so here's a good question to ask yourself periodicaly.
am i taking someone(friends or lover) for granted?
by this i mean do you automaticaly expect them to do things?to know how you feel?(without tellin them), assume things of them? push the limits because you know how much they'll take?get angry if they say no? or just plain get into that indifferent rut?
if the answer is yes to any of those or others you can think of..try doin something unselfish,unexpected and thoughtful for them..just to show your appreciation to them,,,just try it.. you'd be surprised at the outcome of it.

if you feel really honest post your yes or no's maybe the why's
or just read this think about it. and try it out on your own.

i like random acts of kindness myself...
we all take each other for granted, if we're honest....
nice post

Friends, lovers...WTF are those?

I don't have a significant other so I dont' have to worry about all that stuff and it's so nice, I can't stand the pressure of a relationship..

Taking people for granted is sadly something we do best...

nice thought, nice sentiment though...

Me too, random acts I mean, and I do them.

wife, people in your everyday life you care about

Sure I do!!! and He does it to me- but we make it up to each other- we understand each other and how we think so it works

deep down inside we appreciate each other- but sometimes the everyday responsibilities of life take over-

well yeah i expect by the 2nd date she gets on her knees in a bathroom stall at McDonalds to show how much she cares about me



but i ain't going to say nothing to her

Wife, people? Are those like the action figures I shoot off with fireworks?

yes

i am an observer, i watch peoples attitudes,behavior, body language & vocalizations constantly no matter where i go...
i have come to the conclusion that most fights, spats, lovers quarrals ,etc, come mainly from takin each other for granted. go to a mall, grocery store,downtown, and just watch,
you see the dirty looks, hear the sighs, everything.
thats why i post this..
takin each other for granted is a sure way to kill a relationship/friendship

I don't have an SO
I don't think I take my friends for grante
And
I do all the random acts of kindness as possible

Taking people for granted is just not part of my personality

Is not the response to the opposite of what is presumed or presumed as granted has to same effect in what is implied based on the response you wish to conjure or bestow per say the feeling of adequacy. Perhaps is a misconcception with us ( human) in the area of growth per say,. A most given response is based on the emotion which when not understood is given power to make decisions, but if we go beyond the emotions and seek out the virtues which is us and which comprises us then we will know not based on a feeling but on a intellectual insight or power understanding all things and is needful for removing the feeling of inadequacy from another.

or people just plain get over comfortable assume the other already knows so quits relating feelings things grow dull communication is lost then it really goes to hell

read "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel-Ruiz

I think you would enjoy its perception

i am a student of the 4 agreements..read it over three years ago and started tryin to live by it...changed my life

i am a student of the 4 agreements..read it over three years ago and started tryin to live by it...changed my life

always do the best you can
be impecable with your word
dont take anything personal
dont make assumptions

perhaps in order to not quit but yet to understand the other for the sake of the weak may seek to elevate her understanding to another plateau ,embrace the evolution of learning .

u are agreed.