I had a friend come to me today to ask me for a woman’s perspective on this:

"when a woman says you are too nice is that an easy way of saying you are boring or something?"

I replied I don’t seem to have that come up... I actually would love a nice guy to be in my life I attract the insecure, untrusting, jealous types... his response was "why do girls like the bad boys and then act surprised when they get hurt?"

I actually took a bit of offence on his assumptions of that I go for Bad Boys..... And act shocked that they hurt me.. Lol
I simply responded I don’t let anyone get that close anymore to hurt me so that’s not an issue..... But anyways everything was sort of a skewed from his original question and I really couldn’t answer him as for I haven’t used that line before.. or any line I’m too blunt of a girl I will speak my mind and tell you exactly what I think and what I feel...

What is your thoughts on why a woman would tell you are too nice?

It's a nice way to turn someone down.

well thats what I kinda implied but he had a relationship with this girl lol so I thought there might be more to it then this.

Maybe she didn't want to say the real reason she wanted to end the relationship

I met a really nice guy, and I am wondering if maybe he is too nice. Maybe he will be boring. But I will find out tonight and let ya know exactly what it means in my situation.

Be careful about getting your hopes up. Too nice at first can be a red flag sign of a jerk

Oh trust me, I know. I am shocked I even said yes. But when he mentioned steak I had to

You know how I feel about dating

That she was full of poo poo!!!!!

I was working w/ a young photographer yesterday, a fine fellow and ever so handsome. He was so good w/ the getting the children posed. He really cared about how they felt and was just so overtly tender.

I commented that he would be a wonderful boyfriend. He replied that he thought so too, yet was always dumped, time after time.

I was reminded of men in my past that always acquiesced, even deferred, to my leadership and tendency to dominance. It was gentle and good, but always left me wanting for a 'take chargiveness' man. I'd eventually tire of the captain position and retire the post w/ the relationSHIP.

For me, he needs to not only be kind and caring ... He needs to stand up to my strength and be an artful equal. It is a dance, and I think fair-minded, strong people need to see their strength and leadership reflected in their partner. I don't want one that will constantly roll over to 'my way' and never angles for his own. Both must be the captain on my relationShip!

So, I oft' wonder if this is the 'nice guys' ... 'nice gals' plight so frequently questioned?

IMO it could be something like my ex boyfriend (we broke up for different reasons though)

he was what some might call "too nice". he would never decide what to do or when to leave (even if he was dog tired)

it was annoying because he wanted to do whatever I wanted and I had to make all the decisions. he would never stand up to people or anything. I even told him to tell me where he wants to go or when he wants to leave or if I said something he didn't like or agree with...speak up. he never would because he was trying to be nice

Hmmm,,,,?? I would say this if,,,,


I was given a compliment I didnt feel I necessarily deserved from a male. OR I was under the belief the male was allowing himself to be run over by someone else.

Otherwise, I cant think of a situation where I would make that statement. Its hard for anyone to be TOO nice. Thats kind of like being TOO handsome or TOO smart.

Or too horny......

That she is too weak to be brutally honest with the guy...

I personally think that people should just be real... not afraid of hurting someones feelings it hurts so many people not just the person your telling, you as well inside becomes tarnished and weighted being dishonest with someone.

If that person bores you to tears then be bold say so I know it will sting the other person "YES" but at least your not being false and leading them into a new relationship with someone else making the same mistakes possibly or leaving them to always wondering what they did wrong or what really is too nice??

Im so blunt at times that I know its a curse it gets me into trouble alot cause at most times people cant handle the truth they like to have things cushioned over... Im real and speak real and I have high expecationsin my life partner would be and do the same I wish more woman would be strong and do the same.

Oh you mean, to break someone's heart right? But in a nice way...

Blunt is good....

Without saying what the real problem is