i still feel like im right back where ive started. havnt really been with women that long in my life. well, there is one thing ive learned early, not relevant to my latest relationship, and that is ive got to be on my guard for quite a while. my latest relationship went alot more smoother in the beginning than i expected. I'm always on my guard, I learned a long time ago not to trust certain people. It works for me. |
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Do you all think it's better to be single than stay in a relationship that is no good for you, even if that includes reasons that the person youre with cant control? no such thing! if they can't control it.. go find a good doctor that will help her achieve control. If anyone really wants to control it.. they can!! |
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Do you all think it's better to be single than stay in a relationship that is no good for you, even if that includes reasons that the person youre with cant control? If the person you are with can't control their life you are not going to be able to either. Lot of times not being able to control your life is just and excuse or a choice to be weak. You have to ask yourself are you enableing bad behavior? He ended the relationship so he's not enabling bad bahavior; he's helping to put a stop to it. eh, either which way, i still dont know what ive learned. guess im hard to catch on like that. i still feel like im right back where ive started. havnt really been with women that long in my life. well, there is one thing ive learned early, not relevant to my latest relationship, and that is ive got to be on my guard for quite a while. my latest relationship went alot more smoother in the beginning than i expected. Hopefully you have learned what the signs are of a crazy B***H and will choose wiser next time.  
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Do you all think it's better to be single than stay in a relationship that is no good for you, even if that includes reasons that the person youre with cant control? no such thing! if they can't control it.. go find a good doctor that will help her achieve control. If anyone really wants to control it.. they can!! good answer. you know, i cant see the future. i had no idea things were going to get as bad as they did. she may resent me (although i dont think she does, she took the news better than i thought she would) but in my defense when we first got together she told me she was going to start taking better care of herself, and i thought she meant it. what else could i do? as a man with not much experience with women and taking care of others, i thought it best i back out. |
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