I really, really, really have doubts about posting a photo on my profile, despite what several people have written about it. I'm not trying to hide anything, not lazy, not computer illiterate. I don't want anyone in this small rural city to know that I am on a dating site as it really could jeopardize my job (yes, I know it is legal to be here, but things don't always work as they legally should) as well as some other reasons.

I would be happy to provide my websites that have my bio photos on them as I communicate with people in lieu of posting one on my profile, although I realize not having one will cut down on my profile hits.

I added more to my profile to kind of balance the 'no photo' thing. Thoughts?

Scares me to respond to a profile without pictures. How many people do you know, That have mingle in your area.

I actually did a search with my zipcode and there are a surprising amount.

I went a long time with no pic

Didn't really effect my meeting people at all!

It's up to you

And if they saw you on a dating site?

So what?

If being on a public, legal dating site would jeopardize your job then you would have legal action against them for violating your personal privacy rights. Your example you gave is the height of ignorance on their part and "none of their business".

I am sorry you have to agonize over this issue because online dating is supposed to be fun.

I wish you well in your decision. I hope to see your smiling face though!

Thanks - what would happen is that I would be fired in a round about way. Yes, it certainly is ignorance on their part, but there you have it. And I don't have the resources for legal fees and all of that and they know it. I have a 'trusted public position' that would be compromised by being here as it is free access to all ages.

Is there a clause in your employment contract? Are you CIA or some other high security clearance? I obviously don't know your whole situation but someone has but unfair fear into you.

ETA: I just read your reply – my question is answered.

You are in a tough position.

I think I would be talking to a lawyer. Unless you specificlly agreed not to be on line as part of and employment contract that seems like it would be illegal.

Still sounds like an excuse to me. No photo no emails.